Argument Avoidance Techniques: What for?
Posted by: adonis49 on: January 8, 2011
Argument Avoidance Techniques: What for?
Is a friendly conversation supposed to be reduced to an exercise of “I poke you” and you poke me back?
When engaging in a conversation, it is fitting to clear our time schedule, and focus on what is discussed. All kinds of conversations are opportunities to picking up bits of valid information and ideas: It is one of the mechanism of restructuring our models on how we view the world, the surrounding, and dealing with people.
Otherwise, all the ideas and information will be stored in the labyrinth of the memory and not available to be used immediately.
Body language, voices, emotions, and heated arguments are expressions of some form of experiences. Even when we tend to ejaculate truths, we are expressing implicit experiences of society’s “stick and carrot” control mechanisms.
Argumentation is fundamentally a direct means of our need to express our individuality, no matter how… We need to be discovered that we don’t necessarily belong to the agreeing crowd…
Incoherent conversations are expressions of incoherent mind structure, a state of chaotic sentiment related to the topic under discussion.
Argument Avoidance Techniques are ways of imposing our logic for understanding a conversation; thus, we are robbing the talker his right for his own logic and rational system and diminishing our database of diversification on how the mind works.
It is far more exciting and remunerating if we manage, amid incoherences and mind-sets, to asking pertinent questions that would demonstrate our honest disorientation.
Argument Avoidance Techniques are short-term victories that leave bitter tastes after the conversation is over: We were impressing on the other talker that we are “professional” in conversation but not necessarily interested in learning anything on the topic and kind of disrespectful of emotions and subjective ideas.
Most of us are shy engaging in discussions for many reasons.
I was shy for most of my life, and still is very awkward handling discussions: My surrounding was not of the talker type and we barely discussed in the family any worthy topic. Fact is, my ignorance of the world and society and my introvert attitudes were stiff barrier into exposing my ignorance any further; it was better keeping silent so that the audience might be fooled that I am wiser than what I am.
Effectively sharing in a conversation requires practice, a level of learning, and knowledge.
Even asking pertinent question require a good level of knowledge, intelligence, and training. Thus, expecting people to applying “Argument Avoidance Techniques” and keeping a certain control during conversation is robbing us from valuable opportunities coming from people who are knowledgeable but not “verbally intelligent” or trained in confronting audience.
It is not pertinent focusing on diagnosing the structure of the conversation while the topic is ignored or the confused experiences of people are not attended to. We might as well learn to accept the facts “as is” and as they come and then remodelling what we have learned into a valid model that suits our logic and rational mind. A conversation is an oral outlet to another perspective in intelligent thinking, of what is rattling our life and concepts.
Argument Avoidance Techniques are great for introvert people: they initiate them to navigating into unchartered territories and a good training to getting more sociable, openly expressing their ideas (as good as the others’), positions, and emotions.
If you are applying a particular Argument Avoidance Technique that is working for you, do mail it to me. I have found one on notesby.me
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