Sex Preparations before wedding night
The first intercourse experience between newly wed couples can have long-lasting repercussions in their life. In order to avoid negative consequences it is necessary that careful and serious preparations be undertaken, physically first and mentally second, before any wedding. Most of the wrecked marriages could be pointed out to this fatal night and its lasting sequel.
Millions of couples get wed every day. The vast majority never experienced intercourse, at least one party in the union. It might be a surprise to you to learn that most of the couples have not met before the wedding. At best, they have seen an edited picture of the member supposed to live with, for the rest of their life.
Most of the couples are naive in the matter of intercourse.
If only one member in the couple is a stranger to physical sexual activities then, the other member will be entirely helpless in making the “first night” a satisfactory experience, unless he/she is a top “expert” and managed this feat several times before with other naive partners.
If one of the partner is a practised element, the experience will still be unsatisfactory though the damage will be of lesser long-term consequences. The semi-practiced partner will have the advantage of more self-confidence compared to the totally ignorant partner. Only practice makes perfect, and this idiom applies essentially to sexual intercourse.
Let us be lucid. Most of the younger couples are practically physically virgin, even if they read precise accounts of the intercourse process and the technical modus-operandi.
We need to differentiate between the circumcised male and the one with an “intact penis“.
Male with intact penis must necessarily practice the retraction of the excess flesh and the recovering of the sensible head several times a day, days before the wedding night. If the female partner is not aware of this “affliction” and does not lead her man by holding the penis and inserting it properly, without undue rubbing on pubis hair, then the intercourse will be a total failure and generate pains and unfounded fright for many days. Nothing comes normally without previous preparations.
Watching pornographic videos exacerbates the early love-making attempts: the videos seem real “in the flesh” and in action, but they are the farthest from reality and very misleading.
Are there serious educational videos on intercourse for the newly wed? It would be fantastic if pre-consultation of “how to doing intercourse” be as legal as checking blood type and physical well-being.
Males could have it easier than females since they can hire experienced women to initiate them for in-situ wrapping up experience.
Many couples love the companionship. The sexual part, and principally the intercourse phase, is the least interesting exercise in their mind, at least for one member of the couple. It is wise that one in the couple brings up the truth that the sexual zeal is in second or third order, a rare occurrence: the wrong interpretation is invariably a bad one, and of the most dangerous kind.
For example, am I that disgusting? Am I ugly? Do I smell terrible? What’s wrong with me?
Well, you got wed and now you are wondering “what should I do next to make this courageous decision a success story?”
First principle, and maybe the only one of value for sexual intercourse, is that male is the passive part. The woman should be active and the guiding partner. Many males wait years before they comprehend that a successful, rewarding, and pleasuring intercourse is to sit back and let the woman do the job right. Many women know that they are the one getting the most pleasure of that exercise, but they postpone indefinitely getting the courage to teaching their husband the proper course of taking.
Before you resume the rest of this post, I suggest to the brides to imagine the kinds of story they should undertake as they got the principle down. Now that you have your own story of the proper way to enticing your man to perform intercourse in a very relaxed manner, you may continue reading.
I can figure that most women think that a sexy attire is the first in the list of “must do”. This line of thinking comes with years of training and ruining the family treasury for clothing. Sexy wear is an excellent idea but it is mainly a prompt. The groom and the bride have acquired particular idiosyncracies as to the varieties of sexy cloth.
Once the man comprehends what garment is meant “tonight, there is intercourse!” then the way is clear. The man knows the objective of the evening, he feels relaxed, and can think of ways to be romantic. The main hurdle is crossed once the prompt is clearly defined.
Next, the olfaction sense is King in the limbic system. Thus, both parties have to get clean and smelling fresh. A joint bath is excellent; you rub one another body parts, get relaxed, laugh, and play like kids. By the by, both parties learn the nice smells that they jointly love; the kind of soaps, the perfume… Once this phase is nailed down, things can progress smoothly.
While wearing the sexy gown and then taking a joint bath or shower, make sure the background music is devoid of any lyrics: You don’t want to clutter your thinking brain; focus on what excite the limbic system.
The sense of touch has a direct route to the limbic system, but it has lost its power for men. Women are more endowed with the pleasure of touch: they kept this sense alive from practicing it since childhood. Men don’t get excited by touch; it is mainly to enhancing his mental imagination.
The only “touchy” part in a male is the closest regions of his anus. I get generous and add the genital parts, but this is a manner of increasing male’s ego. I am convinced that when a female touch the genital parts of a man then, it is the imaginative section that is excited; the man think: “Wow, she wants it!” and that is enough for assuring an erection.
Man has to touch his partner everywhere and seriously learn the most efficient exciting parts in his partner: He does not want to bore his partner with lousy time-waster activities when the partner is ready to enjoy.
I suggest to the women to use boldly the largest skin areas in the hands, feet, and thighs; nail and finger touching is to be avoided: man is different from woman in the touch section of the limbic system. The sense of touch is basically atrophied in man and it is fundamentally used to exciting the imaginative sections in the brain.
Good luck in your journey of learning the body of your partner: It might be the initial phase in appreciating companionship and privacy.