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A trip to Mount Hermon (Jabal Sheikh)

الطريق الى جبل الشيخ مرسومٌ بالوان الربيع وجبال الثلج … نمر في عاليه وبعلشميه وبحمدون وصوفر ثم نعبر ممرات المديرج وضهر البيدر لنطل على سهل البقاع والسلسلة الشرقية من جبال لبنان ، فتظهر علينا قمم متواصلة مكللة بالثلوج وفي نهايتها عند حدود السماء يتربع جبل الشيخ بكل مهابته ووقاره ملتفاً بثوبه الابيض الذي لا يضاهيه سوى وصف ثياب السيد المسيح عندما تجلّى على هذا الجبل امام تلاميذه كما يروي الانجيل .
نمرُّ قرب بوارج ونرمي التحية الى الذين كانوا هنا وقاتلوا سنوات طويلة في مواجهة الاخطار ، وقبل ان نصل الى المريجات نأخذ استراحةً وفنجان قهوة عند صديقي نادر ، ثم نتابع ونعبر في جديتا ومكسة وذكريات لنا هنا لنصل بعدها الى قب الياس وتتوالى الصور الطبيعية الرائعة خصوصاً عندما نمر بمحاذاة ” مستنقعات عمّيق “وهي محمية طبيعية يؤمّها خبراء البيئة وعلماء الحياة البرية لما فيها من نباتات خاصة وطيور مهاجرة تأتي اليها في فترة معينة من كل سنة . بعدها تبدأ كروم العنب وفيها تصطف شجرات الكرمة صفوفاً بديعة الترتيب وعلى كل واحد منها اسم القصر او الكهف الذي يصنع منها الخمر والنبيذ غير المحرّم.
على يميننا تشير علامات الطرق الى مزار ” الست شعوانة ” و”دير طحنيش” وعلى اليسار قرية تل دنوب والمنصورة ولنا فيها رفاق واحبة واصدقاء مر زمنٌ طويلٌ ولم نلتقيهم .
بعد ذلك نمر في ” عانا ” ومن اسمها تعرفون انها قرية قديمة آرامية يقع اسمها ما بين لفظة ” قانا ” ولفظة ” عنّايا ” ولها قرية شقيقة تحمل الاسم نفسه في فلسطين لعلها قرية ” اليعازر” الصديق .هنا تخبرنا الصنوبرات الجميلة عن ايام المخيمات الصيفية وكم مر فيها وتحت ظلالها من اشبال وزهرات تربوا على النظام والمبادئ ثم خرجوا الى الحياة وسافروا الى كل العالم .
في كفريا تتلاقى الطرق الذاهبة الى الشوف او صغبين والبحيرة ومشغرة وتلك الذاهبة الى “جب جنّين ” … ولا يطول بنا الوقت حتى نطلَ على سد القرعون وننحرف منه الى سحمر القلعة الصامدة ، ونعبر من ” وادي مشق” نحو مجدل بلهيص التي حكيت لكم عنها عدة مرات وكنا فيها في مثل هذه الايام من سنة 2014 .. يومها كتبت انني عندما غادرتها كنت افكر فيما اذا كنت ساعود الى هذه المنطقة يوما ما وها قد عدت …
في كفرمشكي ينتظرنا الامين ابو علي جرجي ، وممنوع علينا ان نمر دون ان نزوره ونتغدى عنده فهذا البيت هو بيتنا ولنا فيه ذكريات من ايام النضال الطويلة . في بلادنا بيوت لا تغلق ابوابها ولا تنام الا على هم الوطن وفرح النضال ، ونسال عن الجميع اين هم وما اخبارهم ، اين سناء وهلا ونجاح ومخايل والناس الطيبين ، الذين كنا نلتقيهم وقد اخذتهم الغربة الى القارات البعيدة .
لا يطول بنا المقام فنغادر سويةً الى راشيا ونمر في ” بيت لهيا ” ” وبكيفا ” وهي قرى احتضنت النهضة القومية الاجتماعية منذ بزوغها ، وما زالت . ثم نبدأ الصعود على سفوح جبل الشيخ نحو بلدة ” عين عطا ” وهناك كان القوميون رجالا ونساءا وزهرات ونسورا يعملون بحركة منظمة في وضع اللمسات الاخيرة قبل بدء الاحتفال بذكرى الاول من آذار .

