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Lebanese Wedding: If can afford it, expect these experiences

Beirut.com posted this May 19, 2014

Grandiose weddings are like a tradition in Lebanon.

They’re the kind of social occasion where everyone’s trying to look their best, talk their finest, and add as many pictures as possible to their Facebook photo album or Instagram account.

But that’s just the surface, here’s what really happens at Lebanese weddings.

1. You arrive in style

2. [Wait for the bride to make her entrance]

3. Kids be like

4. Bride finally walks in

5. Commence table conversations with strangers

6. Your reaction to the tenth “nefrah mennik” (avoiding you) of the evening

7. You spill your drink on someone’s dress

8. All those girls trying to catch the bride’s coveted bouquet

9. The girl who ends up catching the bride’s bouquet be like

10. You get introduced to a relative you never knew existed

11. *Bumps into a cute guest*

12. You’re alone at the table pretending to text

13. You’re talking to a hot guy you just met and all your family members appear out of nowhere

14. What you expect the food to be like

15. What the food is actually like

16. The groom’s mom asks if you’re enjoying the wedding

17. Someone compliments your dress

18. An annoying guest is coming your way

19. All the men decide to pick up and carry the groom

20. Groom be like

21. Someone at the table asks why you’re not eating

22. You’re forced to shake hands with the couple’s family

23. How you think the bride must’ve prepared for the big night

24. Your reaction to everyone’s dancing

25. Zaffe people be like

26. [Photographer comes near you]

 

8 Common Fashion Mistakes Men Make

Dressing for a business or formal setting often becomes a regular part of a guy’s life, and doing it right can improve your long-term job performance, your co-worker’s perception of you, and the chance that you get a promotion or hired for a job that you interview for.

Dressing appropriately and doing it well is one of the little details that many people often overlook and view it as unimportant, but psychological research suggests otherwise.

You get treated better when you dress better.

I recall an instance where I was low on money in my chequing account because I had preset my savings account to withdraw money on that day of the month every month from my chequing account. I was in town for an interview and was wearing a suit and tie. I went to pay for my bus ticket, but to my horror, I had no money in my account!

Three people at the bus terminal witnessed my situation and immediately offered to cover the $5 that I was short for my ticket.

As I’m sure everyone has been short for money at least once in their life, it pays to at least look successful, even though your bank account at that moment might suggest otherwise.

Keeping this in mind, these are the mistakes that I see a lot of guys young and old making when it comes to looking their best.


 

1) Wearing clunky slip-on shoes with a suit.

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Your shoes are the single most important part of your wardrobe.

They are the first contact with the ground and take the most abuse throughout the day. No one item in your wardrobe can elevate your outfit quite like the way a good pair of shoes can.

Unfortunately, due to the prevalence of stores like Aldo and Spring at the mall, most guys default to a pair of clunky, slip-on, square-toed shoes from these places to wear with their suit.

The first problem with doing this is that these shoes look cheap. I understand that many guys just starting out don’t have the most cash to spend on a nice pair of shoes, but if you’re going to invest in one thing, it’s a nice pair of shoes.

Many other places exist aside from the mall that allow you to purchase a nice pair of shoes on the cheap. Try discount stores, eBay, thrift stores, etc…

A cheap suit with good shoes will always look infinitely better than a nice suit with cheap shoes. One of the main reasons for this is that humans can see the quality of leather much easier than suiting material like wool.

If you’re wearing loafers with a suit, make sure it’s in a more casual setting. It’s just an accepted practice that in business or formal settings, your shoes should have laces.  (Are the shoes shown the clunky kinds?)


2) No. Wearing a tie that is a lighter colour than their dress shirt.

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The rule of thumb is that your tie should always be a darker colour than your dress shirt.

  203 It should also never be the same shade of colour that your dress shirt is, even if  it has stripes. While you might think that your shirt and tie “match”, the reason that you wear a tie is to create a visual interesting strip to break up the blocks of colour that your jacket and shirt create, ideally in a colour that compliments them.

The last thing you want to do is make your tie lighter than your shirt because it ruins the visual effect. Same goes for matching your tie too closely to your dress shirt.

The reason this is seen so often is that employees at a lot of low-end menswear stores in such as Moore’s or Tip Top Tailors often dress this way, which gives the false impression that it is correct.

Dress shirts and ties that are sold in a combined package are also guilty of this, so it makes sense that many guys would wear the shirt/tie combo just as it came in the package.


3) No. Wearing a plate buckled belt with their suit.

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If you are dressing formally, a metal plate buckle looks tacky and unprofessional.

A classic buckle is the way to go here. I’d argue that metal plate buckles just look tacky in general and that you should wear a proper buckle with everything from your suit to your jeans, but that’s your preference.

