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Passing a law on domestic violence: Putting Lebanese women at further risk?

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Passing a law on domestic violence: Putting Lebanese women at further risk?

The Lebanese Parliament Passed a Law that Put Women at Further Risk 

Manal, Roula, Aminah, Latifah, Sonia, Christelle, Marguerite, and all the women who died of domestic violence will not rest in peace: Today the Lebanese Parliament passed a law, a joke that now legalizes marital rape. 

No women will leave or face her husband while her children remain at risk…

No women will dare to speak up knowing that if she protects herself, her children will be the next boxing bag.

Abir Ghattas posted this April 1, 2014

A law passed, it is for sure not the law we’ve been fighting for!

All those thousands of people who marched weeks ago where not apparently enough to move our parliament, all those women who died, and those children who were/are bruised for life apparently are not enough reason for a fair law. 

To hell with this country, to hell with every politician… all the blood of innocent women and children are on your hands!

KAFA, is calling for a public protest at 5pm in Riadh El Solh square… be many.

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How your “English” sounds?

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How your “English” sounds?

First need to differentiate between American and English.

Then differentiate among Scottish, Irish, Whales, Australian, Canadian, Indians…

What do you sound like to a foreigner?

Sarah Barness posted on The Huffington Post this March 6, 2014

Girl Speaks Gibberish With Perfect Accents To Show What Languages Sound Like To Foreigners

Girl Perfectly Demonstrates What Languages Sound Like To Foreigners

19-year-old Finnish YouTube user Sara is here to unveil the mystery. Although she is speaking total gibberish, her spot-on accents give us a clue as to how you might sound to someone who doesn’t speak your language.

To hear UK and American English accents skip to 0:50 and 1:12.

But trust us, this whole video is worth watching. Since being uploaded on Monday, it has racked up over 2 millions views.

We hope this girl plays musical instruments, because she clearly has a VERY good ear.

What American English sounds like to non-English speakers
Prisecolinensinenciousol, a parody by Adriano Celentano for the Italian TV programme Mileluci is sung entirely in..
ESTIONS

How English sounds to non-English speakers
‘Skwerl’. A short film in fake English. A film by Brian & Karl: http://www.brianandkarl.com http://brianandkarl.tumblr.com/ Screenplay: Karl…
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Sex, Violence and New York City Ads

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Sex, Violence and New York City Ads

In Benjamin Lowy blog:

This blog is part of a project borne during my travels as a professional photojournalist.

For years, I have worked with bulky digital cameras, always mindful of the technical maneuvers from setting the shutter speed and aperture to editing and toning on a computer screen.

In the last few years I have discovered that my iPhone has allowed me to capture scenes without feeling that I am once again on the job.

To “point and shoot” has been a liberating experience. It has allowed me to rediscover the excitement of seeing imperfections and happy accidents rendered through the lens of my handheld device.

I am able to create imagery, edit, and transmit all the images straight to this blog, creating a modern and efficient workflow for the most inefficient of pursuits – self expression.

All Images are copyrighted @Benjamin Lowy

New York City, NY | March 4, 2014<br /><br /> Contrasty.

New York City, NY | March 4, 2014

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Stop telling me I’ll change my mind: I don’t want children

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I don’t want children — stop telling me I’ll change my mind

One in 5 women in the United States will not have a biological child, and Christen Reighter is one of them.

From a young age, she knew she didn’t want kids, in spite of the insistence of many people (including her doctor) who told her she’d change her mind.

In this talk, she shares her story of seeking sterilization — and makes the case that motherhood is an extension of womanhood, not the definition.

This talk was presented to a local audience at TEDxMileHighWomen, an independent event. TED editors featured it among our selections on the home page.

Christen Reighter · Poet, essayist. She writes and performs as a poet and essayist, focusing primarily on social justice issues.

I recognized the roles that were placed on me very early. One persistent concept that I observed —existing in our language, in our media — was that women are not only supposed to have children, they are supposed to want to.

This existed everywhere. It existed in the ways that adults spoke to me when they posed questions in the context of “when.” “When you get married …” “When you have kids …”

And these future musings were always presented to me like part of this American dream, but it always felt to me like someone else’s dream.

A value that I have always understood about myself was that I never wanted children. And as a kid, when I would try to explain this, this disconnect between their roles and my values, they often laughed in the way that adults do at the absurdities of children.

And they would tell me knowingly, “You’ll change your mind.”

And people have been saying things like that to me my whole life. Otherwise polite conversation can turn intrusive fast. “Does your husband know?”, “Do your parents know?”, “Don’t you want a family?” “Don’t you want to leave anything behind?”

And the primary buzzword when discussing childlessness, “That’s selfish.”

There are countless reasons a woman may have for choosing to abstain from motherhood, the majority of them not self-prioritizing. But it is still socially acceptable to publicly vilify women as such, because none of these reasons have made it into the social narrative.

When I was little and learning about the inevitability of maternity, it was never explained to me the commonness of these factors that women consider, like the risk of passing on hereditary illness, the danger of having to stop life-saving medication for the duration of your pregnancy, concern about overpopulation, your access to resources, and the fact that there are 415,000 children in the foster-care system in the United States at any given time.

