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Cheating Experience of a few Lebanese women

I first thought that the topic was “How women cheat on their husbands/boyfriend”. Why it is always how men cheat on girlfriend/wife?

Data have shown that it is the woman who gets bored of her man quickly, and the man is the one who can be faithful throughout a lifetime, if the woman doesn’t deny him a conjugal biological right, once or twice a week.

We asked Lebanese women about their experiences with cheating and found that most of them discovered their partner’s affairs on Facebook.

So if you want to cheat on your significant other, make sure they don’t have a Facebook account, or be a good person and just don’t cheat, whatever.

“After a four-year relationship I found out he and my best friend were getting engaged and that both families were on board. I wasn’t even invited to the engagement!” – Karla, 29.

“My fiancé of two years was going on vacations with his girlfriend the whole time we were together, all as business trips. I found out when he got tagged in a picture on Facebook at what looked like a couples trip and he confessed.” – Anonymous, 33.

“I was always suspicious that my boyfriend would be very secretive with his phone and wouldn’t even let me look through his photos. His best friend eventually told me that he had three girlfriends at the time. We were together for two years.” – Aline, 25.

“I found out my BF of six years was cheating when I saw a Whatsapp message from someone saved as a guy’s name saying how fun last night had been when he was supposed to have been with his mom at the hospital. Anyway, it turns out he saved many girls’ names under guy names and had been cheating for many years.” – Mira, 34.

“I guessed the passcode on his phone, which was 6969 by the way, and went through all his messages. He was constantly messaging another girl the whole time we were together.” – Paola, 28.

“My BF went for a semester abroad in France and I planned a huge trip to surprise him on his birthday. I got his address from one of our friends who was with him in university and when I arrived to surprise him, a girl opened the door. Apparently, she had been living there the whole time as his GF.” – Sara, 24.

“I found out when I got Chlamydia and confronted him! I told him the doctor could tell if he gave it to me or not and he just confessed to everything like a dumbass.” – Anonymous, 27.

“He had his new GF message me on Facebook saying that they had been together for a year and were planning on getting engaged.” – Anonymous, 24.

“My parents were out to dinner and saw him with another girl. First they thought it was his sister, but then he kissed her. So yeah, that was humiliating.” – Anonymous, 29.

“I made a fake Facebook account and messaged him from it. He immediately started asking me for naked pics and asking to meet up.” – Deena, 26.

“I was having a drink with my boyfriend of two years when two women walk into the bar. He then proceeds to introduce them as his wife and daughter.” – Anonymous, 25.

Jeanine Fakhoury,  and Patsy Z shared this link on FB  .

We asked Lebanese women about their experiences with cheating and the answers are every bit as TERRIFYING as you could possibly imagine.

“I was having a drink with my boyfriend of two years when two women walk into the bar. He then proceeds to introduce them as his wife and daughter.”

So if you want to cheat on your significant other, make sure they don’t have a Facebook account, or be a good person and just don’t cheat, whatever.



Master muddler: Buster of our internet and telecommunication system

The fibre optics lines have been installed a few years ago, and yet these lines are waiting for this idiot to connect them.

Abdel Moneim Youssef is not your average public servant. If there is one compelling impression from meeting him in person, it is that there is much more to him than meets the eye.

(He is such an idiot that he enjoys playing the game?)

In this sense, his office at the Ministry of Telecommunications is  confusingly unrevealing: large but functional, not overtly more guarded than the premises of other Grade 1 national officials, and adorned with memorabilia — fittingly in his case, blown-up images of historic Lebanese phone cards decorate the spacious waiting area.

 posted in Executive this April 7, 2015

But the bureaucrat has certain attributes that pit him as quite exceptional for a public servant.

For one, he singlehandedly holds a tremendous amount of power over the telecommunications sector.

He is at once director general of operations and maintenance at the Ministry of Telecommunications and chair–general manager of state owned fixed line operator Ogero (private company belonging to the Hariri clan), which acts as an internet service provider while simultaneously being responsible for selling international capacity to the private sector.

The man is also incredibly elusive.  (What can he says? “I am working for the Hariri clan who wants to buy this public institution for cheap?”)

Reaching Youssef required going through specific channels that are not usually required for journalists to meet public servants.

Then, there are the opinions people hold of him.

Everybody involved with telecommunications in Lebanon seems to have one.

Some view him as highly self interested, others regard him as no different from any other government employee — and some of those in the know even provided Executive with two conflicting views, describing him as “extremely smart and charming if he wants to be,” but also going as far as alleging that he must be “a maniac” or have a “crazy conspiracy theory” — speaking on condition of anonymity, of course. 

But for anything telecom sector related, Youssef is the go-to person.

He is Mr. X as Executive termed the theoretical, all knowing, unknown telecoms guru.

He is the one who should be able to answer basic questions on the minds of the Lebanese.

