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Are you Familiar with customs, traditions, new trends in your community? Have another look

I received a link, and I am sharing and discussing (I edited slightly, and sentences in parentheses are mine).  You may read my post to comprehend that I am much harsher than this list of displayed complaints

The list looks like a laundry list, though categorized.  Most of the items in customs, culture, traditions, and trends are common around the world, a few are Lebanon based, but we love to revert everything as particularly Lebanese…

Picture By Ralph Hajj ( In Guinness Book of Biggest humus dish?)
Hummus heads

General Facts:

1) On Lebanese society mutually imitates:

– Everybody is observing you and you are observing everybody. (I wish anyone would pay any attention to me, in a positive manner)

– People don’t go out to have a good time: they go out to show the community that they’re having a good time. (Not many people are that happy, even the elite 1% class is in a morose mood)

–  People don’t buy goods because they like them, but because they think other people like them. (A few examples will go a long way. General statements are always wrong!)

Fashion and collective hysteria coincide.

–  Incapacity to keep up with your neighbors’ level of consumption relegates a human being to nothingness or otherness, see Hegel on otherness. (If you stumble on a section of Hegel’s notion of otherness, please forward)

– A Lebanese will go into debt to buy something he doesn’t need in order to impress people he doesn’t like.

2) On this continuing Civil Wars:
–  The (I-have-a-more-expensive-cellular-than-you wars)

– The (I-have-more-SriLankian-maids-than-you wars)

–  The (I-have-a-new-Mercedes wars)

– The (My-Leather-Jacket-is-better-than-yours wars).

3) On Lebanese Contributions to Ethics:

– A Lebanese has the right to break the law if he sees others breaking the law.

– A Lebanese has the right to throw garbage out of a car window if he sees others throwing garbage from a car’s window.

– A Lebanese has the right to smoke in a non-smoking area if he sees others smoking in a non-smoking area.

– A Lebanese knows that it is acceptable to bribe officials when he sees others bribing officials.

– A Lebanese has the right to run a red light if he sees others running a red light.

The Lebanese Constitution:

4) On political trends and traditions

– A politician will always pass power to his eldest son.

– A politician will always give his family members and his staunch supporters government jobs.

– Because of an outside conspiracy, Lebanon has the highest rate of useless public servants in this part of the universe.

– A politician has a duty to enter into conflicts of interest.

– A Lebanese will always vote for a candidate from his village even if he knows that he is a corrupt idiot.

– A Lebanese politician will always promise to fight corruption.

5) On Lebanese Modern Culture:

– Lebanese modern culture is about conformity to Western ideals and the careful removal of every bit of national originality.

– A Lebanese feels superior to other Lebanese if the goods he consumes do not come from Lebanon.

– A Lebanese has an inherent contempt for everything his country produces.

6) On Poverty and the Class System:

– In Lebanese society, contempt for the poor is metaphysical.

– The Lebanese class system is fluid and based on the monetary worth of the individual:

– The Lebanese differentiate themselves very rigidly from those they consider as being part of the lower class.

– In courtship, a Lebanese man will use a woman’s poverty as a bargaining chip.

– A Lebanese woman feels insulted if a poorer man asks her out.

– Lebanese society has a caste system in terms of nationalities: SriLankian maids are somewhere on the bottom level, but slightly above garbage, whereas White Europeans and French are slightly below God.

– A Lebanese will treat a world-renowned Nobel winning Pakistani astrophysicist as garbage, and will kiss the foot of a French imbecile (if he happens to have a nice Parisian accent).

7) On Conspiracy theory:

– Every single wrong in Lebanon is caused by an outside conspiracy.

– A Lebanese is not responsible for the massacres during the civil war, even when he was the one doing the shooting.

– Members of Lebanese society will condemn confessional systems as practiced by other confessions, while cheerfully practicing it with other confessions.

– It is always their fault.

8) On Lebanese Superiority:

8) The Lebanese are superior.

– Did you know that Shakespeare was actually Lebanese? (original name of Sheikh Zbeir)

– Did you know that the Lebanese invented the alphabet, and not those slightly above garbage morons from the Indian sub-continent? (I am not sure on this ejaculation…)

– The Lebanese have an inborn knowledge of every single subject in the universe, including medicine and philosophy.

– Every single Lebanese is a board-certified doctor. Any Lebanese will prescribe you antibiotics, anti-depressant and sleeping pills if you ask them nicely.

– Because of an outside conspiracy, Lebanon has one of the highest rates of medicinal drug addiction in the world.

– A Lebanese becomes a philosopher after he reads “The Prophet” by K. Gibran. “The Prophet” is the second greatest book in history just after the Bible. Did you know that Gibran was Lebanese?

9) On Marriage:

– A Lebanese man will never marry a woman if she is not a virgin.

– A Lebanese woman will never have sex with a man if she thinks that he is “marriage material”. (That is funny but a highly astute sexual tactics)

– All Lebanese wives were virgins before marriage. (The question is never asked anyway).

– The marriage of a woman is the affair of the entire  extended family and of the neighbors, along with the varied pressures.