Reasons like these and the fact that I don’t like to leave things of this magnitude to chance, all informed my decision to become surgically sterilized.

I began my research eagerly. I wanted to fully understand all that was going to come with undergoing a tubal ligation, which is just another word for getting your tubes tied.

I wanted to know approval to aftermath, satisfaction rates, risks, statistics.

And at first, I was empowered. The way the narrative has always been taught to me, I would have thought that women who didn’t want children were so rare, and then I learned one in five American women won’t be having a biological child — some by choice, some by chance.

But I was not alone. But the more I read, the more disheartened I became.

I read women’s stories, trying desperately to get this procedure.

I learned how common it was for women to exhaust their finances appealing to dozens of ob-gyns over many years, only to be turned down so many times, often with such blatant disrespect that they just gave up.

Women reported that medical practitioners were often condescending and dismissive of their motivations, being told things like, “Come back when you’re married with a child.”

But women who did have children, who went to go get this procedure, were told they were too young, or they didn’t have enough children, which is very interesting, because the legal requirements in my state for getting this kind of surgery were, “Be at least 21 years old,” “appear of sound mind, acting of your own accord,” and “have a 30-day waiting period.”

And I was perplexed that I could meet all of these legal requirements and still have to face a battle in the exam room for my bodily autonomy. And it was daunting, but I was determined.

I remember I dressed so professionally to that first appointment.

I sat up straight. I spoke clearly. I wanted to give that doctor every piece of evidence that I was not the date of birth in that file. And I made sure to mention things like, “I just got my bachelor’s degree and I’m applying to these doctoral programs, I’m going to study these things.”

And “my long-term partner has this kind of business,” and “I’ve done research on this for months. I understand everything about it, all the risks.” Because I needed the doctor to know that this was not a whim, not reactionary, not your 20-something looking to go out and party without fear of getting knocked up … (Laughter) that this supported something integral to who I was.

And I understand informed consent, so I fully expected to be reeducated on how it all worked, but … At one point, the information being given to me started to feel agenda’d, interlaced with bias and inflated statistics.

The questions began to feel interrogative. At first they were asking me questions that seemed to understand my situation better, and then it seemed like they were asking questions to try to trip me up. I felt like I was on the witness stand, being cross-examined.

The doctor asked me about my partner. “How does he or she feel about all of this?” “Well, I’ve been with the same man for five years, and he fully supports any decision I make for my body.” And he said, “Well, what happens in the future, if you change partners? What happens when that person wants children?”

I didn’t quite know how to react to that, because what I was hearing was this doctor tell me that I’m supposed to disregard everything I believe if a partner demands children. So I told him not to worry about that. My stance on childbearing has always been first date conversation.

He then asks me to consider how “in 20 years, you could really come to regret this” … as though I hadn’t. I told him, “OK, if I wake up one day and realize, you know, I wish I’d made a different decision back then, the truth is, I’d only removed a single path to parenthood. I never needed biology to form family anyway.”

And I would much rather deal with that any day than deal with one day waking up, realize I’d had a child that I didn’t really want or was prepared to care for. Because one of these affects only me.

The other affects a child, their development, their well-being and human beings are not to be gambled with. He then tells me why no one was going to approve this procedure, certainly not he, because of a concept called medical paternalism, which allows him, as my well-informed provider, to make decisions for me … based on his perception of my best interest,regardless of what I, as the patient, want or believe.

He takes this opportunity to step out and discuss my case with my potential surgeon, and through the door, I hear him describe me as a little girl.

I was so offended. I wanted to defend myself. I wanted to explicitly explain to each one of these providers how they were treating me, that it was belittling and sexist, and I didn’t have to take it. But I did take it. I swallowed every sharp word in my throat, clenched my jaw, and instead answered each one of their condescending questions and statements.

I had come here looking for objectivity and support and instead I felt dismissed and silenced, and I hated myself for it. I hated that I was letting people disrespect me repeatedly. But this was my one shot.

That was one of multiple consultations that I had to go to.

At one point, I had seen five or six medical professionals in the same hour. The door to the exam room felt more like the door to a clown car.There’s my primary, there’s his colleague, the director, OK. It felt like I was asking them to infect me with smallpox instead of, I don’t know, obtain birth control.

But I didn’t waver, and I was persistent, and I eventually convinced one of them to allow the procedure. And even as I am in the room, signing the consent forms and getting the hormone shots and tying up loose ends … my doctor is shaking his head in disapproval. “You’ll change your mind.”

I never really understood how strongly this society clings to this role until I went through this. I experienced firsthand, repeatedly, how people, be it medical providers, colleagues, strangers, were literally unable to separate me being a woman from me being a mother.

And I’ve always believed that having children was an extension of womanhood, not the definition. I believe that a woman’s value should never be determined by whether or not she has a child, because that strips her of her entire identity as an adult unto herself. Women have this amazing ability to create life, but when we say that that is her purpose, that says that her entire existence is a means to an end.

It’s so easy to forget the roles that society places on us are so much more than mere titles. What about the weight that comes with them, the pressure to conform to these standards … the fear associated with questioning them, and the desires that we cast aside to accept them?

