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Is it mostly “mislove”? Irrespective of Mid-life crisis?
Note: Re-edit of “Is it Love, Regret, Mid-life crisis…or “Misslove”? April 1, 2012″
We really don’t regret the dreadful acts: We regret not having made more of them when society considered us to be at a stupid and reckless age…
We regret not having far more sex, not going out with more blind dates, beautiful women or thought they were too above our condition to talk to, lovely girls we dared not approach…
And ending up with the recollection of pretty much a dry desert of a romantic life, tumbleweeds ever blowing any which way…
You are happiest when your mind wander the least at the task you are doing: Mainly when you are having sex…
One of the partner will keep reminding you to focus on the job.
Even in close battle contact, having sex is a happier moment than shooting at someone else.
Young people and middle-age people who sign on to go to war are the one who were not “having any“: They are delusional that if they could not have sex in peacetime that wartime will bring far higher opportunities, sort of the army bringing in and paying for whores…
Best time to die for men is when your sex engagement seems to have finally reached its climax in performance…of what you could ever achieve later on.
For women, climax is an addiction, and the best time to die is when the offer is getting rare…or of much lower quality in endurance or shame attitude…Sort of the male partner having this attitude: “I don’t give a damn what you think of my performance; I just got some...”
As Marcus Berkmann wrote:
“Heterosexual men in mid-life crisis have a strong sense that, in mild weather conditions, there are more attractive women than they ever dreamed off in their youth.
Where were the attractive girls when I was younger?
The answer is that at the age of 55, men have included in their gawking a vaster range of women, starting from age 15 to 50…”
The trick is that sex was displaced to the realm of the mind: The mind is a far livelier, vivid, imaginative part that never rest or take a break from lusting…and going nowhere but circling in a vicious loop.
Trust is a one-year old baby laughing when you throw him in the air: How much trust is in any relationship? That is why sex-toys are the rage.
The largest group are the divorced people, and they enjoy the highest rate of sex frequency in an average month (6 to 10 times), and only 1% of this group admitted having none, compared to all the other unhappy cluster groups.
No wonder why people divorce in trove within the first 7-year stunt of marriage.
In the 18th century, marriages didn’t fail: They ended. How so?
Life expectancy was so short that 25% of weddings were of the re-marriage kind.
In any case, sex was truly in the 5th position on the list of priority in marriage after trust, companionship, sense of humor, and financial stability…
The extended family lived and slept together in one room…
Mid-life crisis has nothing to do with age: It is a sudden realization.
The cause of the crisis is:
“You feel suddenly that you reached an impasse, and you are in no mood for making a U-turn promptly”. By the time you decide for a U-turn, you have made a fool of yourself so abundantly that you have no shame anymore…
Mid-life crisis is the realization that we truly are going to die. Anytime soon.
And we dare not contemplate “When am I going to be next?”
We want to forget this sudden reality, anyway that tempt us, especially having more varied sex opportunities…We don’t want to die having this Regret of “Not had enough sex”
Mid-life crisis people feel that their varieties and intensity of shame and fear are far less in number or acuity.
I think that in critical situations, particularly when a childhood memory plays the catalyst, mid-age sense of shame and fear are much higher than in youth period.
In any case, Jealousy is still there, more intense and livelier.
Jealousy simply lacks the vital space of larger interactions with people, and the occasional encounters are very short, and the stamina to act on it is horribly reduced…
In Mid-life you hear more often “Let me present you my mistress, lover, girlfriend, special friend…” How about the more appropriate and dignified term “Misslove“?
In youth, mankind is an animal in the flesh; at older age he is an animal in the mind.
With rare exceptions, those very few in the very end of the tail of the “normal curve”, the rest of us 99.999% have no foundations to claim superiority over any specie.
We just take umbrage based on the performances of the very few.
And this is not a logical exercises!
This essay applies to the female gender too.
‘Any Addict Who Asks for Help Will NOT Be Charged’
The police chief from Gloucester, Massachusetts, explains how his department is going beyond arrests to fight drug addiction.
Julie Beck. May 11, 2015. Is a senior associate editor at The Atlantic, where she covers health.
These increases go hand in hand—surveys done by the National Institute on Drug Abuse have found that half of young heroin users report first having abused prescription opioids.
In response to all this, and in the wake of four local deaths linked to drug overdose so far in 2015, the police department of Gloucester, Massachusetts announced a new policy on its Facebook page last week.
