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When to have great sex? Or How to have great sex?

I have posted many articles on sex and seduction: You might check the category “sex, seduction, love”. I stumbled on a link that is more of the inspirational kind than describing reality. You judge.

notesby.me posted this, titled “When to have great sex”

It goes: “In the animal world males respect females. At least when it comes to sex. Males wait until the female is in heat. She then gives them the signal. They approach. She picks one (or more of the males) And they have great sex (Would skip the great). All the other days of the year, males respect and wait.

Most human males aren’t as courteous. Some are. Males want sex all the time (not sure. Probably many females do).

Sure animal males want sex all the time too (not sure of that proposition, even male cats are not constantly engaged in that exercise) .

Yet, they don’t pressure the females. And believe it or not, although human females can have sex anytime, they too go into, and I’m carefully using the word, ‘heat’ for a few days a month.

Human females concede to the male a lot of times. Because they love the guy. Because they pity him. Because they’re afraid of the consequences. Because they don’t mind. Sure they’ll both have sex. It might feel like rape. It might suck. It might be ok. It might be good. But it won’t be great.

Male? Want great sex? Show some respect. Wait until she gives the signal. She’ll love you for it.

Female? Point your partner to this note. Twitter: @williamchoukeir” End of quote

My comments:

First, our close relatives the monkey-kinds do sex all the time, and many times per day, with many females in the tribes.  Many insects behave the same. Rats too…Is it because the females want sex more often than males?

It is not a matter of respect of the male mammals for the “second sex” that the males are perceived by men in animal documentaries. Males have comprehended that it is useless to force females into copulating…It is hard work chasing after, and receiving bad injuries by forcing the matter.  Large male animals have got to wait, be there all the time, showing urgency, and readiness to satisfy the partner as females are in heat…

Male animals are less agile than females, and they just like to strut and fake combativeness with competitive males…They have trees and other gentler males to do the thing…

Second, animals have not lost their powerful smell indicator: Mankind sense of smell has been deteriorating and they have to rely on their eyes and hearing to get it…Sex for male mankind is more in the brain than in the sensory urgency.

It is not when to have sex, but rather how to have great sex! Great sex in mankind is hard work, time consuming, plenty of foreplay, extremely expensive…And the male genders always pay the price for not understanding that “doing sex” is accepting slavery conditions…

Let us not romanticize the physical sex engagement…It is awfully exorbitant, if you are not mentally ready to pay the price.

Actually, having less than great sex is far more profitable in the long-range: Males can sample the females until he settles down on the one he wants to be her slave…her shadow, kissing the ground where she steps, her dog, her purse…

You want to institute a family with kids? Do it early on as your testosterone level is in the explosive range…

Marriage should be a contract with specific climaxing date, to be renewed if both couple agree for extending the family life…

Note 1https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2009/11/09/king-cobra-may-kill-female-if-rebuffed/

Note 2: You may read this sample post https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2009/11/17/sex-for-a-sufi/

Replies and Responses to TEDxBeirut “Limitation to inspiration” slogan

Three weeks ago, I sent a link to ten speakers at TEDxBeirut, asking for their feedback https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/mostly-a-hoax-from-limitation-to-inspiration-slogan-of-tedxbeirut/.  The first week I received a single reply.  Currently, I have got three more responses.

As promised, I’ll publish the reactions. If you read also the link in the note, you might realize that the late responses were mostly in reaction to the second reactive post “Culture of Contempt...” https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/culture-of-contempt-misplaced-comprehension-of-personal-failure/

(note: I slightly edited responses to fit my style in writing, words in parentheses are mine)

The first to respond promptly was speaker at TEDxBeirut, Ali Jaber. He replied by email: “I very much enjoyed your critical piece. Such critical thinking is required in our Arab World, so we can move ahead. Two thoughts I would like to share with you.

1.  The most oppressive of limitations for the Lebanese expatriates is to realize (achieve) what they aspire to (becoming) abroad, and not in their own country.

2.  Collaboration, listening and turning to others for support, — whether they know you or not — is very important in the creative and liberal process. Creating a collaborative environment around the activities that you endeavor in the land of big egos, increased individualism and egotistical attitudes, is the road less traveled.”