وقد لفتتني اناقة الالوان عند المنظمين عدا بدلات النسور .. ووجدتُ جيلاً جديدا من صبايا وشباب ينتظمون في الحزب القومي خارح الاصطفافات الطائفية والتقليدية .هناك التقينا اناساً جمعتنا بهم النهضة القومية الاجتماعية وكنت قد زرتهم منذ عشرين سنة ، ولا ادري هل اعود بعد عشرين سنة اخرى ؟؟ لكن الاكيد ان هذه النهضة باقية ما بقي الوطن والأمة وان اجيالها تتعاقب ونحن لسنا الا جيلا منها نعبر بعد ان نؤدّي واجبنا تجاه بلادنا وشعبنا الذي يتوق الى الحياة الراقية والآمنة في وطنه الجميل والغني .

في برنامج الاحتفال تم عرض فيلم قصير عن حياة الزعيم سعاده من ولادته الى استشهاده والقت صبية جميلة من المديرية كلمة عن المناسبة … ثم قدمتُ عرضاً شاملاً لمشروع الحزب الذي اعطيناه الى امتنا لبناء حياة جديدة تضع حدا للغزوات والحروب وللفقر وللفوضى وللموت والخراب الذي يجتاحنا منذ قرون فيقتل ويدمر ويهجّر ويحولنا الى نازحين ويائسين وهاربين ومشرّدين في كل نواحي الارض .

بعد انتهاء الاحتفال ودّعنا الحاضرين وغادرنا ” عين عطا ” والسيارة تنحدر على الطرقات الصعبة والضيقة وكنت اتساءل ما الذي جاء بالناس الى هذا الجبل قبل قرون طويلة ليعيشوا هنا مع الثلج والجبل القاسي والقاحل ينحتون الصخر ليزرعوا ويبنوا بيوتاً صغيرة يوم لم تكن هناك سيارات وطرقات ولا كهرباء ولا شبكات مياه ولا اي شيء من تسهيلات الحياة المدنية الحديثة . إنهُ الاضطهاد والخطر الذي عانت منه بلادنا قروناً طويلة في زمن الحروب الدينية الرهيبة .
ترى متى ستنتهي هذه الحروب والمجازر والمخاوف والهواجس وننعم بوطن يليق بالحياة لشعب يرفض ان يموت او ان يرضى القبر مكاناً له تحت الشمس

Sex needs a new metaphor

No more sex as a competition

For some reason, says educator Al Vernacchio, the metaphors for talking about sex in the US all come from baseball — scoring, getting to first base, etc.

The problem is, this frames sex as a competition, with a winner and a loser. Instead, he suggests a new metaphor, one that’s more about shared pleasure, discussion and agreement, fulfillment and enjoyment. Let’s talk about … pizza.

 