The post, which now has more than 27,000 likes, reads:
PLEASE READ THIS POST:
On Saturday, May 2, the City held a forum regarding the opiate crisis, and on how Gloucester has many resources for help. We are poised to make revolutionary changes in the way we treat this DISEASE. Your Police Department vowed to take the following measures to assist, beginning June 1, 2015:
– Any addict who walks into the police station with the remainder of their drug equipment (needles, etc) or drugs and asks for help will NOT be charged.
Instead we will walk them through the system toward detox and recovery. We will assign them an “angel” who will be their guide through the process.
Not in hours or days, but on the spot.
Addison Gilbert and Lahey Clinic have committed to helping fast track people that walk into the police department so that they can be assessed quickly and the proper care can be administered quickly.
– Nasal Narcan has just been made available at local pharmacies without a prescription. The police department has entered into an agreement with Conleys and is working on one with CVS that will allow anyone access to the drug at little to no cost regardless of their insurance.
The police department will pay the cost of nasal Narcan for those without insurance. We will pay for it with money seized from drug dealers during investigations.
We will save lives with the money from the pockets of those who would take them.
We recognize that nasal Narcan is not the answer, but it is saving lives and no one in this City will be denied a life-saving drug for this disease just because of a lack of insurance. Conleys has also agreed to assist with insurance requests from those who do not have any.
– I will personally travel to Washington, D.C., with the support of Mayor Theken, the City Council, Sen. Bruce Tarr, and Rep. Ann-Margaret Ferrante, on May 12 and 13.
There I will meet with Senators Elizabeth Warren and Ed Markey and Congressman Seth Moulton. I will bring what Gloucester is accomplishing and challenge them to change, at the federal level, how we receive aid, support, and assistance.
I will bring the idea of how far Gloucester is willing to go to fight this disease and will ask them to hold federal agencies, insurance companies, and big business accountable for building a support system that can eradicate opiate addiction and provide long-term, sustainable support to reduce recidivism.
I am asking for your help. Like this post, send it to everyone you can think of and ask them to do the same. Speak your comments.
Create strength in numbers. I will bring it with me to show how many voters are concerned about this issue. Lives are literally at stake.
I have been on both sides of this issue, having spent seven years as a plainclothes narcotics detective. I have arrested or charged many addicts and dealers.
I’ve never arrested a tobacco addict, nor have I ever seen one turned down for help when they develop lung cancer, whether or not they have insurance.
The reasons for the difference in care between a tobacco addict and an opiate addict is stigma and money. Petty reasons to lose a life.
Please help us make permanent change here in Gloucester.
Chief Campanello
This is a radical approach, and stands in stark contrast to the reluctance exhibited by Governor Mike Pence in Indiana, who authorized a temporary needle-exchange program in Scott County, but continued to voice his general opposition to such programs.
The response in Facebook comments to Gloucester’s initiative is mostly positive, and the police department has been cordially answering negative comments.
In response to one woman who wrote, in part, “You did it to yourself, you knew it was a bad choice before you did it and you chose to anyways. Take responsibility for your own actions,” the GPD Facebook replied, “Thank you for your comment. Please read the research before you call it a choice. I agree that no one forces a pill down your throat, but once you’re at the stage of addiction, the brain and body take over … it’s not your choice … I did this work for a long time and believed how you do at one point. But I’ve read the research and I’ve changed my opinion.”
Julie Beck: How have you seen the opiate crisis affecting Gloucester?
Leonard Campanello: What we see in Gloucester is no different than what we see in a lot of other communities. It’s pervasive, there’s not much in the way stopping the supply. Even though my detectives are out there every day intercepting or doing investigations that have to do with dealing, the supply keeps coming and it keeps coming nationally, not just here in the Northeast.
I think what we’re talking about here is a paradigm shift in police thinking, of what we’re trying to accomplish. In Gloucester we have a really really good foundation of collaboration between the local treatment centers, hospital groups, health organizations, and the police department, and we want to capitalize on that.
Our philosophy is that the problem’s everywhere, it’s been everywhere for quite a while, and we’re just not hiding it in Gloucester. We’re going to take care of the problem in Gloucester. That’s the difference.
If I could point to one thing, I guess it would be the fact that we had four suspected overdose deaths in the first three months of 2015. So it was a call to action, and this is the result.
