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Is your child “A Third Culture Kid”? And 31 Signs you’re a TCK

Posted on July 7, 2013

According to sociologist David C. Pollock:

Luchunyu via shutterstock.com

Rega Jha posted on BuzzFeed this July 2, 2013:

But, of course, you knew that already.

Source: Ssuaphotos  /  via: shutterstock.com

1. You can curse convincingly in at least five different languages.

You can curse convincingly in at least five different languages.

Source: GraphJam  /  via: cheezburger.com

2. To everyone’s confusion, your accent changes depending on who you’re talking to.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Via: reactiongifs.com

3. And you often slip foreign slang into your English by mistake, which makes you unintelligible to most people.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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4. You’re really good at calculating time differences, because you have to do it every time you call your parents.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Via: reddit.com

5. But you also have your computer programmed to help you out when your math fails.

But you also have your computer programmed to help you out when your math fails.

Image by Rega Jha/Buzzfeed

6. You start getting birthday wishes several hours before your birthday, from your friends farther east than you.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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7. Your passport looks like it’s been through hell and back.

Your passport looks like it's been through hell and back.

Or, more likely, your passports*, in the plural.Source: Charles Taylor  /  via: shutterstock.com

8. You have a love-hate relationship with the question “Where are you from?”

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

You have both a short and long answer ready, and you pick one depending on who’s asking.Source: Miramax Films/Paramount Vantage

9. You run into your elementary school friends in unlikely countries at unlikely times.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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10. You’ve spent an absurd and probably unhealthy amount of time on airplanes.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Source: Paramount Pictures

11. And you definitely know your way around jet-lag recovery.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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12. Your list of significant others’ nationalities reads like a soccer World Cup bracket.

In Arabic: UhebekVia: catwomanlovesyou2.tumblr.com

13. And your circle of best friends is as politically, racially, and religiously diverse as the United Nations.

And your circle of best friends is as politically, racially, and religiously diverse as the United Nations.

Via: eyesareout.wordpress.com

14. Which is great, except that you “hang out” more online than in real life.

Which is great, except that you "hang out" more online than in real life.

Source: XKCD  /  via: xkcd.com

15. So when you do see your best friends, you lose it a little.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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16. You’ve had the most rigorous sensitivity training of all: real life.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Always take your shoes off in a Thai household, but never show the soles of your feet to an Arab.Via: vh1.tumblr.com

17. You get nervous whenever a form needs you to enter a “permanent address.”

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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18. You know that McDonald’s tastes drastically different from country to country.

You know that McDonald's tastes drastically different from country to country.

And you can rank them from best to worst.Via: edition.cnn.com

19. You’re a food snob because you’ve sampled the best and most authentic of every possible cuisine.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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20. You convert any price to two different currencies before making significant purchases.

You convert any price to two different currencies before making significant purchases.

Source: CVM  /  via: shutterstock.com

21. You don’t call it “home.” You call it “passport country.”

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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22. You often find yourself singing along to songs in languages you don’t speak or understand.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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23. You miss BBM, but Viber and WhatsApp will do for now.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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24. You’re the token exotic friend in your non-TCK crew.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Via: littlefairylights.tumblr.com

25. Love it or hate it, you have a strong and well-informed opinion on the I.B. system.

Love it or hate it, you have a strong and well-informed opinion on the I.B. system.

Via: ib-people-problems.tumblr.com

26. The end of the school year was always bittersweet because so many people moved away.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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27. And, no matter how many you say, good-byes never get easier.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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28. But the constant flow of new friends more than made up for it.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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29. Now you feel incredibly lucky to have loved ones and memories scattered all over the globe.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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30. You know better than anyone else that “home” isn’t a place, it’s the people in it.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

Via: weheartit.com

31. And you can’t wait to see where your life adventure takes you next.

31 Signs You're A Third Culture Kid

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Mar Sassine is depicted in pictures as a long white bearded angry specimen, holding a broad sharp sword, slaying a “heretic infidel”. An early version of Christian Daeshis?

Posted on September 3, 2018

Mon cher Ado,( Part 9)

Autrefois, à Mar Sassine, (Saint Sassine church) les femmes occupaient les rangées de gauche et les hommes ceux de droite. Aujourd’hui on se mélange , tout est embrouillé .

Le dimanche et les jours de fête , tout le monde était joliment habillé . Les femmes et les jeunes filles étaient chapeautées ou bien se couvraient la tête avec de belles écharpes .