There are many paths to happiness and fulfillment. They all look very different, but I believe that every one is paved with the right to self-determination.

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I want women to know that your choice to embrace or forego motherhood is not in any way tied to your worthiness or identity as spouses, as adults, or as women … and there absolutely is a choice behind maternity, and it is yours and yours alone.

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Notes and tidbits posted on FB and Twitter. Part 100

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Notes and tidbits posted on FB and Twitter. Part 100

Note 1: I take notes of books I read and comment on events and edit sentences that fit my style. The page is long and growing like crazy, and the sections I post contains months-old events that are worth refreshing your memory.

Un vrai rythm ca ne s’achete pas tout fait, zim-boum-boum, de la fanfare de regiment. Le rythm ca s’ invente.
 
After 70 years of its institution, the UN has learned to be vocal on ethnic cleansing (Rohingyas refugees).  Israel did the same cleansing of Palestinians when created in 1948, and with higher numbers, and UN still refrain to call it “Ethnic Cleansing”
So far, 500,000 Rohingyas refugees in Bangladesh. Finally, UN mastered the courage to voice “Ethnic Cleansing”. Google failed to register Rohingya in her spell-checking, though this problem has been in the news for years.
Can there be love without a feeling of pride for sharing in the daily maintenance and upkeep in the family?
We want practical support in overcoming the daily chores to keep up the spirit of stability and confidence in the near future.
Pour les enfants, a chaque jour suffit sa peine. Et pourtant, les enfants doivent vieillir pour avoir une perception logarithmique du temps qui s’ecoule.

There are no answers: I desisted to ponder on the intricacies of love relationship, a long time ago

Je prefere le role du fou de la communaute: ca demande beaucoup plus de reflection pour les critiques
On cherche vaillamment a mettre en relief un trait attrayant pour que notre instruction et connaissance aient de la valeur.

You cannot judge a mental handicapped person with the same standards used by the justice systems of the reasonable communities.

No need to be funny: Just sell ice cream for an overdose of love

2 fois plus de goudron (tar) et 3 fois plus de nicotine si tu fumes Croix Bleu. Pouquoi payer plus pour moins?

Peres Anonymes GI qui ont faient des bebe’ parceque la femme ne parlait pas Anglais. Et les mercenaires de l’ armee Americaine, combien de langues parlent-ils?

Reste, regarde la mort et ecoute les informations apres

It seems that for success in science and art,a dash of autism is essential.

When I stumble of a cleric walking, hitch hiking and taking public transportation, I might listen to his theological philosophy

He resuscitated from the dead. He was lucky: he had donated all his organs, but the system at ministry of health was faulty for 2 days

The physician signed the certificate of death. The hospital morgue signed the certificate of  staying overnight in the cold chamber. Can the testimony of hundred of souls that the resuscitate person is “probably” the same person? That they are unsure that this occurrence can happen, even if they saw him crawling out of the box in the salon?

I’m pretty convinced that many people resuscitated from the dead in history. That Not many accounted for these events or left any written story, does that mean that rare events cannot take place, those rarest end tails in probability?

On what basis did Myanmar Suu got her Nobel peace prize if she lacks courage to uphold the ethnic cleansing of the Rohingyas?

How can you get concerned with 100 million children going hungry? Go on hunger strike for a week

If you are failing to elevate your status of human into the stage of humanity, what are you doing with your life?

Ici, on avait droit d’etre aveugle, pas en tort: s’ excuser est une perte d’autorite’, les colons perdaient la face

Trump, as the previous President, are disappointed with social Venezuela system: Social budget steadily increased to 73% this year.

Norway Sovereign Fund reached $One trillion, or 1,000 billion. Still keeping full public health coverage and free quality education, regardless of party in power.

Venezuela treasury is highest in gold coverage. Never defaulted on a loan. Maduro got highest votes: 8 million and for real. Got more foreign investments than Argentina 

On vient d’annoncer qu’il n’y auraient plus de cyclones pour le restant de l’ annee’, qu’ un cease fire avait ete decrete’ par UN partout. Demain je cesse de fumer. En attendant les nouvelles fumantes

Nous sommes fondamentalement hostiles, il n’ y a pas a en avoir honte. Ne vous retener pas. Ouvrer les soupappes. C’ est la recommendation de mom medecin, et j’en suis l’un d’eux.

C’est ce que je pensais en montant l’ ane Salma bi montazah Kornet Chehwan: Le bonheur est un chemin, pas une destination

Urgent. If you think level of intelligence is what defines you, consider repairing the bug in your brain

“Dare to refuse the origin myths that claim who you are”. I’m puzzled to have pride in your national or ethnic identity, pride in the ACCIDENT of birth from a warm and cozy womb, belief in your superiority because of the ACCIDENT of birth.”- Chetan Bhatt from his TEDxExeter talk

Do we really need identity myths to feel safe? Because I see religious, national, ethnic disputes as adding to human misery.

If Jesus failed to perform miracles, would we had Saints? All religious sects have saints, except the extremist Wahhabi-type sects

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