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Archive for July 10th, 2012

Get on with your life: The Others far downgrade what you let on…

Frequently, it is not your knowledge that the “others” respect you for: It is your engagement for the knowledge you are interested in disseminating in order to have an impact on social changes…

The more background knowledge, the more holistic is your perception in life, and the more dedicated to improving on your “Self”: How can you influence change if you fail to set the example and reform your shortcoming? People are never that stupid…

Transparency terrifies those who fear to change and improve: They are scared to be discovered for what they let on to be believed…

You are not supposed to know everything, and you don’t have to pretend that you know more than the other normal people. Why should you be constantly on the defensive and think:

  1. What if I don’t know?
  2. What if they don’t respect me?
  3. What if I make a mistake?
  4. What if others find out?
  5. What if they get too close to me?

Fear creates barriers that blunt any breakthrough to influence changes in community behavior and customs.

People are best at telling when “leaders” posture, pretend, play along, and join the façade.

Leaders who participate in fear-driven cultures, positions, ideologies, and political issues are the most dangerous and impotent leaders…

How can you sort out the leaders who are real from those who rely on fear?

Are you inspired to change from their engagement and attitudes?

Are you able to connect with the leader? Most probably the leader lowered his posturing attitude and allowed far greater genuine transparency…

Lean to share stories from your past, occurrences that expresses powerful emotion like joy, fear, pride, or sorrow.

Learn to almost always include optimism, enthusiasm, and confidence when you have to express dark or negative emotion. For example: “I believe we can rise up and overcome this challenge that is keeping me up at night…”

The fear of making mistakes doesn’t prevent mistakes: it destroys progress and growth. John Wooden said, “I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

And how can you navigate the trade-off of how many mistake you should be allowed to make and how serious they should be perceived?

Too many mistakes and you lose credibility. Too few mistakes and you’re dead in the water, you can’t lead. As your priorities keep shifting before any set objectives are achieved, your scattered brain for no patience to dedicated purpose does sap your credibility as a viable leading achiever.

Dan Rockwell mentions 5 ways to get good at mistake making

  1. Don’t make the mistake of letting your mistakes defeat youMaintain momentum and enthusiasm even when you fail. Churchill wisely said, “Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”
  2. Don’t pretend you know when you don’t.Rather than pretending, proclaim your ignorance. Say things like, “I’ve never led a marketing team before but I’m up for the challenge.” Making mistakes is easier if others know you don’t know.
  3. Celebrate your successes and your mistakes. Celebrating mistakes freaks people out and that’s always fun. In addition, stories of your mistakes can be humors, endearing, and most importantly, educational. Finally, explaining a good screw-up before sharing a success prevents you from looking arrogant.
  4. It’s a mistake to run from mistakes. After owning a mistake, begin the next sentence, “Next time …” Eli Siegel observed, “If a mistake is not a stepping stone, it is a mistake.”
  5. Please don’t be a whining, cry baby. You look weak when you make excuses. Andrew V. Mason said: “Admit your errors before someone else exaggerates them.

Everyone wonders, “What if I make a mistake?” The better question is what if you don’t?


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