Les hommes quant à eux ils devaient se décoiffer dès qu’ils franchissaient le porche de l’église . La plupart étaient costumés avec des chemises blanches. Certains d’entre eux s’habillaient encore à l’ancienne avec une chemise blanche sans col , et un serwal (sherwal), et un fez indispensable (tarboush) qui les rehaussait de quelques centimètres et leur donnait l’air vainqueurs .

J’ai toujours en mémoire quelques uns de la génération de mon grand-père qui n’arrivaient pas à se débarrasser de leurs habits folkloriques .

Le temps s’est chargé de les retirer , les uns après les autres , du tableau de mon enfance .

A l’église, ma grand-mère , Farfoura, et ses copines , Olga Boudalha et Marie Farah , occupaient les premiers rangs de gauche . La messe finie, et après avoir offert leurs prières à Mar Sessine afin qu’il intercède pour elles auprès de Dieu qui devrait exaucer leurs vœux , elles se retrouvaient chez l’une ou l’autre pour siroter un de ces bons café qu’elle savaient si bien préparer à feu doux .

Marie Farah était d’une gentillesse à nulle autre pareille ! Quand j’arrivais parfois chez elle pour voir mon copain Charlot, elle m’accueillait avec son sourire Angélique et tenait toujours à m’ offrir une douceur qu’elle avait préparée et qu’elle gardait dans une boîte au fond du buffet .

Tout cela est du passé, même la maison a changé de look , ce n’est plus la belle maison de mon enfance avec son jardin fleuri et le néflier qui nous accueillait à bras ouvert quand il était chargé de ses fruits succulents .
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Il faut savoir que l’église de Mar Sassine est celle de la famille Bejjani, car chaque famille dans notre village à son église , de la sorte qu’on a à Beit-Chabab 16 églises .

Les branches de notre famille sont nombreuses : il y a les Boudebs , les Farah, les Bou-Hanna, les Gebraiel , les Jabr , les Tohme , (les Bouhatab?) et d’autres encore …

A l’église, tout en écoutant la messe, nous observions les jeunes filles aussi belles les unes que les autres!

De ma vie , mon cher Ado, je n’ai rencontré d’aussi belles ! (Miopia might have set in, or definitely I was indifferent then).

Serait ce le fait de l’adolescence ? Ne tarde pas à me rassurer que je ne divague pas ? (Que sais-je? Peut-etre les deux?)

Ce qui m’impressionnait au cours de la messe, c’était lorsque bouna Liés  (Elias), le père de celui qui officie aujourd’hui , car bouna Liés , l’ancien , était marié et avait plus de 10 enfants . (Elias I, Elias II, Elias III…?)

Et bien c’était lorsqu’il entonnait ses prières avec sa voix de ténor , une voix filtrée par barbe blanche qui lui couvrait toute la poitrine et même une partie du ventre , alors que Fares Boudebs faisait la quête avec son panier à la main, précédé de son ventre qu’il avait développé aux cours de ses années passées en Afrique .

Aujourd’hui , c’est son neveu , Josèphe Boudebs qui se charge de faire la quête , à croire que cette charge est allouée aux Boudebs , demain ce sera un des enfants de ma tante Rose qui a eu la belle idée d’épouser un jeune homme de la famille Boudebs. J’attends de voir qui sera le suivant?

Ça m’étonne que Said se charge de cette besogne , encore moins Jean-Pierre , il est donc fort probable que ce sera Farouk ! (Or the wife of one of them?)

(Probablement ce sera une fille des Boudebs? Ca vaudra le sacrifice pour agrandir la quete pour les expenses récente de l’amélioration de l’église. Bernard Gsoub a contribué’ à l’embellissement).

Note: Aunt Marie Farah was the sister of my grandfather Tanios (Antony). Her husband was an elected Mokhtar, someone who knows all the citizens in his quarter and signs on many official transactions. Marie would prohibit her husband to pocket his money dues on the transactions I submitted to him.

New semester, new approach to teaching this complex course of Human Factors in engineering?

Posted on October 26, 2008 (and written in April 6, 2006. Article #42 )

Usually, over 60 students enroll in my class, and the administration refused to split my course into 2 classes to maximize “profit”.

In retaliation, this semester only ten students were allowed to enrolled for my class; one is a computer engineer finishing his degree and the remaining are industrial engineers.  As a reminder, this course is required for Industrial engineers IE

The other engineering disciplines managed to open up new elective courses for each one of them, and were trying to market them at the expense of the wishes of many students who wanted to take my course and their petitions were denied.