No one starts out putting a needle into their arm. Nine times out of 10, it’s a pill form which is misused. The stigma of addicts has to be eliminated, because what we’re seeing is not the guy living under a bridge and coming out just to get his drugs.
What we’re seeing is people who may have started in a very legitimate place of pain and had a pain management schedule that included opioids, and because of the way opioids work, became addicted. When they were no longer legally available to them, they turned to illegal means, and when it became too expensive, they turned to a much cheaper and more available opioid, which is heroin. And that’s when it gets deadly.
Campanello: I’ve been a police officer for 25 years, I was in another community, Saugus, Massachusetts, and took the chief’s job here about three years ago. In [Saugus] I was in a plainclothes narcotics capacity for seven years.
We got great results, we took a lot of dealers off the street, but it never impacted the users. Addicts could still get drugs readily. I think the policing community is starting to be aware that there is no such thing as the crime of addiction.
The ancillary crimes that go with it, possession of drugs, sometimes desperation to get the drugs leads to theft, burglary, things like that, those obviously are crimes.
But addiction itself is not a crime, it’s a disease. There’s an expectation among the public and even those who use this drug that the health community is there to help and to treat it as a disease, but the police department is there to treat it as a crime. And when we start seeing lives lost because of it, and we don’t see any results from an enforcement standpoint, we have to start looking at it differently.
Beck: What prompted the forum that you held on May 2? Who came, what did people have to say?
Campanello: On March 6, the police department put a Facebook post out, it basically said: “We’ve had four deaths. This is our stance. If you’re not involved in any type of drug activity, please be our eyes and ears out there, stay informed, contact us when you see suspicious activity.
If you are involved in drugs and you need help, please come to us.
If you are a dealer who is selling solely to profit off the misery of others, then we have no use for you, we’re going to find you, and get out of the city.”
That got us about 37,000 hits on Facebook, so we knew that there was widespread interest in the topic, and very polarized interest in the topic, and as a result of that, the health department, the city council, the mayor’s office, and the police department got a forum together.
Beck: After the forum, you created the policy that if people bring drugs into the station, you’re not going to charge them with possession?
Campanello: Well, that starts on June 1. We needed to see what the response would be like, we needed to see public support for this. We’re closing in on 1.9 million Facebook hits right now, so we know that we’re onto something. The support has been overwhelming from state officials, the attorney general’s office, the governors office, and now we go to Washington to press that issue there.
Beck: Is this new program a big leap from the way the police department was approaching the problem before?
Campanello: I think it’s a leap in the thought process. We wanted to create a safe haven so that there was no fear between the police department and those who really needed help. When an addict is ready for help, you don’t want to miss that opportunity.
If it’s 3 o’clock in the morning and the addict has nowhere to go, we want them to come to us. And we’ll provide that service. Historically, law enforcement prosecutes illegal crimes. We’re trying to make a differentiation between the crimes that are committed by the addicts and the addiction itself. I think that’s what polarizes people, is that a typically conservative establishment is taking a relatively unilateral approach.
Some may be members of the community who want to help, some may be recovering addicts, some may be trained as recovery coaches, but all will have the same purpose in mind: to support the addict in the beginning steps of their journey towards recovery, through the mired system of emergency-room intakes and assessments, and the follow-up treatments.
We know that when an addict seeks help on their own and they go to the hospital, there are a thousand different things going on that can make them leave that hospital—if the wait is too long, if they meet someone who they feel intimidated by, things like that. So we want that second voice there to reassure them and to motivate them to stay and get the treatment.
Beck: Like a sponsor.
Campanello: Almost like a sponsor, but this is a very simple answer. It’s as if you and I were at the dentist, and you don’t like having your cavities filled, and I was sitting there saying, “You can get through this.” It can be that simple. Or it can be more complicated, which is why we hope as the program progresses, we have recovery coaches who are specially trained in this and can offer even more assistance.
Beck: You’re going to have naloxone [brand name Narcan, a drug shown to often reverse the effects of opiate overdose] available at a local CVS. Was that difficult to get set up?
Campanello: We originally had an agreement with a local pharmacy, Conley’s. CVS was involved in the talk about this from the very beginning, but obviously they’re a regional entity and there were a couple of hoops to jump through there, but they have since come on board as well.
What we have is a system in which if you have insurance, you’re getting your nasal Narcan for $3 a pop, if you don’t have insurance, you’re getting it for $120 a dose.
