Archive for April 13th, 2017
25 Truths Everyone Raised By Lebanese Parents Will Understand
Beirut.com, April 9, 2017
Growing up Lebanese: it’s quite an adventure.
1. You know how dangerous it is to walk on freshly mopped floors.
2. You know better than to tell your dad “ma khassak” (it is none of your business)
3. It’s guaranteed that if you’re going somewhere, you’ll be taking ekhtak/khayyak with you. (Have to be accompanied by a sister or a brother)
4. It’s not your dad who’s wrong, it’s the brand new DVD player that “doesn’t work properly”.
5. You were forced to take a jacket with you everywhere, even in sunny 30-degree weather.
6. That feeling of true happiness when your dad tells you to take money from his pocket.
7. This:
Having Lebanese parents really helped strengthen my negotiating skills. If I ask to go out it’s gotta be in the form of a business meeting
— Seline. (@SelineDelilah) April 6, 2017
8. Smoking is the worst thing you could do, but both your parents smoke.
9. Granted you have pictures of yourself smoking a cigarette as an infant.
10. The 20 questions you get bombarded with every time you want to leave the house.
11. Running away when you get a phone jammed in your face so you can talk to your 3amto (aunt) from the day3a.
12. To your face: you’re the worst kid. Behind your back: you’re a straight-A angel.
13. You’re not really sick unless you have a 40-degree fever and/or are hospitalized.
14. You get screamed at for walking barefoot. During winter it’s too cold, and during summer it’s too dirty.
15. 7Up and Panadol are guaranteed cures to every illness under the sun.
“mama I’m sick”
“habibi drink this medicine” #growinguparab #growingupmuslim pic.twitter.com/hivJclB4lp
— #13ReasonsWhy (@Loving13RW) August 15, 2015
16. Your parents buy fruits by the ton. Oh you want strawberries?Here’s a field.
17. This reality:
A post shared by Arab Problems (@arabproblems) on Aug 28, 2016 at 6:39am PDT
18. The waynik/waynak (hey you) text is guaranteed to send shivers down your spine.
19. Slippers are not just footwear, they double as weaponry.
20. You don’t know true fear until your mom finds out you ate out while she spent all day making mloukhiyye.
21. Your mom has one set of gold encrusted tea cups reserved for guests.
22. Ice cream during winter is a huge no-no.
23. Leaving your hair wet after a shower is a sure way to get pneumonia.
24. Fucidine on everything and anything.
25. And this is how you knew shit was about to hit the fan
#GrowingUpArab means that if u get this from your parents infront of guests, youre getting an asswhooping. pic.twitter.com/lh9zrBztn1
— Michael (@Saikalii) August 3, 2015
Integrating Young Leaders?
Why this process is Not the norm?
Bill Hybels on Integrating Young Leaders
Wins
5 reasons leaders don’t integrate young leaders
Failure
Intimidation
Getting the most from young leaders:
Bill Hybels on multigenerational leadership (1:35):
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Wins:
- Learning. The same people sitting around the same table represents stagnation. Mentoring, for example, has multi-generational opportunities.
- Connection. Isolation grows as time passes. Integrating young leaders develops new connections within leadership teams and organizations.
- Openness. Young leaders don’t say, “We tried that already,” because they haven’t.
- Vitality. The enthusiasm of youth is transformational energy.
5 reasons leaders don’t integrate young leaders:
- Arrogance. Young leaders don’t deserve a place at the table.
- Fear. The old ways feel safe to old leaders.
- Control. The need for control motivates old leaders to keep others out.
- Position. Love of position makes old leaders guard their position.
- Inexperience. Young leaders don’t have enough experience to lead.
Failure:
Old leaders worry that young leaders will fail. Bill suggests gray hairs remember their own younger days.
My gosh. I should have been arrested for some of the leadership pranks I pulled…” Bill Hybles
Dealing with failures of youth (1:24)
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Intimidation:
How Bill Hybels tries to overcome intimidation (0:59):
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Getting the most from young leaders:
- Coach. “I do a lot of real-time coaching.” Bill Hybels
- Opportunity. Provide opportunities for young leaders to test themselves.
- Fail. When young leaders bite off more than they can chew, let them go. Encourage them to learn from failure. (Always evaluate the cost of potential failure against the benefit, before making this type of decision.)
How might old leaders integrate young leaders into organizational life?
What opportunities and/or dangers do you see from integrating young leaders?
Note: I talked with Bill at the World Leaders Conference in West Palm Beach, FL. Thanks to Ben Lichtenwalner of Modern Servant Leadership for setting up this conversation.
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