Adonis Diaries

Learn to Serve first. Fill your own shoes before you think to lead

Posted on: July 18, 2018

Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller capture, “The Secret,” of leadership in five letters, SERVE. The beauty of SERVE is inescapable simplicity and actionable clarity.

By Dan Rockwell

Serve and learn to wear the delegator’s hat,

See the future: envision and communicate a compelling picture of a preferred future.

  1. What do I want to be true of the future?
  2. Why should anyone care?
  3. How will progress be measured?

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Engage and develop others: recruit and align people for the right job. Create environments where people bring vision to life.

  1. What invited my engagement in the past?
  2. Which of these factors are missing in those I lead?
  3. How can I help teams and individuals grow?

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Reinvent continuously: continuously focus on improvement.

  1. How do I need to change?
  2. Where do I want different outcomes?
  3. What organizational changes will accelerate progress?

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Value results and relationships: generate measurable results and cultivate great relationships.

  1. Which is my personal bias as a leader – results or relationships?
  2. How can I compensate for the area that’s not my personal strength?
  3. What happens if I don’t broaden my definition of success?

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Embody values: live fully aligned with stated values.

  1. What values do I want to drive behaviors in my organization?
  2. How can I communicate these values?
  3. What are my actions communicating?

The ultimate question

“Am I a serving leader or a self-serving leader?”

Application

Apart from the ultimate question, the question that most hits me this morning is, “How do I need to change?”

It’s easy to see where they need improvement. It’s fun to “help” them. This morning, I’m the one who needs changing. I shouldn’t say, “This morning.” It’s every morning.

Organizations grow when their leaders grow.

The Secret” won’t take long to read but it takes a lifetime to live.

Which question in this post is most relevant for you, today?

How Hammers Become Screw Drivers

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Little Mary just knocked a glass of milk on the floor. That’s what two year old’s do.

There’s a group of five leaders at the table.

Bob waves the waiter over and says, “Could someone clean this up?”

Mindy says, “That happened because the milk was too close to the edge.”

Joe says, “Don’t worry, I’ll buy another one.”

Mark says, “Its ok little Mary, don’t feel bad.”

Betty says, “I’ll take little Mary to the restroom. Phil, will you get the waiter. Bob, I noticed another booster seat near the door, would you get that, please?”

Everyone employs default responses.

  1. Explain
  2. Comfort
  3. Teach
  4. Fix
  5. Organize
  6. Do
  7. Delegate

Expand leadership potential by imagining new responses.

Put on the delegator’s hat, if you tend to fix or comfort, for example. Become an organizer – in your imagination – if you’re a doer.

Become a screw driver:

Hammers see every problem as a nail. Expand your potential by becoming a screw driver.

  1. Identify default responses.
  2. Imagine new responses. Ask yourself, “How does Mary handle this type of situation?”
  3. Test new language.
  4. Invite feedback.
  5. Continue practicing your screw driver skills.

Leaders become ineffective – one string banjos – unless they imagine themselves in new ways.

Imagine you’re a screw driver. You can’t do what you can’t imagine. When default responses aren’t getting you where you want to go, imagine yourself with new ones.

What is your default response to challenges, problems, or opportunities?

What new response can you imagine that might take you further?

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