With this reduced class number, I had to capitalize on the advantages of smaller classes, once the shock is under control.  

This semester, methods applied in human factors engineering are the focus: Having the previous semester in the body of varied knowledge in the course materials might encourage my class to appreciate the efforts and time invested by the pool of human factors researchers and professionals to make available practical design guidelines for the other engineering professions.

Whereas in the previous semesters I shun away from exposing my class to new methods, except teaching them explicitly the concept of controlled experimentations, like the differences among dependent, independent and controlled variables.

I endeavored to correct their misunderstanding, thinking that there was an abundance of knowledge to assimilate for a meager semester in the previous semesters, I boldly changed direction in my teaching approach by investing more time on exposing and explaining the various methods that human factors might be applying in their profession.  

The first assignment was using excel to compare 40 methods used in human factors, industrial engineering, industrial psychology, and designers of intelligent machines.  

This assignment was a version of article #14, about the taxonomy of methods, from 20 articles that I wrote the previous years and offered them as an introduction to the course, in addition to the course materials.

The students were supposed to select five categories from more than the dozen ways to classifying methods such as definition, purpose, applications, inputs, processes, procedures, output/product, mathematical requirements, disciplines teaching them, advantages, disadvantages, sources/links, connections with other methods, and comments.

I expected that, as engineers, they would logically select for the columns applications, input, procedure, output, and comments because they are what define a method. But somehow, they opted for applications, procedures, advantages, disadvantages, and comments mainly because it is how the internet offer information.  

After 3 students submitted their assignment on time I handed them over 40 summary sheets for the 16 methods used to analyzing a system or a mission, at least 2 sheets for each of 16 methods, one sheet on the purpose, input, procedure, and output/product of the method and the other sheets as examples of what the output is expected to look for presentation.

I then asked the less performing students to concentrate on only the 16 methods for their assignment and most of them did not submit this assignment even two months later.

So far I used up six sessions for methods or related topics such as the methods applied in the process of analyzing systems’ performance, psychophysical procedures, the fundamentals of controlled experimentation methods, human factors performance criteria, and what human factors “measure/data” in their experiments. 

As for the body of knowledge I extract a few facts from experiments and asked them to participate in providing me with the rationales or processes that might explain these facts.

For example, if data show that females on average are two third the strength of males then what could be the underlying causes for that discovery?  

Could that fact be explained by the length of the muscles, the cross section thickness of the muscles, the number of muscle fibers, or the length of the corresponding bones?

Facts are entertaining but I figured that they are big boys to be constantly entertained while shovelful of money is being spent for their university education.

Facts are entertaining but there have to come a time when these big boys stop and wonder at the brain power, Herculean patience, and hard work behind these amusing sessions.

The next assignment was to observe the business of the main family’s bread earner, note down the minute tasks of his typical day work, learn about the business by attempting to generate detailed answers from a questionnaire they have to develop based on a set of investigative query and problems related to human factors performance criteria in the assignment sheet…

And to report back what are the routine and daily tasks that enabled the students to join a university.  

Three students worked with their fathers’ in summer times and enjoyed the assignment; the remaining students could not shake off their 8th grade habits, wrote the questionnaire, mailed it, and waited for the answers.  

I was expecting that the students would apply the methodology they learned in analyzing systems such as activity, decision, and task analyses… but the good stuff was not forthcoming.

To encourage them to cater to the business that they might inherit, I assigned them a lecture project that would generate the requisite analyses with a clear objective of focusing on near-accidents, foreseeable errors, safety of the workers and health conditions in the workplace.

So far, the products of the two quizzes were complete failures. Funny, although most of the questions in the second quiz were from the same chapter sources as the first quiz, it is amazing how ill prepared are the students for assimilating or focusing on the essential ideas, concepts, and methods.

With a third of the semester over, I can points to only two students who are delivering serious investment in time, hard work, and excitement and are shooting for a deserved grade of A.

La Terreur sanitaire s’installe en France : prison ferme pour violation des règles sanitaires

By Karine Bechet-Golovko . 28 mars 2021.

Plus que du Covid, les gens doivent avoir peur, désormais, de leur gouvernement.

La justice et la police deviennent le bras armé de ce système déviant, à vocation totalitaire, qui ouvertement lutte contre l’homme et non contre un virus. (Justice and police systems were meant to serve the statu quo of the power to be)

L’incarcération pour violation des règles de confinement n’est pas uniquement théorique : des gens, pour être allé au magasin ou être sorti prendre l’air, doivent passer 3 mois en prison. Ils en sortiront brisés.

