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Do you live amid hard of hearing community?Are you able to bypass social background noise?

As you get hard of hearing, and I am not there yet, but living among hard of hearing parents and people, you discover two distinct types of people:

Those who keep their quiet, and those who keep talking.

The ones who stay silent, on the premises that they are unable to hear questions, or prefer not to submit to the humiliating habit of “What? Would you please repeat your question? Not as loud please. Move your lips more intelligibly…”

The ones who never cease of talking prefer to be constantly on the offensive, in both meaning of offensive. Since they are unable to listen, they decide to describe all the ache and pain of their daily living, blaming everyone around for their nonchalance toward her “few” requests…

Since at this advanced age many people in the larger neighbourhood have passed away, for one reason or other, the talk revolves around reminiscing on the dead ones, how we knew them, how we failed to get intimate with, the kinds of diseases we are afflicted with…

Actually, when the non-stop hard of hearing talker get started, and immediately, they are not in the mood of hearing other people telling their stories:  They cut off the speaker frequently for questions that the storyteller was supposed to fill them in.

For example, when, who, where, how…They want answers to these questions because they have no patience to sit still for the entire story of the other one…

How wonderful it would be if the hard of hearing talker could write their diaries: Everyone would benefit from the extensive details of describing a locality and the hardship of living in old age…reading these exciting and uplifting diaries in the silence of the night…

I am leaning to conjecture that older hard of hearing people revert to their childhood behaviors.

The quiet ones were quiet as kids, on the ground that they had no questions for the stupid adults. Simple because they are smart enough to realize that as kids, they are in the stupid stage and need some growing up before learning to ask the “right questions“…

The breathless talker (and short on breathe too) were kids who never stopped asking questions, on the assumption of the adults that they are, the curious kinds of kids, they want to know everything, even if they refuse to listen to what the answer is, and keep cutting off the adults stories….

You might have read these statements very often: “I’m often stunned by the lack of questions that adults are prepared to ask. When you see kids go on a field trip, the questions pour out of them. Never ending, interesting, deep… even risky. How wonderful…”

I guess it depends of whom is submitting to these questioning and how they think the questions of these turbulent kids are that deep and risky…

“And then the resistance kicks in and we apparently lose the ability to asking questions…” The ability will inevitably kicks in as we get hard of hearing, you can bet on it, though not in the same wide range of the kids’ types of questions, or the ones expected by Seth Godin

For example, “is the weather the only thing you can think to ask about? A great question is one you can ask yourself, one that disturbs your status quo and scares you a little bit…” Like what kinds of scary questions?

Is it like: “I am not interested that people do die. What I need to know is that why me?”, or

“When am I going to die? When am I going to win the lottery ticket, when am I going to have an entire day of rest, when am I going to be able to block background social noises, at what stage of preparation is the next US preemptive war, and launched against which “terrorist State”?

Any “rogue State” whose dictator refused to purchase “sophisticated”, expensive, and useless military hardware weapons from the USA, England or France… Any State with promising raw materials whose penniless dictator has declared his wish to build a nuclear bomb…

Scary question like what?

Like when the US Special Forces nabbed Qadhafi and he asked them “What do you want from me?”.  Qadhafi must have asked the US Administration that question when negotiating the dismantling of Libya nuclear installations in 2001.  Anyhow, nobody believe that any US Administration ever has taken seriously its “written oats“…

Scary question like “What are the proper processes to build an international financial institution, to prepare to run for Congress…?”

Scary question like “How can we pressure the system in the US to start taking seriously the 15% of the population that modern market oriented production system has no use of them, and give them a job to live decently as full citizens, and away from ghetto mentality…”

Scary question like “How to build a reputation that’s worth owning and an audience that cares?”

Have you learned to listen? Are you still in the mood of asking questions?

As Seth Godin wrote: “If we put a number on it, people will try to make the number go up. Now that everyone is a marketer, many people are looking for a louder megaphone, a chance to talk about their work, their career, their product… and social media looks like the ideal soapbox, a free opportunity to shout to the masses.

But first, we’re told to make that number go up.

Increase the number of fans, friends and followers, so your shouts will be heard. The problem of course is that more noise is not better noise. In Corey’s words, the conventional, broken wisdom is:

  • Follow a ton of people to get people to follow back
  • Focus on the number of followers, not the interests of followers or your relationship with them.
  • Pump links through the social platform (take your pick, or do them all!)
  • Offer nothing of value, and no context. This is a megaphone, not a telephone.
  • Think you’re winning, because you’re playing video games (highest follower count wins!)

This looks like winning (the numbers are going up!), but it’s actually a double-edged form of losing.

First, you’re polluting a powerful space, turning signals into noise and bringing down the level of discourse for everyone.

Second, you’re wasting your time when you could be building a “tribe” instead, (tribe?) could be earning permission, could be creating a channel where your voice is actually welcomed.

Leadership and even “idea leadership” scares many people, because it requires you to own your words, to do work that matters. The alternative is to be a junk dealer.

The game theory pushes us into one of two directions:  Either be better at pump and dump than anyone else, get your numbers into the millions, out mass those that choose to use mass, and always dance at the edge of spam (in which the number of those you offend or turn off forever keep increasing), or “Relentlessly focus”.

Prune your message and your list and build a reputation that’s worth owning and an audience that cares.

Only one of these strategies builds an asset of value.” End of quote

Late Steve Jobs position was: “customers have no idea what they want.  It is our duty to train them to like our products and love our design...” This line of thinking…

If you maintain a blog, do you take the time to reedit your posts, and add and comments on the replies you get?

Maintenance is the name of the game of whatever you undertake: This is the other truth of life, beside inevitable death…

Note: Actually I was to comment on Seth Godin post “The trap of social media noise” and  I got carried away in my essay.




May 2023

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