Questions such as:

1.  Why has the new fiber optic internet backbone not been turned on yet?

2. Why isn’t Ogero granting international capacity to private sector ISPs?

3. Why is our internet so slow and expensive?

Before Executive encountered Youssef, we were told he had a knack for derailing a topic by either losing his interlocutors in details or with his charming personality.

Sitting down with him, it quickly became clear that he was not going to give us any information — much less a straight, serious answer.

Youssef can talk, knows how to waste time and is a master of deflecting inconvenient questions.

Besides not allowing recording equipment, Youssef would craft his answers in a way to not only avoid the topic, but also be unspecific to the point of making generalization into an art form.

 When asked why the new fiber optic network contracted in 2011 — which now connects the bulk of the central offices in Lebanon as well as many of the country’s heavy users such as universities and hospitals — has not been turned on, Youssef immediately retorted on the semantics, not the substance, of our question.

‘Heavy users’ is a meaningless term, he shot back, embarking on a diatribe arguing that the term was “not even a word.” If you look up ‘heavy users’ on Google, he said, it would yield no results. He went further to say that ‘heavy users’ was only a term used by people in Lebanon, to describe a concept that does not exist in the rest of the world’s parlance.

Executive of course does not know when Youssef last googled the term, but we can confirm that a March 2015 search yields high level international technical sources as using the term ‘heavy users’ in important discussions — such as the net neutrality debate — and for considerable time in exactly the same way in which it was entailed in the question posed to him.

To a question about why our new, state of the art fiber optic backbone had not yet been switched on to carry data traffic, Youssef retorted with an ill informed rebuttal about heavy users.

The question remained unanswered, but Youssef’s response served a purpose: the longer the talk about definitions, the more time Youssef won as the clock counted down to 6 p.m., when he informed us he had another meeting.

At a certain point in the interview — and though his English appeared highly adequate for claiming knowledge on the appropriateness of the technical terms he disputed — Youssef became apologetic about his poor command of the language, excusing himself, in English, as having been “French educated” and switched to arguing in French from that point on.

“What’s the relation between internet and fiber optic?”

There are many strategies to waste time through talking, but it is an art to talk for 40 minutes and provide answers that are as far from clear as they are far from being quotable, in the sense of saying anything of informative value.

“What’s the relation between internet and fiber optic?” he barked at Executive when once more pressed for an answer as to why the fiber wasn’t turned on.

The discussion ascended to heights usually reserved to the performances of the Théâtre de l’Absurde as Youssef advanced to question the premise of a newly existing fiber optic network by asking us how we were sure it was really there.

The question was surprising, given that the network had been budgeted, tendered and indeed installed according to various statements given to Executive by telecommunications consultants, private sector contractors and vendors who had worked on the project — and notably, by advisors to the Ministry of Telecommunications.

Taking a somewhat contradictory position to the gauntlet just thrown that was perhaps worthy of a Camus essay, Youssef then went on to assert that of course we have fiber optic internet.

But this statement is too vague to be understood as a claim that the new network is indeed on, as Lebanon does have an older fiber optic network built over a decade ago that links 5 central offices together, which we understand is in operation.

This network was originally built only to carry Ogero’s internal traffic, and was not meant to be used as a wide area network as it is used now, to carry internet traffic.

When speaking, it is very common for one to forget to be precise and qualify what is being discussed, so any potential misunderstandings can generally be clarified through merely asking a simple follow up question. When pressed for a more specific answer, as in whether Youssef was referring to this older network, or if he was claiming that the new network was, indeed, turned on, he exploded.

The bone of contention appeared to be that Executive had called the fiber optic network “old,” or as he reworded it, “ancient.”

He thus addressed this supposed question of network longevity — which Executive had not asked and not intended to ask — with a discourse on how fiber optic cables have a very long lifespan.

Indeed, fiber optic cabling, provided it is properly insulated under the ground, is essentially good forever.

Yet when it comes to being able to carry an entire country’s capacity, no matter how long it physically lasts, it will not be able to carry traffic it was not designed for.

Youssef added that the older fiber that was built from 1994 to 2000 is only being used at 35% of its capacity.

(So why not making good use of the overwhelming remaining unused capacity?)

But in an attempt to revert back to the matter of whether Youssef was actually claiming that the new network was off or if his claims were just stating vague facts in order to confuse, Executive asked him if he had signed any documents approving the activation of the newer network.

He responded saying that he signed papers for fiber optic cables “every day.”

Again, it is unclear whether this means that Youssef signs papers approving some kind of fiber optic related work or if he was indeed claiming that he had signed papers approving turning on sections of the new network.

To close the discussion, he invited Executive to call up all of our sources and tell them they were wrong.

“They are completely ignorant,” he said.

Every source we had cited in our interview — the advisors to the Ministry of Telecommunications, the consultants, the internet services providers — were implied. All of them (are ignorant?).

After we dismissed some ideas implied by our interviewee — such as buying shovels and digging trenches to check for the presence of cables, or calling respected experts to insult them — the net gain of 40 minutes’ exposure to Youssef’s mastery in haranguing was thin.