Cette Terreur sanitaire remplit in fine deux objectifs : écraser psychiquement les résistants au nouveau dogme mortifère et faire peur au reste de la population.

L’on aurait pu penser que l’inscription d’un étrange délit de violation des règles confinement avec la mise en place d’un régime liberticide sous excuse sanitaire, au pays de Diderot, du libéralisme, des droits de l’homme, que ces excès normatifs sortis d’esprits malades resteraient lettre morte.

Notre culture aurait dû nous sauver de cette barbarie.

Il est triste de constater que la corruption des esprits est encore plus grave que celle des corps à l’heure covidienne, et même les corps de l’État ont sombré, encore une fois, rongés de l’intérieur depuis longtemps, le vernis a craqué, ils se sont effondrés.

Il ne reste plus rien de la culture politique française.

Les procès-verbaux pleuvent sur les « dissidents », ceux qui ont mal rempli leur autorisation de sortie, ceux qui ne sont pas rentrés à l’heure, ceux qui ont le masque trop baissé et risqueraient de respirer alors que les confinements s’enchaînent, pour finalement que le gouvernement ne déclare que prendre l’air est très bon pour la santé.

Mais la justice, elle, si l’on peut encore l’appeler ainsi, suit son chemin, elle condamne les prises d’air non autorisées ramassées dans les rues de notre beau pays par une police, qui semble être focalisée sur le terrorisme sanitaire.

Le 20 novembre 2020, à Dunkerque, la police renforce les contrôles, interpelle ceux qui n’ont pas une autorisation de sortie dans les règles et derrière la justice condamne les dangereux récidivistes. Qui sont-ils ?

L’un, 22 ans, trafiquant de drogue notoire, condamné à deux mois de prison ferme… pour ne pas avoir d’attestation de déplacement valable. (Non issue?)

Les interpellations sanitaires, vont-elles maintenant servir à compenser l’inefficacité de la politique pénale laxiste ? Ce jeune homme avait eu déjà 12 condamnations. Non, il paraît que ce sera une exception, car la dissidence sanitaire est autrement dangereuse que le trafic de drogue pour le nouvel ordre public :

« La condamnation à une peine de prison est une exception qui s’adresse aux cas les plus compliqués et aux casiers les plus lourds », précise au Monde le procureur de Dunkerque, Sébastien Piève.

Le second est en effet un cas également grave :

« Hakim S., un autre Dunkerquois âgé de 29 ans, a été arrêté le 12 novembre après un quatrième contrôle pour violation du confinement en quelques jours. Lui aussi a été placé en détention le lendemain, à l’issue de sa comparution selon la procédure de plaider-coupable. Il avait déjà été condamné à trois mois de prison ferme lors du premier confinement, en avril, pour les mêmes faits. Cette fois il a été condamné à deux mois ferme ».

Lui aussi est récidiviste – il enfreint régulièrement les règles sanitaires. Ça ressemblerait à du terrorisme sanitaire que l’on s’y méprendrait …

Et qu’ont fait les autres plus récemment ?

A 25 ans, Hakim est interpellé par les policiers d’Agde ce 9 mars, on ne traîne plus, comparution immédiate, trois mois de prison ferme pour avoir violé le couvre-feu en étant en voiture après 18 h … et  avoir « donné des explications fantaisistes ».

Il avait déjà été verbalisé 3 fois, un dangereux récidiviste, il ne semble pas y avoir de délinquants plus dangereux ces derniers temps. Et le procureur confirme :

« Le parquet de Béziers continuera à faire preuve de fermeté à l’encontre des personnes ayant décidé de violer délibérément et de manière réitérée les règles sanitaires ayant pour objet de lutter contre la pandémie », affirmait le procureur Raphaël Balland.

Le pire, tenez-vous bien, est à venir.

Il est des salauds, des vrais, alors que le pays tremble, que dis-je, que le monde tremble de peur, qui osent vouloir fêter leur anniversaire et qui en plus osent aller au magasin pour cela. Ils mériteraient vraiment un camp de rééducation, mais la France étant une démocratie, ils seront simplement incarcérés :

« L’un des mis en cause est contrôlé par les gendarmes à Lure alors qu’il se rend dans un supermarché. C’est le jour de son anniversaire qu’il entend fêter avec un ami. Problème : l’horaire figurant sur son attestation de déplacement est erroné. Les militaires estiment que le document n’est pas conforme ».

