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Resilience? Not born with, but consciously practice?

Lebanon is passing through a terrible crisis that is affecting everyone, and one of the reasons so many companies are closing down is that they remained in business as usual mode, or in survival mode.

Same applies to people.

We chain ourselves to our daily routine and remain in our comfort zones, failing to see what is coming or even to be prepared for it.

Being resilient means bouncing back into shape and recovering quickly, like an elastic band that is stretched but returns to its normal shape and size after being let go.

Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, it is rising from the ashes to becoming the Phoenix again! Pun intended.

Master coach Pauline Sawaya – Founder of Swift Shift, shares her tips and tricks to becoming for resilient in the face of hardship. She is enrolled as a coach in Berytech’s Impact Rise Social Entrepreneurship Scale Up Program.

Traits Of Resilience

More than ever today, resilience is needed in every single person in Lebanon. Why? Because resilient people:

  • Are flexible and adjust to big life changes: when we fall and learn to get up again, we flex our muscles to change and adapt to unexpected circumstances
  • Maintain their focus and are self-driven by a goal: having a purpose and a passion that wakes you up every morning to do what you love to do and having a goal in mind at all times, makes you focused and eager to achieve
  • Recover easily from misfortune: flexibility and focus help resilient people recover because they know that they survived their bad days and can move on
  • Have mental toughness and enjoy excellent relationships: people love to be and to work with resilient people because they are tough, they understand their emotions and are open to the ups and downs of relationships

Becoming More Resilient

People are not born resilient; resilience involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone, and once you develop resilience you become a better version of yourself at all levels.

Rewire your brain to be more flexible

Our brain is like any muscle and it can be trained, so instead of having a fixed mindset, work on a growth mindset, i.e.; you need to believe that you can learn resilience and that you are what you want to be, with persistence and work you will achieve it.

Embrace change

You need to embrace that change is the only constant in our life.

In order to leave your comfort zone, you need to work on believing that change is positive and will only lead to positive results. (Getting down to change a set of your behavior, and this is the hardest of tasks). This is crucial.

Separate yourself from the incidents

When we face a challenge, we all tend to stay in the same mindset, but we cannot solve an issue with the same mindset that helped create it.

You need to step out of yourself and look at it from a different perspective and ask yourself what is the situation telling me?

Take care of yourself & your emotions

We are trained to be givers and to believe that we need to be people-pleasers.

Since our childhood, we have been made to fit in a box, whether by our parents, or by our community, even at school.

We are forced to do things to please others, so they accept us.

Now it is the time to ask yourself “what is important for me? What am I doing for myself? What are the emotions that I am feeling and how are they serving me?”

(You need to come to term for this answer: “What is the meaning of life?” And change your path with determination, without worrying if your undertaking is considered Wrong by others.

Keep growing & investing in yourself

Once you ask yourself the above questions and focus on ‘you’, you need to start working on yourself, by investing in yourself, in your skills and competencies so you keep growing out of the box of everyone and growing your box. Get a Coach or a mentor.

Stay prepared & live out of your comfort zone

There is nothing called security. Remaining in your comfort zones lead to the same results. Nothing happens that is different.

Ask yourself what magic do I need to bring in my life to make it better, what status quo do I need to shake, what can I use from my situation today so I am prepared for a better tomorrow?

(I had decided 10 years ago to become funny, and taking the initiative to introducing myself upfront, by recounting situations of my limitations, making people laugh at my expense, knowing full well that they do share the same limitations)

Nothing beats the power of questions to bring resilience to your life, you are not a tree and you don’t only need to bend, you can move.

Every setback is a setup for a comeback, and in the end it is up to you to make the best out of any situation.


About the author

Pauline Sawaya is the Founder of Swift Shift and the Managing Director of Noble Manhattan Coaching Levant. She is an accredited Master Coach from the UK, as well as a leader, consultant, HR, mentor and transformational trainer. Read her profile here.

Are you looking me in the eyes, and censuring me?

Note: Re-edit of “And you dare look me in the eyes, and censure me? May 23, 2011”

What a whirlwind of constant matter,

Never increasing or diminishing.

This constant matter, filling the vast void,

Transforming, emitting, recycling…

Into forms, sounds, lights, animates, and inanimates…

 

What is this ridiculous probability

To be who I am?

And you dare blame my huge vanity?

 

Is the spirit eternal?

How should I know?

Why should I care?

Is one eternity not good enough?

 

Have you been by a dying person?

Have you heard anyone on his deathbed, looking straight at you and saying:

“I know one thing to be absolutely true!”

 

Had you the guts to go on adventures?

Had you learned to read, and read all that came under your hands?

Had you written down your reflections?

Had you shared your thought, and listened carefully to feedback

Before you claim to form an opinion?

 

I may then disagree with your position,

But you got my respect.

 

Are you such a coward, and never left your hometown?

Do you want to believe that the world turns around you?

Were you pressured to learn to read

So that you may read in a single book?

 

Have you lived so long

Just to end up believing that all knowledge and wisdoms are found

In a single book?

 

And you dare look me in the eyes

And censure me?!


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