Al Vernacchio. Sexuality educator
In his 12th-grade Sexuality and Society class, Al Vernacchio speaks honestly and positively about human sexuality. Full bio
I’d like to talk to you today about a whole new way to think about sexual activity and sexuality education.
If you talk to someone today in America about sexual activity, you’ll find pretty soon you’re not just talking about sexual activity. You’re also talking about baseball.
Because baseball is the dominant cultural metaphor that Americans use to think about and talk about sexual activity, and we know that because there’s all this language in English that seems to be talking about baseball but that’s really talking about sexual activity.
So, for example, you can be a pitcher or a catcher, and that corresponds to whether you perform a sexual act or receive a sexual act. Of course, there are the bases, which refer to specific sexual activities that happen in a very specific order, ultimately resulting in scoring a run or hitting a home run, which is usually having vaginal intercourse to the point of orgasm, at least for the guy. (Goal, goal say soccer fans)
You can strike out, which means you don’t get to have any sexual activity. And if you’re a benchwarmer, you might be a virgin or somebody who for whatever reason isn’t in the game, maybe because of your age or because of your ability or because of your skillset.
A bat’s a penis, and a nappy dugout is a vulva, or a vagina. A glove or a catcher’s mitt is a condom. A switch-hitter is a bisexual person, and we gay and lesbian folks play for the other team.
And then there’s this one: if there’s grass on the field, play ball.” And that usually refers to if a young person, specifically often a young woman, is old enough to have pubic hair, she’s old enough to have sex with.
This baseball model is incredibly problematic. It’s sexist. It’s heterosexist. It’s competitive. It’s goal-directed. And it can’t result in healthy sexuality developing in young people or in adults.
So we need a new model. I’m here today to offer you that new model. And it’s based on pizza.
Now pizza is something that is universally understood and that most people associate with a positive experience. So let’s do this.
Let’s take baseball and pizza and compare it when talking about three aspects of sexual activity: the trigger for sexual activity, what happens during sexual activity, and the expected outcome of sexual activity.
So when do you play baseball? You play baseball when it’s baseball season and when there’s a game on the schedule. It’s not exactly your choice. So if it’s prom night or a wedding night or at a party or if our parents aren’t home, hey, it’s just batter up.
Can you imagine saying to your coach, “Uh, I’m not really feeling it today, I think I’ll sit this game out.” That’s just not the way it happens. And when you get together to play baseball, immediately you’re with two opposing teams, one playing offense, one playing defense, somebody’s trying to move deeper into the field. That’s usually a sign to the boy.
Somebody’s trying to defend people moving into the field. That’s often given to the girl. It’s competitive. We’re not playing with each other. We’re playing against each other. And when you show up to play baseball, nobody needs to talk about what we’re going to do or how this baseball game might be good for us. Everybody knows the rules.
You just take your position and play the game. But when do you have pizza? Well, you have pizza when you’re hungry for pizza. It starts with an internal sense, an internal desire, or a need. “Huh. I could go for some pizza.” (Laughter)
And because it’s an internal desire, we actually have some sense of control over that. I could decide that I’m hungry but know that it’s not a great time to eat. And then when we get together with someone for pizza, we’re not competing with them, we’re looking for an experience that both of us will share that’s satisfying for both of us, and when you get together for pizza with somebody, what’s the first thing you do?
You talk about it. You talk about what you want. You talk about what you like. You may even negotiate it. “How do you feel about pepperoni?” (Laughter) “Not so much, I’m kind of a mushroom guy myself.” “Well, maybe we can go half and half.” And even if you’ve had pizza with somebody for a very long time, don’t you still say things like, “Should we get the usual?” (Laughter) “Or maybe something a little more adventurous?”
Okay, so when you’re playing baseball, so if we talk about during sexual activity, when you’re playing baseball, you’re just supposed to round the bases in the proper order one at a time. You can’t hit the ball and run to right field. That doesn’t work. And you also can’t get to second base and say, “I like it here. I’m going to stay here.” No.
And with baseball,  you need specific equipment and a specific skill set. Not everybody can play baseball. It’s pretty exclusive
But what about pizza? When we’re trying to figure out what’s good for pizza, isn’t it all about what’s our pleasure? There are a million different kinds of pizza. There’s a million different toppings. There’s a million different ways to eat pizza. And none of them are wrong.
They’re different. And in this case, difference is good, because that’s going to increase the chance that we’re having a satisfying experience. And lastly, what’s the expected outcome of baseball? Well, in baseball, you play to win. You score as many runs as you can. There’s always a winner in baseball, and that means there’s always a loser in baseball.
But what about pizza? Well, in pizza, we’re not really — there’s no winning. How do you win pizza? You don’t. But you do look for, “Are we satisfied?” And sometimes that can be different amounts over different times or with different people or on different days. And we get to decide when we feel satisfied.
If we’re still hungry, we might have some more. If you eat too much, though, you just feel gross. (Laughter) So what if we could take this pizza model and overlay it on top of sexuality education?
A lot of sexuality education that happens today is so influenced by the baseball model, and it sets up education that can’t help but produce unhealthy sexuality in young people. And those young people become older people.
if we could create sexuality education that was more like pizza, we could create education that invites people to think about their own desires, to make deliberate decisions about what they want, to talk about it with their partners, and to ultimately look for not some external outcome but for what feels satisfying, and we get to decide that.
You may have noticed in the baseball and pizza comparison, under the baseball, it’s all commands. They’re all exclamation points. But under the pizza model, they’re questions. And who gets to answer those questions? You do. I do.
So remember, when we’re thinking about sexuality education and sexual activity, baseball, you’re out. Pizza is the way to think about healthy, satisfying sexual activity, and good, comprehensive sexuality education. Thank you very much for your time.

The Land of Stones

When the Wahhabi army, headed by Ibn Saud, entered and occupied cities in the Arabic Peninsula, and Mecca (around 1924), they killed without any discrimination for days: the people praying in mosques, people reading the Coran, the baby  breast feeding… And they trampled all the books and manuscripts that came handy to them.