Comme c’est un coutumier du fait, déféré devant la justice, qui sans états d’âme puisqu’elle n’en a pas, le condamne à deux mois de prison ferme.

Le second, c’est encore pire, il ose souffrir de la solitude en restant enfermé chez lui – alors que le bonheur intégral de ne plus avoir à se déplacer, à pouvoir tout faire de son canapé, à ne plus avoir la peine de vivre lui est accordée, il ose en souffrir – c’est indécent.

Un véritable déviant.

Condamné lui aussi ce 25 mars à deux mois de prison ferme. L’ on ne plaisante pas avec l’ordre public et le procureur ni le juge n’ont le temps de l’humanisme, voire simplement du bon sens – de toute manière, ce serait beaucoup trop dangereux en ce moment pour leur carrière et leurs nuits de sommeil :

« Le procureur de la République a pointé une difficulté à respecter le cadre légal pour l’un, une défiance à l’égard des gendarmes et de l’institution judiciaire pour l’autre. Le magistrat a demandé, pour chacun d’eux, des peines de deux mois de prison ferme. Des réquisitions suivies par le tribunal ».

La défiance se paie, elle se paie cher ! Car qui sait jusqu’où l’on pourrait aller sinon …

L’ on appréciera, dans tous ces cas, la parfaite retenue des médias, de ces journalistes qui doivent préserver l’illusion d’informer, sans rien dénoncer, sans jamais oser une critique, voire une réflexion qui pourrait interroger le bien-fondé de ces pratiques. Rien.

Une accumulation de mots sortis d’ encéphalogrammes plats, une légitimation sous couvert de neutralité. Ainsi, les médias, avec la police et la justice, sont devenus un des piliers de ce nouveau régime liberticide. Et comme les corps de l’État, ils ont chus.

Et la prison, pour des personnes qui ne sont pas des délinquants, est un excellent moyen pour littéralement broyer leur personnalité, leur résistance.

Citation du rapport de l’ONU sur l’effet du surpeuplement des prisons :

« La détention sape la dignité humaine, amoindrit la santé physique et mentale des détenus et compromet leurs perspectives de réinsertion ».

Or, les prisons françaises sont surpeuplées et les chiffres de mars 2021 montrent une aggravation de la situation :

« Il y avait 62 673 détenus au 1er janvier. La hausse a été de 1 129 personnes entre janvier et février. Avec 60 783 places opérationnelles dans les 188 prisons de France, la densité carcérale globale s’établit au 1er février à 105%, contre 103,4% le mois précédent.

Cette densité est de 122,7% dans les maisons d’arrêt, où sont incarcérés les prisonniers en attente de jugement et ceux condamnés à de courtes peines ».

Ce qui a valu à la France une condamnation par la CEDH en raison des conditions inhumaines de détention. Et les conditions de vie y sont vraiment déplorables :

« Au 1er février, 740 détenus étaient contraints de dormir sur un matelas par terre. Ce nombre, qui permet de mesurer la surpopulation, est en hausse depuis plusieurs mois (422 matelas posés au sol le 1er juillet, 587 le 1er octobre et 688 le 1er janvier) ».

Donc, l’on condamne à de la prison ferme des « délinquants sanitaires », alors que les consignes avaient été données de favoriser les libérations anticipées de véritables délinquants pour éviter la contamination en prison, dont l’on ne parle plus miraculeusement.

La seule explication logique, car il serait trop facile de toujours tout mettre sur le dos d’une incompétence chronique, est que de cette manière la Terreur sanitaire peut être organisée en écrasant les plus indisciplinés et en faisant peur à ceux qui oseraient la désobéissance. 

Aucune dictature ne peut tenir sans terreur, la dictature sanitaire ne fait pas exception.

Karine Bechet-Golovko

source : http://russiepolitics.blogspot.com

Is your volunteering work plainly a folly?

Posted on September 22, 2014

Suppose you are a professional and earning $300 per hour doing your “talented” work.

For example, a consultant of some kind, a photographer, a lawyer, a physician…

If you are a celebrity, showing up to a fund raising event that you are passionate about, your volunteering of time is a great move for publicity.

Otherwise, why volunteer your “precious time” to build birdhouses for endangered species if you have no carpentry skills?

