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Any Art in Public Speaking?

How can you manage to care about the message more than your own personal anxieties?

Are there ways to control your unlimited kinds of anxieties and phobias?

How can you care for the audience varied anxieties, listening to you?

I will develop on these two essential ingredients in public speaking: the message and the audience anxieties. But first:

“I’ve taught so many public speaking courses, worked with numerous speakers and speech-writers, and I don’t know why this has only fully dawned on me today.

Regardless of the amount of work you put into your speech, there is only one ingredient:

Care about the message more than your own personal anxieties. 


While speaking, the internal monologue is usually as follows:

– what should I say next?

– will they like me?

– Am I looking ok?

– Will I forget my next point?

– Will the video work?

– Will people leave during my speech?…

And it is only when you can get out of your own head that you can truly connect with the audience.

How can you do that??

Simple. Learn to CARE about your example!

Care about your main point!

Understand why your audience NEEDS to hear what you have to say.

Realize that the speech isn’t about you (though it is your time in the spotlight!).

Once you get it that the speech is about the idea, then you will shine even more…and the spotlight will adore you for it!” End of Azzi post.

I am not an orator by any stretch of the imagination, and I never have taken courses or practiced oration.

I do know from teaching difficult university students that “caring for the audience anxieties” is the second essential ingredient.

The audience, who came willingly, voluntarily or pressured to attend to your speech and talk, require your full attention.

The audience is not here to confront you or fail you: They do want you to feel confident, relaxed, knowledgeable, and concerned for their presence.

The audience means to empathize with your natural anxieties: They feel how it is to be facing an audience.

The audience at talks is not sitting in a dark enclosure, and you are not an opera singer, an actor in a theater scene, or a fashion model… trying hard to look at a far away faked horizon

You have got to learn to detect concern, to select people in the audience, and engage frank eye contacts, with as many people as your speech last… as if the talk was meant for them…

You are trying to find out the level of interest, understanding, and how to tackle the message from different perspectives

You have got to alter your tactics within the general prepared talk in order to unite with the audience.

The audience is not your enemy.

The audience is your ally and wants you to feel at home, after you have done your due diligence and your homework…

Why Blue-Eyed people are generally attractive?

The color of the hair doesn’t count.

The color of the skin doesn’t count

The softness of the skin does count

The shape of the visage, and form of the body count very much

The odor of the body counts humongously

The friendly felt smile is always welcomed

Why Blue-Eyed people are generally attractive?

Not the very light blue-eyes specimen: I shiver and feel stuck smack in the Arctic…

Why regular blue-eyed individuals are attractive?

These eyes reflect the beauty of nature, the natural environment… And nature is fundamentally lovely, no matter how green, gray, arid, equatorial or desert-like it is…

Regular blue eyes reflect the nice, stylish and well-designed interiors…

Dark eyes have advantages in gloomy, ugly, dirty man-made environment: They don’t reflect the nasty surrounding

You can focus on the dark wide eyes and forget how ugly the places are

You can concentrate on the smiles in the eyes, the soft voices, the intelligent and compassionate dialogue…

Regular blue eyes distract from the person-to person conversation and communication…

Eyes requiring corrective contact lenses are flexible: You select the color pairs of lenses to match the nature of the meeting, and your personal mood…

Warning: Never look straight at a bonfire or any hot flame for more than seconds. Your lenses will melt and you go blind…

I wish that I didn’t need corrective glasses in my childhood, and the hell which ever color my eyes are.

At least I could enjoy team physical games and all kinds of non-limiting outside exercises and excursions…




May 2013

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