What we learned was that the questions we were asking, for some reason, were questions that Youssef did not want to answer.

If there is one thing Youssef can be congratulated for, it is his prowess in semantics.

Not unsimilar to the style of long, colorful discourses of thesis and antithesis that are preached by certain prestigious schools in Paris in order for their students to succeed in oral presentations, Youssef can talk.

While we leave him with new appreciation of how one can use this talent in a top public administrative position, we can only speculate as to how this public servant uses this ability for the greater good of national telecommunications.

What we no longer wonder about is his charm, or that he knows what he is doing.

As he shakes hands with Executive before ushering us out of the door, smiling, he apologizes for being so “disagreeable.”

Note 1: Charbel Nahas  (former communication minister) shared this link on FB this April 12, 2015 

عبد المنعم يوسف يخطف شبكة الألياف الضوئية التي تم تلزيمها خلال تولي شربل نحاس وزارة الاتصالات
ويمنع اللبنانيين من الاستفادة منها
وهي تربط كل سنترالات لبنان وتصل مباشرة إلى مئات المؤسسات التي تستخدم الإنترنت بكثافة (إدارات، مؤسسات إعلامية وصحافية، تلفزيونات، موزعو إنترنت، جامعات…)

Abdel Moneim Youssef is not your average public servant.
Executive got to meet him for 40 minutes, and the least we can say, it was a bewildering encounter.

How’s your Talent for enjoying life? Your right to pursue Happiness?

A few times I’m asked: What kinds of music you like to listen to? My answer is invariably: I don’t know.

It’s not that I don’t listen to music, all kinds of music.

I love documentaries on music bands and the history of the various kinds of music, including classical music and composers.

I tend to hop, dance and clap when I hear a music that I like.

The problem is, if the environment (people and surrounding) is not conducive to talking and listening to music, then I lack the talent to pick up and register what the environment is sending as signals, hints and rhythms.

I do lack this imaginative and sensitive sort of memory that is triggered by music.

Are you hungry? Yes. What do you like to eat? My answer is: I don’t know. I’m Not picky and can eat anything you order…

It’s not that I have no tasty buds or that I love to eat and I tried all kinds of cuisines, West and East.

The problem is that I lack the talent to retrieve from my taste bud memory what I love to eat at the time of the question.

Are you thirsty? Yes. What do you like to drink? My answer is: I don’t know. I can drink anything you order. You don’t have to fret on my account…

The problem is that I lack the talent to retrieve my alcohol-induced memory for what I feel like drinking now.

This is not restricted to alcoholic drinks.

Do you want tea, coffee, Nescafe, milk… I don’t know. Don’t bother on my account. I drink what you feel like drinking.

Probably my mental capacity feels lazy to invest the necessary effort to give a definitive answer that is appropriate to the environment.

I used to blame conditions, situations, circumstances … for my deficiency in enjoying life. I got it all wrong.

Don’t get me wrong: I like to be entertained, dance, go to concerts, have adventures….

The problem is that I had to come to term that the problem is Me.

I don’t have it this talent to enjoy life.

How you were brought up and your living conditions play a mighty catalyst in increasing the quality of your joy for living, but they are not the main factors.

The main factor is: Have you got the talent to enjoy life? Yes? No?

I feel hurt when I get to know people who are in the same boat as me: they lack this talent to enjoy life.

It has nothing to do with genders, wealth, color of skin, cultural differences…

It is strictly an individual quality, a mix of characteristics and talents that distinguish you from the rest of the lame and sad people.

You can be born in a filthy rich family and not know how to enjoy life.

You can be born in a family living in a wretched neighbourhood, and yet you know how to enjoy your life to the hilt.

I had a varied childhood in conditions and situations, with plenty of varied opportunities to learn how to enjoy life: And yet, my childhood passed me by.

I had a youth with multiple fantastic opportunities to learn how to enjoy my life, and youth passed me by.

Opportunities add dimensions to the quality of life enjoyment, if you got the talent.

What is most essential is: Have you been trained as a child to enjoy life, all the artistic facets that enrich the quality of life enjoyment?

Proper Nurturing  at an early age is the key factor to set you free from the lot of the lame ands sad people.

You hear a wife saying of her husband: He is a contented man. He never complains or demand of much any thing… He maybe a jovial person in his demeanor, but deep inside he still has no clue what to demand.

You hear a mother saying: I had no trouble raising this child… This child never learned what it is to enjoy life in order to ask and demand for more of what he is experiencing.

And I cannot help wondering:

People who were born in an environment (family and culture) that stump the talent for enjoying life, who were robbed from this nurturing zest for life, have no reason to live.

And the family has no right to give them birth: Abort all of them.

This situation is totally unfair.

This is the worst kind of crimes against human rights: Murdering the right of pursuit to happiness in the bud.

Have you got the talent to enjoy life? Yes? No?




April 2015

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