With what you earn per hour, you can easily hire 6 professional carpenters who will produce dozens of well built birdhouses, instead of the lousy one you might be able to pull through

If you feel like volunteering time and effort, consider the jobs as a break in your routine life-style, from the tedious demands in your profession, a day of vacation to relax…

Volunteer folly does not correspond to volunteer work that may increase your skills and enlarge the sphere of your contacts…

Just don’t fall for these follies that corporate abuse new graduates to exploit their skills and talents for peanuts.

Many young people keep volunteering their time with Red Cross, Scout movement… way after they graduated instead of focusing on their career.

I guess this impulse of staying in close contact with the “tribe” is a mighty factor: we are unable to break free from our emotions and feeling secure.

Note: Read Rolf Dobelli’s (The Art of thinking clear)

Have you learned to “indulge” in daydreaming “love encounters”? Learned to daydream stories of romantic relationship, hot inventive sexual practices, bold and fun conversation…?

Try my healthy method that will facilitate your bowel movement (including drinking plenty of water), exercise you heart without undue exertion, stabilizing your physical and mental wellbeing by marchaling an amalgam of various hormones, adrenaline, and enzymes, which do Not come easy in routine lifestyle, and familiarize yourself and by yourself with smart and creative questions and responses pertaining to sexual encounters…?

You will learn that it is easy and very pleasurable to invent creative short stories that involve just a single another partner, thinking of the right environment, the agreeable scenic locations… to meet and discuss lovely conversation with this glamorous and funny partner who initiated this story to get to know you very “intimately”?

I bet you, if you are obese you’ll look “appetizing” in no time, if your nerves are entangled, you’ll relax beautifully, if you lack self confidence you’ll feel the rush of this courage adrenaline flooding your system… And your subconscious is practicing how to encounter any person you fancy to meet

What do you care? Nobody watching or hearing. You own your story, you edit it any which way you like to fit your idiosyncrasies…

You can have a line of persons waiting to be picked up for “analysis and active experiment”. I suggest on focusing on only two “creatures” every week.

Once the roster is depleted, then select the two that have the potential to materialize for active experiment on how far you evolved and changed.

I bet you your behavior will change to the better: You are no longer this staunch introvert and are ready to open communication with people you run into, to know more about them and accept to be humble and kind and engaging.

You’ ll become a genuine funny person, quick in the mind to react to opinions and positions. A Stand up comic potential.

Listen, I don’t know how young you are, if all I said meant to you to whipping out your penis and working on it…this Not the technique that I am teaching. There is no way you can create a lovely and exciting story when you focus on your erection.

Actually, you barely will experience an erection if you think on an “educated” and creative story that is satisfying to your well being.

The bottom line of this method is to select persons you “know”, occasionally have contact with and are Not far away from your location. Grounding yourself in a potential reality is the name of the game.

Lyrics of Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines

Posted  on September 21, 2013

Sezin Koehler posted this Sept. 18, 2013:

Robin Thicke’s summer hit Blurred Lines addresses what he considers to be sounds like a grey area between consensual sex and assault.

The images in this post place the song into a real-life context.  

They are from Project Unbreakable, an online photo essay exhibit, and feature images of women and men holding signs with sentences that their rapist said before, during, or after their assault.   

Let’s begin.

I know you want it.

Thicke sings “I know you want it,” a phrase that many sexual assault survivors report their rapists saying to justify their actions, as demonstrated over and over in the Project Unbreakable testimonials.

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You’re a good girl.

Thicke further sings “You’re a good girl,” suggesting that a good girl won’t show her reciprocal desire (if it exists).

This becomes further proof in his mind that she wants sex: for good girls, silence is consent and “no” really means “yes.”

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Calling an adult a “good girl” in this context resonates with the virgin/whore dichotomy.

The implication in Blurred Lines is that because the woman is not responding to a man’s sexual advances, which of course are irresistible, she’s hiding her true sexual desire under a façade of disinterest.

Thicke is singing about forcing a woman to perform both the good girl and bad girl roles in order to satisfy the man’s desires.

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Thicke and company, as all-knowing patriarchs, will give her what he knows she wants (sex), even though she’s not actively consenting, and she may well be rejecting the man outright.

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Do you like it hurt, do it like it hurt, what you don’t like work?

This lyric suggests that women are supposed to enjoy pain during sex or that pain is part of sex:

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The woman’s desires play no part in this scenario – except insofar as he projects whatever he pleases onto her — another parallel to the act of rape: sexual assault is generally not about sex, but rather about a physical and emotional demonstration of power.

