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Essential questions to a satisfactory living

During conversations with my coach, Bob Hancox, he asks, “Would you like to be coached?” When I say yes, I know I’ll hear a series of skillful questions.

Rene Petrin says, “Mentoring is a transformational relationship. Build the relationship – the outcomes will follow. Building relationships is about trust.” Petrin adds, “Skilled mentors ask great questions.

By Dan Rockwell?

Coaching vs. mentoring:

  1. What do you understand about this situation?
  2. What have you done?
  3. What has worked?
  4. What hasn’t worked?
  5. What forces are at work?
  6. What are the potential consequences?
  7. Who does this impact?
  8. What are the obstacles?

Distinctions between coaching and mentoring help us discuss individual features and techniques but they overlap.

Questions – essential to success:

Regardless of definitions, coaches and mentors ask great questions.

Great questions such as:

  1. Open windows.
  2. Challenge assumptions.
  3. Destabilize.
  4. Move toward clarity.
  5. Aren’t agenda driven.

Three types of mentoring questions:

Petrin suggests mentors First to explore. Second, ask questions that seek solutions. Third, ask process questions that evaluate mentor-mentee dynamics and explore what’s been learned (Is that a kind of infusing an experimental mind process of thinking?)

Powerful Questions:

Petrin suggests mentors ask things like:

  1. What do you understand about this situation?
  2. What have you done?
  3. What has worked?
  4. What hasn’t worked?
  5. What forces are at work?
  6. What are the potential consequences?
  7. Who does this impact?
  8. What are the obstacles?

I’ve found either/or thinkers come up with two options.

I like repeating their options and asking, “What’s the third option?

Resources:

Rene Petrin’s resources.

Bob Hancox co-authored, “Coaching for Engagement.” It’s filled with great questions.

Facebook contributors provided their suggestions for great questions on 8/2/2012.

What questions aid the coaching/mentoring process?

What are the  components of great questions?

The Seven Powers of Powerful Questions

Questions are the most powerful statements you make.

  1. Questions expose. Your questions tell me who you are.
  2. Questions invite thought. Answers end thought.
  3. Questions enlighten.“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question,” Decouvertes.
  4. Questions overcome resistance. People naturally question statements. On the other hand, ask an honest question and people lean in.
  5. Questions enable ownership. When I tell you the answer, I own it. If you arrive at the answer, you own it.
  6. Questions reveal what matters. Ask about what you care about.
  7. Questions establish focus.

More on focus:

When I started riding motorcycles, I learned they drifted in the direction I looked. A dangerous thing if you like to look around.

Focus establishes direction.

What you persistently ask about gets done.

Illustration:

An organization that believes in relationship before opportunity could ask their employees for the names of the people they met that day.

Questions express values.

 

Big question:

During a recent conversation with Scott Cochrane, Executive Director of the Leadership Center Willow Creek Canada, I heard a question that sent chills up my spine.

Scott went to a meeting and asked this compelling, outward facing question, “What do you need to see for our country to change?” I feel purpose behind his words.

Good but not great questions:

  1. Declining companies asking, “How can we stop our decline?”
  2. Failing leaders asking, “How can we better lead?
  3. Inefficient organizations asking, “How can we increase efficiencies?”
  4. Financially strapped businesses asking, “How can we make more money?”

If you or your organization is falling short, you may be asking questions that fall short. Ask questions with purpose.

Try asking the most valuable of all questions: “How can we best bring value to those we serve?” for example.

You won’t get the right answer until you ask the right question.

Follow Scott Cochrane on twitter: @WScottCochrane

What are the great questions leaders ask?


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