I replied that mankind intelligence evolved because they managed to comprehend the great advantages in trading goods, expertise, and culture…Most of ancient wars were fundamentally meant to “connect by force”, to break barriers: The looting part was merely a catalyst…

Hala Fadel responded with a message on Facebook: “Adonis, thank you for your email via facebook. My email address is halarfadel@gmail.com for future communication. And yes, I feel that I totally fit the slogan: If you listen to my talk, the main point of my story is that I realized we need the right environment to create entrepreneurs. So the limitation is that there was no such environment in the Arab region and that many institutions including the one I started, the MIT Arab Business plan competition, contributed to creating the right environment and now inspires thousands of Arabs to create companies in their region.

I think most of what you picked about me is from my bio, which on purpose does not deliver the message of the TED talk. I feel, from being in contact with many entrepreneurs in this region, every day we have helped them go beyond their limitations and go beyond their aspirations. One of them actually is an Egyptian handicapped person who started a call center in Egypt for handicapped people and for profit.

So yes, you can achieve success whatever challenge you face in life, provided that you are “put in the right environment and you get the viral energy“, which was the message of my talk. I am available to discuss this further if you want, but try to get positive energy from somewhere before, and if you don’t no problem, I have plenty of that and it is contagious! Hala”

My reply to Hala: “you irradiated positive energy: that is why we flock at TEDx events. Journalist Samir Attalah published an article in Al Nahar describing how a blind US citizen of Lebanese origin became a judge…thanks to the proper environment…Read again the article and you might discover that I was not stealing any of your energy…Good work Hala…”

Najat Rizk sent this message on Facebook: “Hi Adonis, please try sending it again: My inbox was full and was out of the country in Benghazi completely disconnected. My email is najat.r@firehorse.me. Thx. I just read your article. I would like to add one comment.  People in modern age are divided in two categories: digital native and digital immigrants. So between generation X and generation Y there’s a big difference.

In Lebanon, the emphasis on the difference between the two is huge. it’s not an excuse to lack of respect but just food for thoughts.”

My reply to Najat: “Thanks for the reply. My article is in my blog adonis49.wordpress.com.  Can you develop further on the two categories of digital people? It might be a good topic for an essay…send reply to adonisbouh@gmail.com”

I am under the impression that war zones attract Najat like magnets. Najat is set for dispaching a more developed answer, and I will glad to re-edit this post, or better, write a special post on this “digital categories”.

Ziad Abi Chaker responded by email: “Actually, your first article inspired a long article/response on my part..but it is still under works. I hope you are not in hurry, coz I like to take my time in such issues and “ferment” them in my mind before I engage in a discussion.  I loved the way you challenged me … but I have recently gotten romantically engaged with someone, so I beg for your understanding that she has priority … Cheers my man…”

I replied that I understand his priority: Pinpoint your strongest passions and go all the way.

I am under the impression that falling in love erase promises of lesser urgency, for long duration.

Note 1: I realized that I should check my messages on Facebook more frequently: My apology for late replies. This habit will change.

Note 2:  If you read this link, you might find out the reasons of the late feedback https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/culture-of-contempt-misplaced-comprehension-of-personal-failure/

On the way to Oslo airport: “God save the Queen”?

The taxi driver is Iranian by origin and he has earned a couple of masters’ degrees in Norway.  The driver is a Norwegian citizen, but he is not complaining for earning a living as a taxi driver. He is saying to the Christian Lebanese lady heading to the airport: “I am respected in this country and I return my respect a hundred fold.  I cannot fathom why men in Islamic States can marry several women and this right is not reciprocated?I am disgusted with fathers and brothers slaughtering daughters and sisters, simply because she is no longer a virgin out of wedlock…”

The driver cannot stop talking, and he resumes: “I am atheist because I refuse to have my mind hijacked by clerics whose job is disseminating abstract concepts of obeying a God who refuses to admit the Gods of other religions…In our Islamic countries, we didn’t harvest but dissensions and hatred from religious teaching…”

The taxi driver loves poetry and Iranian music.  The lady felt free of opening up to this stranger and started whining and complaining of how she is feeling trapped, and how tired she is feeling…  The two individuals are not to meet again, but as she got out of the car at the airport, she couldn’t help but hug the taxi driver…

Note 1:  Do you mind allocating a reasonable budget to entertain a human symbol, with no political power, in order to secure democracy, decency, and cohesion of the people?

Note 2: The story was published in the Lebanese daily Al Nahar by Jumana Haddad.


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