The way you grab me. Must wanna get nasty.

This is victim-blaming.

Everybody knows that if a woman dances with a man it means she wants to sleep with him, right? And if she wears a short skirt or tight dress she’s asking for it, right? And if she even smiles at him it means she wants it, right?  Wrong.  A dance, an outfit, a smile — sexy or not — does not indicate consent.

This idea, though, is pervasive and believed by rapists.

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And women, according to Blurred Lines, want to be treated badly.

Nothing like your last guy, he too square for you. He don’t smack your ass and pull your hair like that.

In this misogynistic fantasy, a woman doesn’t want a “square” who’ll treat her like a human being and with respect. She would rather be degraded and abused for a man’s gratification and amusement, like the women who dance around half naked humping dead animals in the music video.

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The pièce de résistance of the non-censored version of Blurred Lines is this lyric:

I’ll give you something to tear your ass in two.

What better way to show a woman who’s in charge than violent, non-consensual sodomy?

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Ultimately, Robin Thicke’s rape anthem is about male desire and male dominance over a woman’s personal sexual agency. The rigid definition of masculinity makes the man unable to accept the idea that sometimes his advances are not welcome.

Thus, instead of treating a woman like a human being and respecting her subjectivity, she’s relegated to the role of living sex doll whose existence is naught but for the pleasure of a man.

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In Melinda Hugh’s Lame Lines parody of Thicke’s song she sings, “You think I want it/ I really don’t want it/ Please get off it.”

The Law Revue Girls “Defined Lines” response to Blurred Lines notes, “Yeah we don’t want it/ It’s chauvinistic/ You’re such a bigot.”

Rosalind Peters says in her one-woman retort, “Let’s clear up something mate/ I’m here to have fun/ I’m not here to get raped.”

There are no “blurred lines.” There is only one line: consent.

And the absence of consent is a crime.

Sezin Koehler is an informal ethnographer and novelist living in Florida. You can find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Note 1: In one of the book a Japanese magnate in the 80’s told this “joke”: If the girl says No, she means Maybe. If she says maybe then she means yes. If she says Yes then she is a slut

Note 2: Can you discriminate among sexual harassment cases? https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2013/05/25/can-you-identify-sexual-harassment-by-facts-circumstantial-evidences-or-plainly-the-perception-of-

Should my personal experience be generalized?

Is lack of taste for luxury sufficient an enough factor to draw conclusion for lacking artistic evaluation?

Since a child and throughout my upbringing I didn’t receive any weekly stipend, and never asked for one. I just relied on Christmas and Easter occasions to get the ritual cash gifts.

It was my responsibility to arrange that whatever cash I received to stretch an entire year.

Though my parents were very well off compared to my relatives, I felt poor to indulge on luxury consumer goods.

Actually, I don’t recall having noticed any change in the clothing of the students or whatever could now be considered peer pressures in resembling to one another.

I relied on my mother fashion style (a great fashionable seamster) to select my clothing, shoes, corrective eye glasses… As long as they fit, and were functional then there were no problems.

I never was invited to participate in the selection of my gifts and outfits.

I think even my younger sister did Not set a trend to pressure my mother and father to re-evaluate their behavior toward the “rights'”of their children to have a small say in what they purchase for them.

I wonder if the new generations accept Not to participate in their appreciation of the gifts.

I have been wondering why my appreciation of artistic creativity is to be desired?

Is it lack of appreciation and discrimination on the quality and luxury of consumer products, or simply my lack of interest in observing changes around me?

Kind of basically lacking social integration and association?

An introvert type who loved to read novels as soon he came home from school?

Anyway, it Not sufficient to lack luxury initiation in order to lack artistic appreciation, and vice versa. Though it is necessary for talented evaluators.

Commencement address by Adrian Tan. Part 2.

Posted on April 21, 2012

Guest-of-honour at NTU convocation ceremony, Adrian Tan, author of The Teenage Textbook (1988), delivered this speech to the graduating class of 2008. I split the speech into two posts, the first part expands on “Don’t work”, “life is a mess” and “Don’t tell the truth”.

If you missed part 1: https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2012/04/19/part-1-dont-work-dont-tell-the-truth-be-hated-commencement-address-by-adrian-tan/

Be hated. I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be hated.

It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet, every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many.

That hatred is so strong that it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

You don’t have to be evil to be hated.

In fact, it’s often the case that you are hated precisely because you are trying to do right by your own convictions.

