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Short story: Ajdad wants to change as he was reminded that he is already perceived an elder person

Ajdad grew up unpretentious, and was perceived a stuck up child.

Ajdad cared for nothing in particular in order to ask questions, much less pertinent questions.

This naive kid grew up more naive with age: The more he knew about people and the universe, the more confused he felt and had no idea from where to start his questioning with other people…

Ajdad grew to be over 60 year-old and he is keeping himself fit and young, Not in matter of speed and aerobics, but for endurance and flexibility.

And time passed pretty quick for Ajdad to realize that he is banished from the youth community, even the over thirty-something.

At his early age, Ajdad didn’t felt this strong urge to communicate and question his peers or relatives.

And he was perceived as an unbearably pretentious person to associate with or keep any steady link with him.

He became highly critical and cynical since he gathered many higher educational degrees in many field of study, especially in rational thinking and experimental designs.

Adjad accumulated a vast comprehensive knowledge on many issues, and he persist on patronizing libraries every day, to read and write.

Though Ajdad is starting to listen and learn about human interactions and traditional biases.

He is letting his funny and ironic hidden “streak” spread when he meet “strangers”, and love to make people laugh hard, at his own expense.

Ajdad may grow to be 90, but he is Not likely to find a single close friend to keep him company, as the trend keeps speaking loudly since his early age.

Can’t advise on quickness of providing “solutions” devoid of the context of the job

Dan Rockwell wrote this piece opting for slowly solving problems.


Reject first solutions unless the barn is on fire.

Fast-solution leaders:

#1. Fast solution done over working on creative solutions.

Choosing the fast solution restores the status quo.

Creativity is the ability to reject first answers and endure the awkwardness of ignorance.

Rise above, “Just get it done.” Embrace the frustration caused by pursuing creative solutions.

#2. Complain that people don’t think for themselves.

Leaders who solve problems FOR people are the ones ending up doing all the thinking.

#3. Have low ownership teams. Make room for teams to own their problems.

“When a team takes ownership of its problems, the problem gets solved.” Jocko Willink

#4. Slow progress. Everyone learns to wait for your solution when you’re the solution-giving leader.

“A lot of people never use their initiative because no-one told them to.” Bansky

Teach your team to beg forgiveness, rather than ask permission by:

  1. Embedding organizational values in everyone’s head and heart.
  2. Honoring responsible failure.
  3. Taking responsibility when higher ups complain.
  4. Discussing and establishing boundaries to freedom.
  5. Ask, “What would you do?” And say, “Go do that.” (Unless it will cause damage.)

The more problems you solve, the more frequently people come to you for solutions.

Before you become a leader, solve every problem YOU can. After you become a leader, help others solve every problem THEY can.

4 ways to solve problems slowly:

  1. Enter conversations as a curious learner, not a closed knower.
  2. Realize the pain point might be a symptom, not the problem.
  3. Explore origins. When did this problem begin? What have we been doing or not doing that brought us to this situation?
  4. Develop three possible solutions before making decisions. “And what else might we try?”

“Be quick but don’t hurry.” John Wooden

What benefits might result from solving problems slowly?




September 2019

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