– An unmarried woman with a Ph.D. is a failure. (So is a man)

Note:  “The UN’s Special Rapporteur on modern-day slavery is urging Lebanon to address the plight of its domestic workers. Gulnara Shahinian recounted conditions of the migrants she met in Lebanon; sexual abuse, contract violations, unfair hours, and domestic servitude regularly punctuated their experiences.

She recognized the measures Lebanon has taken – including establishing a hotline and committee to manage migrant issues – but advised much more direct and responsive legislation to curb migrant mistreatment. Shahinian classified migrants’ legal status as essentially “invisible,” unprotected from the reaches of law.

The absence of meaningful employment standards, regulation, or enforcement practices subjects domestic workers to economic, psychological and physical abuse….”

Is Israel a society or an Army? What this swap of prisoners means at this junction?

Israel first Prime Minister Ben Gurion boasted in 1949: “The secret force of the State of Israel is that this tiny State established a society where the entire people is the Army…”  Since then, Israel never missed an occasion, and more often than not, created occasions to remind the Israelis that they are the army.

Consequently, budgets for the “Defense Forces” and internal security forces have been at steady increase since the recognition in the UN of Israel in 1949 by a single majority vote. Israel strategy, backed by the US and western European States, was to retain the “strongest army in the region, stronger than all combined armies in Egypt, Syria, Jordan, Lebanon…”

Recently, Israel has grabbed many opportunities to “doing it again”: Reminding the Israeli citizens that they ARE the army, and not vice versa.  For example, Israel chief of staff Egal Yadlin said: “Every Israeli civilian is a soldier on leave for 11 months…” Yadlin was reminding the Israeli that every Israeli citizen below the age of 50 is to be a reservist, serving one month a year in the army.  In addition to the three years of forced induction in the armed forces as an Israeli reaches 18 of age.

The current release of kidnapped Israeli soldier Gelaad Shalit (kidnapped in 2006!) in exchange of 1,027 Palestinian prisoners has many political overtone.

First, there are currently over 6,000 Palestinians in Israeli detention camps who were never put on trial or have been legally accused of any wrong doing.  Israel occupation strategy is to round-up all Palestinian youths in order to terrify families and seek to pick up potential informers…Palestinian prisoners have been sustaining a hunger strike for a month, and Israel can no longer afford to feed prisoners who should not have been detained in the first place.  Israel release of so many prisoners is to let the Palestinian Authority deal with the problems of finding jobs to these prisoners, release in mass for good reason in order to sidetrack the Palestinian Authority from focusing on the recognition process…

Second, this “emergency law” has been instituted during the British mandated power in the 1920’s to confront the many civil Palestinian resistance demonstrations and movements.  Israel inherited an emergency law and applied it consistently for over 70 years, while many dictator regimes in the Arab World emulated these colonial emergency laws in the last 40 years.

Actually, British mandated power dispatched 100,000 soldiers in 1936 to quell a mass Palestinian civil unrest that lasted 6 months…The emergency laws were weakly applied on the Zionist terrorist factions headed by Menahim Began…who blew up the David Hotel in Jerusalem(the first terrorist act in the Middle East).

Is applying emergency laws a good indicator of democratic system? Shouldn’t Israel had to revisit these apartheid laws long time ago, if it insists on claiming to be a democracy, surrounded by “seas” of absolute monarchies, dictatorship States, and theocratic States…?

Third, Netanyahu PM said when welcoming Shalit: “An Israeli soldier serves in the army willingly because he is assured that the State will do all in its power to get him back (dead or alive)”  Why Israel failed to strike a deal since 2006?  Political analysts love to give their pieces of thought on the matter: They say it is because Iran had pressured Hamas in Gaza not to reach a resolution during all this period in detention. Iran is loosing its grip on the “Moslem Brotherhood” Hamas since the uprising in Egypt…

Other analysts claim that “Israel is furious of Mahmoud Abbas for submitting a letter to the UN for the recognition of a Palestinian State. Consequently, Israel is strengthening the position of Hamas against the new wave of support to Fateh, the largest faction in the West Bank.  This swap of prisoners will weaken Mahmoud Abbas and encourage Hamas to wrestle with Fateh on political power in the next election.  Israel want the two Palestinian factions to fight it out and thus, give Israel a breathing space to handle the next phase in the recognition of the Palestinian State…

The Israeli citizens are waking up to the frequent political manipulation schemes of the military/industrial complexes for ever higher budgets to the army, regardless of the conditions…The Israeli middle classes have been demonstrating and marching in masses demanding better standard of living in health and education facilities, and particularly affordable renting apartments…Why Israel has to allocate huge budgets for building new colonies in occupied territories, which are to be returned to the Palestinian State, when its citizens cannot find housing in Israel proper?

In the last three decades, Israel successive governments failed to give priority to accommodating affordable housing and focused on liberal capitalist interests for luxury hotels and villas for the richest 1% elite class.