We didn’t think it was a good enough reason to deny someone a life-saving medication due to failure to pay or failure to have insurance. We knew that we could assist, in such an ironic way, by using our seized moneys from drug investigations—[for the money] to go from the hands of the people that put the poison in the addicts’ hands, back to saving lives of the addicts.
Campanello: The prescription part is deregulated, so anybody can go in and get it, but they still have to say who they are and attest to that they don’t have insurance.
Conley’s has agreed to assist people who don’t have insurance with gaining either public insurance through MassHealth, or private insurance. So they’ll explore their options while they’re there, but no one will be denied Narcan because they don’t have insurance or they can’t pay for it.
Beck: They’ll just bill it to the police department instead?
Campanello: Exactly. And they’re able to get one dose every 30 days, so we don’t have repeat customers. And we’re not the federal government, we can’t support this program throughout Massachussetts. We need legislators, we need other cities and towns to step up and decide what they want to do with it as well.
Beck: You’re going to Washington, D.C. soon, right? To talk with legislators?
Campanello: Yeah, Senators Warren, Markey, and Representative Seth Moulton. And I was just asked to meet with the Office of National Drug-Control Policy director. So it’s gotten a lot of attention and we’re happy about that. Hopefully we push some envelopes there as well.
Beck: What are you going to be asking for?
Campanello: I can only speak for what works in Gloucester. I think that for us, law enforcement needed to take a more active role, a more compassionate role, in exploring the social problem of addiction rather than the criminal problem of addiction. So that’s what we did.
I think law enforcement in general needs to focus on supply as well, but we need to be doing much more with demand. I think that we’re getting close to really proving that attacking the supply is not working and I think that we need to spend a lot more time on the demand.
This initiative is one of the ways that we can be compassionate, progressive, bipartisan, and unilateral, because we’re talking about saving lives, and I think the bottom line is it’s the right thing to do.
No matter what entity we are, whether we’re the police, whether we’re responsible for the medical field, mental illness, anything, I think this is the right thing to do.
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Posted by: adonis49 on: February 23, 2014
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Addiction must be dissociated from the notion of Habit
Last night I had this conversation with myself.
For the dialogue to get interesting, I opted to be talking with an imaginary beautiful and thoughtful woman.
It’s cold and I decided to get in bed early. I’m not sleepy and weaved this conversation.
I have realized lately that waking up in the morning requires from me too much work and determination: I don’t want to get up from my warm bed and face another day loaded with the same activities and chores, with no open horizon to dream of.
I wouldn’t mind staying in bed until I feel bored from bed. And I reached a tacit understanding with mother Not to wake me up before 8: 30 am, as the sun is shining and the weather is warmer.
It is supposed to be winter, but this year is as sunny as summer time, but dry and cold by the evening. For my conversation, I invented a situation where I could afford to hire a beautiful and energetic helper.
She is to be good in mechanics and electricity and an excellent handy woman and drives safely. I’m thinking: “I’ll suggest to my soft spoken helper to give me in order to wake up a vigorous rub over the bed cover and ruffle thoroughly my hair, listening to a calm classical music and my helper whispering: “All the people you will be meeting with today are gentle person, they have an acute sense of humor and are very compassionate types…”
The day comes when she blurted out: “I feel that you no longer mind waking up” The irony was not lost on me and I replied: “The new process of waking up has turned up to be efficient”
She said: “Habits are the secrets to what we like, can suffer, and are”
I suggested: “May be it is the idea that we like a certain habit that makes it endearing”
She retorted softly: “We have no conscious idea how we build a habit, and when we realize that it has become a habit, we start to imagine all kinds of advantageous excuses and reasons for sticking to the habit”
I tend to agree with her statement, but I wanted to linger in that conversation and said: “I’m a smoker and I recall that the first time I tried a cigarette, it had the nastiest taste I could imagine. Go figure. I didn’t like the cigarette, but I might have liked the idea that “cool people around me are smokers”
She said: “In my mind, habit has a good connotation, like hard working, perseverance, consistency, compassionate, tending to details…These kinds of good habits”
She resumed with some vehemence: “It is a shame that we attach the notion of habit to addiction. A good writer should confront this linkage and association and invent new words and terms more suited to addiction and conserve the good connotation of habit.”
I admit that we live out of sets of habits and we are what our habits are. Addiction should be a subsidiary factor that may define who we are.