قاضي مكة يروي فظاعات الوهابيين حين دخلوا مكة .. قال مفتي مكة المكرمة السيد أحمد بن زيني دحلان في كتابه "أمراء البلد الحرام" ص 297 تحت عنوان "ذكر قصة أهل الطائف وما وقع لهم من الوهابية": ولما دخلوا الطائف قتلوا الناس قتلاً عاماً واستوعبوا الكبير والصغير، والمأمور والأمير، والشريف والوضيع، وصاروا يذبحون على صدر الأم الطفل الرضي، وصاروا يصعدون البيوت يخرجون من توارى فيها، فيقتلونهم، فوجدوا جماعة يتدارسون القرآن فقتلوهم عن آخرهم حتى آبادوا من في البيوت جميعاً، ثم خرجوا الى الحوانيت والمساجد وقتلوا من فيها، يقتلون الرجل في المسجد وهو راكع أو ساجد، حتى أفنوا هؤلاء المخلوقات. ويقول السيد إبراهيم الراوي الرفاعي أن عدداً من العلماء قتل في غارات الوهابيين على الحجاز من بينهم السيد عبد الله الزواوي مفتي الشافعية بمكة المكرمة، والشيخ عبد الله أبو الخير قاضي مكة، والشيخ سليمان بن مراد قاضي الطائف، والسيد يوسف الزواوي الذي ناهز الثمانين من العمر والشيخ حسن الشيبي والشيخ جعفر الشيبي وغيرهم. وارتكبت القوات الوهابية السعودية مجازر جماعية في دقاق اللوز ووادي وج ونهبوا النقود والعروض والأساس والفراش أما الكتب (فإنهم نشروها في تلك البطاح وفي الأزقة والأسواق تعصف بها الرياح، وكان فيها من المصاحف والرباع ألوفاً مؤلّفة ومن نسخ البخاري ومسلم وبقية كتب الحديث والفقه والنحو، وغير ذلك من بقية العلوم شيء كثير، ومكثت أياماً يطؤونها بأرجلهم لا يستطيع أحد أن يرفع منها ورقة.
قاضي مكة يروي فظاعات الوهابيين حين دخلوا مكة ..
قال مفتي مكة المكرمة السيد أحمد بن زيني دحلان في كتابه “أمراء البلد الحرام” ص 297 تحت عنوان “ذكر قصة أهل الطائف وما وقع لهم من الوهابية”:
ولما دخلوا الطائف قتلوا الناس قتلاً عاماً واستوعبوا الكبير والصغير، والمأمور والأمير، والشريف والوضيع، وصاروا يذبحون على صدر الأم الطفل الرضي، وصاروا يصعدون البيوت يخرجون من توارى فيها، فيقتلونهم، فوجدوا جماعة يتدارسون القرآن فقتلوهم عن آخرهم حتى آبادوا من في البيوت جميعاً،
ثم خرجوا الى الحوانيت والمساجد وقتلوا من فيها، يقتلون الرجل في المسجد وهو راكع أو ساجد، حتى أفنوا هؤلاء المخلوقات
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ويقول السيد إبراهيم الراوي الرفاعي أن عدداً من العلماء قتل في غارات الوهابيين على الحجاز من بينهم السيد عبد الله الزواوي مفتي الشافعية بمكة المكرمة، والشيخ عبد الله أبو الخير قاضي مكة، والشيخ سليمان بن مراد قاضي الطائف، والسيد يوسف الزواوي الذي ناهز الثمانين من العمر والشيخ حسن الشيبي والشيخ جعفر الشيبي وغيرهم.
وارتكبت القوات الوهابية السعودية مجازر جماعية في دقاق اللوز ووادي وج ونهبوا النقود والعروض والأساس والفراش أما الكتب (فإنهم نشروها في تلك البطاح وفي الأزقة والأسواق تعصف بها الرياح،
وكان فيها من المصاحف والرباع ألوفاً مؤلّفة ومن نسخ البخاري ومسلم وبقية كتب الحديث والفقه والنحو، وغير ذلك من بقية العلوم شيء كثير، ومكثت أياماً يطؤونها بأرجلهم لا يستطيع أحد أن يرفع منها ورقة.

Practicing safe sexting? (Texting sex)

Sexting, like anything that’s fun, runs its risks — but a serious violation of privacy shouldn’t be one of them.

Amy Adele Hasinoff looks at problematic responses to sexting in mass media, law and education, offering practical solutions for how individuals and tech companies can protect sensitive (and, ahem, potentially scandalous) digital files.

Amy Adele Hasinoff. Communications researcher. studies gender, sexuality, privacy and consent in new media. Full bio

People have been using media to talk about sex for a long time. Love letters, phone sex, racy Polaroids. There’s even a story of a girl who eloped with a man that she met over the telegraph in 1886.

