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Power of Influence is always given: Connecting with the power base

You might think: “If I could just be the boss, I’d have my way…” That’s what I still think, but I’m going nowhere.  Nothing is further from the truth. It is how ready you are to connect to people and liking to communicate with people who bring forth power, these constant daily interactions that weave the web of power of influence.

Have you experienced the kinds of power you have been subjected to in your life? Like:

Did the power felt like intimidation? Have you felt offended?

Did the power felt like being listened to and connected with?

Did the power coerced you in your work and behavior?

Did the power you witnessed managed to change anything? To convince you of anything?

Was this power the sort of “higher position status” (earned from seniority convention), and which you took it for granted to mean a position of influence?

What’s your reaction when your superior says:“Remember. I’m the boss!” ? Do you think: “He is losing control. He is in deep trouble and might be sacked any moment now…”?

Do you think that “Power is a dirty word. And yet, without power, nothing gets done. Power is the ability to change things….”?

Dan Rockwell wrote: “Power and position often come together; higher position usually equals more power. Using power associated with position is the least desirable and most offensive use of power. Think of individuals who advance their own agenda at the expense of others….”

Gaining power:

Weak, disenfranchised people can have power. Gain power of influence: Learn to understanding others and advancing their goals.

Leaders with influence understand you, listen to you, adapt to relationship…and not vice versa.

Influence is always given never taken.

Influencers lift, expand, inspire, and set free. Influencers invigorate. Vitality characterizes organizations led by influencers.

Power of influence get things done:

If influencers advance the goals of others, how do they get things done? They align goals, passions, values, vision, and mission.

Tell me what makes you tick and I can influence you.

Influence only works when alignment exists. You won’t influence everyone. Create teams, for every project, who align with your passions and you create opportunities for influence as long as you focus on their goals. Their goals become shared goals.

Power of position corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely: This cowardice of keeping people at bay, and restricting your daily communication with a short list of mediators…

Lousy leaders expect others to adapt to them. They’re rigid and bossy. Failure to adapt to others frustrates everyone, including yourself.

Chris LoCurto said: “As a leader, it is your job to make your team successful, not the other way around.” 

This concept of “Adapting to others” needs to be clarified and examined.  Do you think a leader’s job is to keep adapting to others? In this case, what’s the meaning of being a leader if he is to simply adapt and not show direction, the right purpose of the project…?

Chris LoCurto, teacher of the Entreleadership Performance Series, loves teaching personality styles. DiSC helped him know himself. Just as importantly, DiSC helped him adapt to others by learning their communication styles.

First step: See yourself before you see others

Chris said, “DISC helps leaders understand how they give and receive information. If you get that ‘deer in the headlights look’ after giving instructions, you have a problem. We give information the way we listen.”

In order to effectively adapt, align with yourself; find your starting place. Are you a fact or feeling driven?

If you act first and research later, you drive thoughtful people crazy.

Second step: Learn how people receive information.”

It might surprise you, a few people do think about the feelings of others. If you’ve said, “But, what did I say?” in response to hurting someone’s feelings, you gave information the way you receive it.

Chris explained that he and his team took the DISC assessment. He’d interact with a team member and then read their profile. In about seven cycles he learned how to, “lean in their direction.”

Get over yourself by adapting your communication styles.

Visit Chris’ website:

Have you seen bosses who didn’t adapt? What happened?

In what ways are you adapting to others?

What do leaders who rely on positional power do?

How can leaders gain influence without resorting to positional power?




March 2023

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