It is far too easy to be liked: One merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then, you will gravitate towards the center and settle into the average. That cannot be your role.

There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself.

Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

Fall in love with someone. The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false.

Modern society is anti-love.

We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It is far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise.

Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness.

In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. 

Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor.

Love grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find that, when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart. (Provided that face and body are about normal? I find that having a good sense of humour is the main factor)

You will find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

Don’t work. Be hated. Love someone

Sorted out not long ago

Posted on March 24, 2012

I watched the second half of a documentary that made sense to me.  The topic is: “How mankind separated from the chimp species?”

About 8 million years ago,  a few types of chimps made the regions close to river beds and lakes their residence of choice.  You can always see chimps, particularly the younger ones, jumping from tree branches and rocks into rivers and repeating these feats until exhaustion: They love to jump in water…

Our ancestors, while jumping and playing in rivers and in the lakes, were observing the fish and the underwater universe.

They caught a fish by hand and liked this new food substitute.  They discovered that eating one fish saved them from the tedious hours of searching and eating fruits.  Consequently, they could devote more time playing and jumping into the river and cooling off.

Gradually, their techniques and methods of catching fish improved, and fish was their main source for necessary protein to developing their brain…Obviously, for another couple of million years, they kept balancing on tree branches and hopping from tree to tree and eating plenty of fruit, while eating more fish…

By the by, our ancestors learned to swim and go deeper into the river.  How that happened?

The buoyancy of water made their weight lighter and they felt that they could walk on two legs in water much easier than previous attempts on the dry land…and they could catch fish more efficiently standing on their hind legs…

The muscles of the back and stomach grew fitter to sustain an erect position, and they could walk for longer distance on the dry land…

They learned to float on the fallen and rotten tree branches, and many other feats…

Natural calamities and clan rivalry pushed many clans to venture deeper inland: They didn’t need dense forest trees to progress effortlessly…

Most probably, the chased out clans converged to another river tributaries: They love to jump into rivers and swim and eat fish…

A few of these clans had to climb hills, mountains, semi-desert regions, even cold regions

The problem was that rivers up north are colder, more violent, and freeze most of the year: The daily fish catching exercise is changed into hunting red meat smaller animals to compensate for their lack of protein available in fish… The prey got larger as the brain grew larger, more organized, and more violent by the kill…

For simplicity, I call these mankind species that transferred to colder regions, mountain, and high altitude plateau as “Mountain species“, as opposed to the “Sea species” of the lower altitude lands and river delta regions

Mountain species grew harder bonesheavier legs and buttocks, and swimming was harder for them. Eating red meat poisoned the Mountain species, physically and mentally, and they acquired violent mood swings and insanity was prevalent among them:  They killed their own kind more frequently, and occasionally ate their victims.

The life-span of Mountain specie was significantly (statistically) shorter than the river species because of the more dangerous activities, more prevalence of aches and pains in the lower back, swelling knees and ankles, heart attacks… 

They preferred to attack neighboring clans who were more settled and engaged in agriculture, and abducted females to serve them in old age (life expectancy of around 30 years at best)

River species disseminated falsehoods that the mountain species had great characteristics and physical strength…just to encourage more to vacate the crowded river regions

The river specie knew full well that the clans perched on mountain tops were actually a bunch of cowards:  They preferred to have their ass freeze rather than come down and reclaim their right to “eat fish”

Six decades ago, the two species have been merging. How?

1. Water sources are polluted and toxic: Fish, fruit, vegetable, cereal…are all poisoned from herbicides, pesticides, chemical fertilizers,  toxic waste…Mankind is poisoned from the womb…and growing violent by the years and certified insane…

2. Except in the rich and developed States, with affordable indoor chlorinated swimming pool and accessible clean beaches to the common people…, mankind is acquiring  the characteristics of the mountain species type at increased rate, and turning more violent, and heavier in the hips, and suffering from musculoskeletal chronic ailments...

3. With the advent of computer and TV… our standing position skeletal is less and less performing

I can conjecture that within less than another 6 decades, mankind with revert back to the “four-legged posture”:  The hands will not touch the floor directly because extension appliances to the arms will be adorned by “hand-shoes” for restricted short-distance ambulatory exercises around the restricted studios…

Note 1:  The documentary inspired the river species and how mankind managed to walk in an erect position.  The rest of the story is of my conjectured reconstituted history of mankind

Note 2:  https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2011/05/01/how-the-dog-pack-homo-erectus-went-awry-keep-running-properly/


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