Today we have sexting, and I am a sexting expert. Not an expert sexter. Though, I do know what this means — I think you do too.

0:42 [it’s a penis]

I have been studying sexting since the media attention to it began in 2008. I wrote a book on the moral panic about sexting. And here’s what I found: most people are worrying about the wrong thing. They’re trying to just prevent sexting from happening entirely. But let me ask you this: As long as it’s completely consensual, what’s the problem with sexting? People are into all sorts of things that you may not be into, like blue cheese or cilantro

Sexting is certainly risky, like anything that’s fun, but as long as you’re not sending an image to someone who doesn’t want to receive it, there’s no harm.

What I do think is a serious problem is when people share private images of others without their permission. And instead of worrying about sexting, what I think we need to do is think a lot more about digital privacy.

The key is consent.

Right now most people are thinking about sexting without really thinking about consent at all. Did you know that we currently criminalize teen sexting? It can be a crime because it counts as child pornography, if there’s an image of someone under 18, and it doesn’t even matter if they took that image of themselves and shared it willingly.

So we end up with this bizarre legal situation where two 17-year-olds can legally have sex in most US states but they can’t photograph it.

Some states have also tried passing sexting misdemeanor laws but these laws repeat the same problem because they still make consensual sexting illegal. It doesn’t make sense to try to ban all sexting to try to address privacy violations. This is kind of like saying, let’s solve the problem of date rape by just making dating completely illegal.

Most teens don’t get arrested for sexting, but can you guess who does?

It’s often teens who are disliked by their partner’s parents. And this can be because of class bias, racism or homophobia. Most prosecutors are, of course, smart enough not to use child pornography charges against teenagers, but some do.

According to researchers at the University of New Hampshire 7% of all child pornography possession arrests are teens, sexting consensually with other teens.

Child pornography is a serious crime, but it’s just not the same thing as teen sexting. Parents and educators are also responding to sexting without really thinking too much about consent. Their message to teens is often: just don’t do it.

And I totally get it — there are serious legal risks and of course, that potential for privacy violations. And when you were a teen, I’m sure you did exactly as you were told, right?

You’re probably thinking, my kid would never sext. And that’s true, your little angel may not be sexting because only 33 percent of 16- and 17-year-olds are sexting. But, sorry, by the time they’re older, odds are they will be sexting. Every study I’ve seen puts the rate above 50 percent for 18- to 24-year-olds.

And most of the time, nothing goes wrong. People ask me all the time things like, isn’t sexting just so dangerous, though? It’s like you wouldn’t leave your wallet on a park bench and you expect it’s going to get stolen if you do that, right? Here’s how I think about it: sexting is like leaving your wallet at your boyfriend’s house.

If you come back the next day and all the money is just gone, you really need to dump that guy. (Laughter) So instead of criminalizing sexting to try to prevent these privacy violations, instead we need to make consent central to how we think about the circulation of our private information.

Every new media technology raises privacy concerns. In fact, in the US the very first major debates about privacy were in response to technologies that were relatively new at the time.

In the late 1800s, people were worried about cameras, which were just suddenly more portable than ever before, and newspaper gossip columns. They were worried that the camera would capture information about them, take it out of context and widely disseminate it this sound familiar?

It’s exactly what we’re worrying about now with social media and drone cameras, and, of course, sexting. And these fears about technology, they make sense because technologies can amplify and bring out our worst qualities and behaviors. But there are solutions. And we’ve been here before with a dangerous new technology.

6:11 In 1908, Ford introduced the Model T car. Traffic fatality rates were rising. It was a serious problem — it looks so safe, right? Our first response was to try to change drivers’ behavior, so we developed speed limits and enforced them through fines. But over the following decades, we started to realize the technology of the car itself is not just neutral. We could design the car to make it safer. So in the 1920s, we got shatter-resistant windshields. In the 1950s, seat belts.

And in the 1990s, airbags. All three of these areas: laws, individuals and industry came together over time to help solve the problem that a new technology causes.

And we can do the same thing with digital privacy. Of course, it comes back to consent. Here’s the idea. Before anyone can distribute your private information, they should have to get your permission. This idea of affirmative consent comes from anti-rape activists who tell us that we need consent for every sexual act. And we have really high standards for consent in a lot of other areas.