Adonis Diaries 
Notes and comments on FB and Twitter. Part 27
Posted by: adonis49 on: May 6, 2017
Notes and comments on FB and Twitter. Part 27
Lebanese women don’t give ride to anyone. Maybe this is the reason Saudi Kingdom don’t allow women to drive: The Saudi Princes have visited Lebanon in the last decade and didn’t like our state of affairs: women driving.
Il n’ y aurait jamais preneur pour ton ame. Tout ton talent n’ atteindra pas la phase de jouer la derniére balle: cette balle est hors de ta portée. Et si tu insiste, l’ angoisse t’attrapera á la gorge.
Si je te fais mal, je te jure que je souffrirais. Si je n’ai pas l’intention de te faire mal, qu’est-ce que je fais ici, avec toi?
Our curiosity cannot vanquish our latent impotency
You may cheat all you want. If you cannot take advantage of the occasional good hands, you’ll lose it all.
Play poker with your new dream business. For many years you’ll play with lousy pair of cards. Play well with the occasional strong hands you were dealt with.
Addiction is this trend we acquire: we are ready to bet on every thing on a whim of the moment. A whim that has no value to no one, but to yourself.
If sciences manage to make “God of How” dissappear, they ‘ll never cross the first phase for “God of Why”
La terre est encombrée de 8 millianrs d’humains avides, egoists, de ceux qui veulent exclure, envieux d’espaces vitaux, de zones d’influence, de securité, d’independance mafieuses
La haine n’est jamais une banale realité. La haine n’oublie pas une gifle, une frayeur…meme apres 1,000 ans.
La haine fut detournée sur l’ étranger, l’ apostat, le maitre, l’esclave, le pere, la mere… La haine contre le Capital est demeuré theorique.
On doit commencer par considerer la justice sociale, si on est serieux de se render maître de son destin
Je reve d’etre ruiné par une femme courageuse, physiquement, moralement et le peu de sous que j’ai: C’est bon de constater d’avoir fait quelque chose de la vie.
N’ import, tend toujours la main de l’humour a ceux qui sont plus manchots que les pinguins
L’humour, une tendance a désamorcer le reel, au moment ou il peut nous tomber dessus.
L’humour est la seule arme durant les instants de triomphe sur l’adversité
Je m’y suis réfugié dans un monde, a travers les personnages que j’inventais, une vie pleine de sens, de justice et de compassion
Toutes les limites a ne pas franchir dans la survie de le terre et l’ humanité furent menées par les gens du commun: Ils croyaient obeir a des authorités bienveillantes, des hommes de savoir accredités, de confiance et de bonnes intentions.
La gangrene sévisse au Sud et s’étend au Nord et la mutille. La ligne de partage entre les colonisateurs et colonisés pendant des siécles est une faille qui a grandi démesurement par l’indifference et l’exploitation sans retenu.
Every week, hundreds are drowned crossing the sea to Italy. Thousands of refugees are experiencing the coldest period in makeshift tents. A century of colonizers’ indifference and massive exploitation
It is a privilege to sleep and wake up, when You want. If you cannot suffer these privileges, why retire?
I like your collant: 7abeb ejweelek yeh
You don’t care to live, or others to live. Why cannot you respect your mother? Yours and all the mothers went through the same toil and suffering to raise kids
Les heritages empoisonnés: laisser a l’arrogant successeur les actes graves que la societé n’a pas voulue confronter durant des decennies
Methodes de natalité selective (boy or girl): Quand la technology et la medicine s’associent a une idee de la superiorite du male, on ne trouve plus de femelles pour constituer une famille.
On doit avoir compris ces derniers decennies, que le chao est plus redouté que n’importe quel despotisme. La reorganization d’une societe malmenée par le chao n’est pas une affaire de changement de governement
Ligne de partage et de demarcation entre Nord/ Sud, coloniaux/ indigenes, lois civil/ lois ancestral, civilization/culture pittoresque, expat/immigre, dissident d’un system/opposant d’un despot… La faille est delibérement faite trop grande pour ne pas permetre la contagion du Sud au Nord
Benis sont ceux qui, a un age avancé, ont le privilege des enfants: progresser pas á pas, re-apprendre les gestes et les joies.
Il y a des reflexes ancestrals qui conduisent a notre perte quand l’instinct de survie n’est plus adapté a des realités nouvelles.
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