Note 1: Huwaida Arraf, an US/Palestinian activist, reported the following: “This morning Israeli soldiers and settlers attacked Palestinian farmers and volunteers harvesting olives in Jalud, near Nablus (West Bank occupied territories). Palestinian youth activist, Sari Harb reported: There were about 50 of us and we were all picking the olive trees.  All of a sudden, Israeli soldiers started setting land ablaze, and firing bullets and tear gas at us; Jewish settlers came down from the hills. Four Palestinian civilians have reportedly been injured, one with a serious head wound. Approximately 10 dunams of land are now burning…

Note 2: This post was inspired by a piece published in the Lebanese daily Al Nahar by its correspondent in Israel Antoine Shalhat

Reply to “How to have great sex…”

In order to follow the discussion, you might have to read the source of the topic in

Jay replied to my post (with slight editing on my part): “I’d like to assume that you’ve got reason, that you are the gender I think you are. However, based off of your generalizations, I would just like to ask you some questions before I make a statement:
First, What gender are you?

Second, Did you write this essay yourself? (because I’m confused as to its source that you mention among the other links in the piece)
Third, Have you read On the Origin of Species in any amount?”

I answered: “Tell me what On Origine of Species may shed in intelligence as to my gender, and I promise to tell you mine…”

Jay forwarded a developed answer, and I construed that Jay is highly interested in the sex headache. Jay replies goes:

“The Origin (of Species) seems to confound the nature of man by generalizing man and beast in order to readily compare the traits of the two groups. Science and gender studies have since become much more political, which is why your perpetuation of these generalities, although recognized as such, is disturbing. The man described in the essay above does not fit my identity in any way, (“Males want sex all the time”)

Jay resumes: “Parading as an erudite opinion seems fraudulent because there is a lack of scientific basis, with phrases like that women go into heat too; this, despite having writ “I’m carefully using the word”.

“I don’t want be cast as a reader who is “reading too deeply” into an article, or worse, have my comment removed, so I’ll conclude my response by saying that the philosophical component is weakly supported because of this essaywriter’s lack of resources: Claiming opinion as scientifically based is ridiculous, and I may avoid commenting on such lousy articles in the commercial press that we both know are published daily, but blogging is meant to be the epitome of the good qualities of freelance journalism.

However, this article has disappointed me as a person who is curious about the polymath studies of sex. There are some books you could read and it would make the writing significantly better with comparatively little work.

I liked the “second sex” bit, it would be pleasant if you got the Simone de Beauvoir/Jacques Lacan side of the story, too. The writing of this essay shows that the writer has an interest. However, the interest has not been invested with any even shallow research. That, and this is the first of one of your articles I find worthy of replying to; adonis49 fills up my inbox with mostly unread messages, so the sex spin seems to have been a pot-boiler title, in reflection…” End of quote

I promised Jay to reply with an article for the time he invested, and because I didn’t managed to get a handle on which angle he is focusing on.  This article is also meant for readers to send feedback on what Jay means and whether my article fit Jay’s description…

First, I value Spinoza thinking who wrote: “Study the animal Kingdom, but never emulate it”.  We have our mind and we should try to prioritize our strongest passions and act upon them.

Second, I didn’t yet read the voluminous On Origin of Species.  What I do know is that Darwin described all specimen he collected, and it is in the final couple of paragraphs that he hinted that mankind might be linked to the development of other species… I strongly doubt that Jay read this book (contrary to what he is insinuating), though I agree that we should not “confound the nature of man by generalizing man and beast in order to readily compare the traits of the two groups”

Third, “Males want sex all the time”?  “Females want sex all the time?”  These are strange statements in their generality: General statements are “always” wrong or deficient.  Males and females can’t want sex when feeling sick; they don’t feel like having sex most of the day, and in many nights, and in many occasions…I guess wanting is different than actually having sex: Ask all these people (both genders) who spend the best of their youth not having the opportunity to copulate for various reasons…Wanting sex should not mean wanting compassion, close physical touching, smelling, friendly conversation…Wanting sex is such a mout expression: So many factors have to converge in order for copulation to materialize within mankind communities…

Four, as for “reading too deeply” into an article should not be the exercice: An article is not a research thesis, and I refer and quote when necessary. I apologize to Jay for getting confused with parts in the posts are mine or which are others.  Apologizing does not mean that I am wrong, it simply means I am trying to connect and keep the discussion going…I suggest to Jay to re-read the article, and he will be settled of which portions are mine…

Five, I read a large chunk of the “second sex” by Simone de Beauvoir and in the French version, and I wrote a review of what I read. I think that Jay is trying to show his erudition, but he failed to prove it…

Six, that this is the first of my 2,400 articles in 50 categories that Jay “has read” and found it worthy of reply is an honor.  Finally, a humor article generated an excited reaction…Why is it that articles on sex and titles refering to sex generate so many hits?  Is it because both sexes are terribly unsatisfied with the sex exercises and find it stupid and unfulfilling that their curiosity is ever so hightened on that subject matter?

It is alright that Jay feels so strongly about my latest post.  My wish is to locate the part in the article that infuriated him most and inflamed his emotions.  If Jay can just focus on what disturb his “identity” we can discuss it more elaboarately.  Going on tangents is frustrating and not profitable.

Note: I promised Jay to reveal my gender if he explains to me “How the On the Origin of Species” predict the sex.  Jay forgot to deliver in his second reply. All promises are cancelled, until further demonstration of good-will…?




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