 

 

 

Classic belt buckle with a suit. Always.

 

If you want to be taken seriously in the business/professional world, lose the plate buckle.

Get a black or brown belt to start, but once you get a more diverse wardrobe you can add more colours as you see fit.

 

 

 

 


 

4) Wearing innapropriately coloured socks

White socks with a suit. Rookie mistake

White socks with anything business/formal related is the sign of someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing, and that can send a message to your potential employer that you might not know what you’re doing at your job if you can’t get the basics right.

Wearing the right pair of socks is a lot more important than you think.

 

 

 

 

Fine for the day-to-day, but never for an interview

Socks can provide a flash of personality in an otherwise boring outfit, which stimulates visual interest and can tell people that you have an interesting personality if you’re willing to risk drawing attention to yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

When in a professional setting, match your socks' colour to the colour of your pants.

 

That being said, don’t do this in an interview setting; you’ve already got their attention, no need to distract them. When dressing more professionally, like during an interview, make sure your socks are a similar shade of colour that your pants are.

 

 

 

 


 

5) Tying a tie knot that isn’t the right size.

Merril Hoge: A legend for all the wrong reasons.

 

 

Unless you’re Merril Hoge, you probably can’t pull off a tie knot that is the wrong size for the collar style of your shirt (and even then, Merril gets constantly lambasted for his ridiculously oversized tie knot).

 

 

 

Perfect sized tie knots

Make sure that you tie a four in hand knot for smaller collars, and a half or full-windsor for point and spread collar shirts.

Balance the size of your tie knot with the width of your collar as well as the width of your suit lapels.

A knot that is too large or too small will make your neck area look abnormal, affecting the balance and contrast of your suit and overall look.

 

 

 


 

6) Not removing the inventory tag from their suit jacket.

The inventory tag: remove after purchase.

I see a lot of younger guys making this mistake, mostly because they want to advertise the brand of their suit.

You will find this tag sewn on to the left sleeve of most suiting jackets. The tag is meant to be removed upon purchase of the jacket, and is used for inventory purposes only. Leaving it on there makes you look like a jackass.

 


7) No. Using a tie made of synthetic material like polyester

This one is simple. Polyester just isn’t like silk or wool in the sense that it doesn’t fold and tie that well.

Forming a dimple with your tie is 10x easier with a silk or wool tie, not to mention that they just look better.

Yes, they are a tad bit more expensive, but if that’s a factor, eBay or a thrift store are your friends. Places like Banana Republic or Winner’s also have cheap silk ties in fairly classic colour choices.


8) Believing everything they read in GQ, Esquire, Details, or Men’s Health and taking it as gospel

Nick Wooster: #menswear cult leader, fashion blog photo whore, and fashion clown. Tries way too hard to look good. GQ loves him.

 

These magazines all have an agenda: to sell the clothing that companies who have ads in their magazines make.

The effect that a magazine like GQ can have on recommending a certain brand or product can have is akin to the Oprah effect with books.

Ever wonder why Canada Goose jackets just popped up overnight? GQ ran a feature on them in a 2008 issue – the next year stores everywhere had them stocked.

Raw denim from companies like Nudie and A.P.C. had almost no sales before GQ started recommending them; now they’re commonplace. “Classics” such as Sperry TopSiders and Clark’s Desert Boots also had their heyday in recent years thanks in large part to GQ and similar magazines.

While their in-your-face style of writing comes off as non-argumentative, most people who are experts in the fashion industry largely consider magazines like GQ to be a bit of a joke.

They do offer some solid advice for basics, but a lot of the trendy stuff they push on their readers can be quite absurd sometimes. The whole #menswear movement is a little bit of a cult anyhow.

Stick to what you’re comfortable in, and don’t go changing everything about yourself just because a magazine with “authority” told you to do it. There is a wealth of information online that far surpasses what these magazines can provide.

 

This is why your suits or shirts will never look the same as in a magazine.

Also, never expect your clothes to fit like they do in a GQ photoshoot.

Photoshop works wonders, as does pinning clothing from behind to make it fit more snug on the models.

You don’t have to go out and spend a ton of money to look your best; it’s the little details that make the difference.

(But these details are the most expensive and cost a fortune for a lousy interview that depend on how you look)

Note: The stylist failed to give his suggestions on hats, overcoat… Spend $100 on an item and another $1,000 on another fine expensive item… and pretty soon you have borrowed a fortune for an interview.

Even if you get the job on how you look, you’ll work 5 years so repay the loan.

How about buy a fancy pullover to cover the shirt, tie and belt? Or a great overcoat to cover everything else?

The shoes are the most important items in all that list.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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