7:30 Think about having surgery. Your doctor has to make sure that you are meaningfully and knowingly consenting to that medical procedure. This is not the type of consent like with an iTunes Terms of Service where you just scroll to the bottom and you’re like, agree, agree, whatever.

If we think more about consent, we can have better privacy laws.

Right now, we just don’t have that many protections. If your ex-husband or your ex-wife is a terrible person, they can take your nude photos and upload them to a porn site. It can be really hard to get those images taken down. And in a lot of states, you’re actually better off if you took the images of yourself because then you can file a copyright claim.

Right now, if someone violates your privacy, whether that’s an individual or a company or the NSA, you can try filing a lawsuit, though you may not be successful because many courts assume that digital privacy is just impossible. So they’re not willing to punish anyone for violating it.

I still hear people asking me all the time, isn’t a digital image somehow blurring the line between public and private because it’s digital, right? No! No! Everything digital is not just automatically public. That doesn’t make any sense.

As NYU legal scholar Helen Nissenbaum tells us, we have laws and policies and norms that protect all kinds of information that’s private, and it doesn’t make a difference if it’s digital or not. All of your health records are digitized but your doctor can’t just share them with anyone. All of your financial information is held in digital databases, but your credit card company can’t just post your purchase history online.

Better laws could help address privacy violations after they happen, but one of the easiest things we can all do is make personal changes to help protect each other’s privacy.

We’re always told that privacy is our own, sole, individual responsibility. We’re told, constantly monitor and update your privacy settings. We’re told, never share anything you wouldn’t want the entire world to see. This doesn’t make sense. Digital media are social environments and we share things with people we trust all day, every day.

As Princeton researcher Janet Vertesi argues, our data and our privacy, they’re not just personal, they’re actually interpersonal. And so one thing you can do that’s really easy is just start asking for permission before you share anyone else’s information. If you want to post a photo of someone online, ask for permission. If you want to forward an email thread, ask for permission. And if you want to share someone’s nude selfie, obviously, ask for permission.

These individual changes can really help us protect each other’s privacy, but we need technology companies on board as well. These companies have very little incentive to help protect our privacy because their business models depend on us sharing everything with as many people as possible.

Right now, if I send you an image, you can forward that to anyone that you want. But what if I got to decide if that image was forwardable or not? This would tell you, you don’t have my permission to send this image out.

We do this kind of thing all the time to protect copyright. If you buy an e-book, you can’t just send it out to as many people as you want. So why not try this with mobile phones?

What you can do is we can demand that tech companies add these protections to our devices and our platforms as the default. After all, you can choose the color of your car, but the airbags are always standard.

If we don’t think more about digital privacy and consent, there can be serious consequences.

There was a teenager from Ohio — let’s call her Jennifer, for the sake of her privacy. She shared nude photos of herself with her high school boyfriend, thinking she could trust him. Unfortunately, he betrayed her and sent her photos around the entire school. Jennifer was embarrassed and humiliated, but instead of being compassionate, her classmates harassed her. They called her a slut and a whore and they made her life miserable. Jennifer started missing school and her grades dropped. Ultimately, Jennifer decided to end her own life.

Jennifer did nothing wrong. All she did was share a nude photo with someone she thought that she could trust. And yet our laws tell her that she committed a horrible crime equivalent to child pornography. Our gender norms tell her that by producing this nude image of herself, she somehow did the most horrible, shameful thing.

And when we assume that privacy is impossible in digital media, we completely write off and excuse her boyfriend’s bad, bad behavior. People are still saying all the time to victims of privacy violations, “What were you thinking? You should have never sent that image.”

13:10 If you’re trying to figure out what to say instead, try this. Imagine you’ve run into your friend who broke their leg skiing. They took a risk to do something fun, and it didn’t end well. But you’re probably not going to be the jerk who says, “Well, I guess you shouldn’t have gone skiing then.” If we think more about consent, we can see that victims of privacy violations deserve our compassion, not criminalization, shaming, harassment or punishment.

We can support victims, and we can prevent some privacy violations by making these legal, individual and technological changes. Because the problem is not sexting, the issue is digital privacy. And one solution is consent.

14:01 So the next time a victim of a privacy violation comes up to you, instead of blaming them, let’s do this instead: let’s shift our ideas about digital privacy, and let’s respond with compassion.

Sexting, like anything that’s fun, runs its risks — but a serious violation of privacy shouldn’t be one of them. Amy Adele Hasinoff looks at problematic responses to sexting in mass media, law and education, offering practical solutions for how individuals and tech companies can protect sensitive (…
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