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Transformative power of classical music?
Posted by: adonis49 on: September 23, 2016
Transformative power of classical music?
“I have a definition of success. For me, it’s very simple. It’s not about wealth and fame and power. It’s about how many shining eyes I have around me.”
Feb. 2008
Probably a lot of you know the story of the two salesmen who went down to Africa in the 1900s. They were sent down to find if there was any opportunity for selling shoes, and they wrote telegrams back to Manchester. And one of them wrote, “Situation hopeless. Stop. They don’t wear shoes.” And the other one wrote, “Glorious opportunity. They don’t have any shoes yet.”
00:35 Now, there’s a similar situation in the classical music world, because there are some people who think that classical music is dying.
And there are some of us who think you ain’t seen nothing yet. And rather than go into statistics and trends, and tell you about all the orchestras that are closing, and the record companies that are folding, I thought we should do an experiment tonight. Actually, it’s not really an experiment, because I know the outcome.
Before we start, I need to do two things. One is I want to remind you of what a 7-year-old child sounds like when he plays the piano. Maybe you have this child at home. He sounds something like this.
01:23 (Music)
01:41 (Music ends)
I see some of you recognize this child. Now, if he practices for a year and takes lessons, he’s now eight and he sounds like this.
Benjamin Zander has two infectious passions: classical music, and helping us all realize our untapped love for it — and by extension, our untapped love for all new possibilities, new experiences, new connections.


He practices for another year and takes lessons — he’s nine.
02:01 (Music)
02:06 (Music ends)
02:07 Then he practices for another year and takes lessons — now he’s 10.
02:10 (Music)
02:15 (Music ends)
At that point, they usually give up.
if you’d waited for one more year, you would have heard this.
02:26 (Music)
02:33 (Music ends)
what happened was not maybe what you thought, which is, he suddenly became passionate, engaged, involved, got a new teacher, he hit puberty, or whatever it is. What actually happened was the impulses were reduced. You see, the first time, he was playing with an impulse on every note.
02:52 (Music)
And the second, with an impulse every other note.
02:57 (Music)
The nine-year-old put an impulse on every four notes.
03:06 (Music)
The 10-year-old, on every eight notes.
03:10 (Music)
And the 11-year-old, one impulse on the whole phrase.
03:16 (Music)
I didn’t say, “I’m going to move my shoulder over, move my body.” No, the music pushed me over, which is why I call it one-buttock playing.
03:30 (Music)
03:32 It can be the other buttock.
03:33 (Music)
You know, a gentleman was once watching a presentation I was doing, when I was working with a young pianist. He was the president of a corporation in Ohio. I was working with this young pianist, and said, “The trouble with you is you’re a two-buttock player. You should be a one-buttock player.”
I moved his body while he was playing. And suddenly, the music took off. It took flight. The audience gasped when they heard the difference. Then I got a letter from this gentleman. He said, “I was so moved. I went back and I transformed my entire company into a one-buttock company.”
04:05 (Laughter)
the other thing I wanted to do is to tell you about you. There are 1,600 people, I believe. My estimation is that probably 45 of you are absolutely passionate about classical music. You adore classical music. Your FM is always on that classical dial. You have CDs in your car, and you go to the symphony, your children are playing instruments.
You can’t imagine your life without classical music. That’s the first group, quite small. Then there’s another bigger group. The people who don’t mind classical music.
you’ve come home from a long day, and you take a glass of wine, and you put your feet up. A little Vivaldi in the background doesn’t do any harm. That’s the second group.
Now comes the third group: people who never listen to classical music. It’s just simply not part of your life. You might hear it like second-hand smoke at the airport … and maybe a little bit of a march from “Aida” when you come into the hall. But otherwise, you never hear it. That’s probably the largest group.
And then there’s a very small group. These are the people who think they’re tone-deaf. Amazing number of people think they’re tone-deaf. Actually, I hear a lot, “My husband is tone-deaf.”
05:14 (Laughter)
Actually, you cannot be tone-deaf. Nobody is tone-deaf. If you were tone-deaf, you couldn’t change the gears on your car, in a stick shift car. You couldn’t tell the difference between somebody from Texas and somebody from Rome. And the telephone.
If your mother calls on the miserable telephone, she calls and says, “Hello,” you not only know who it is, you know what mood she’s in. You have a fantastic ear. Everybody has a fantastic ear. So nobody is tone-deaf.
It doesn’t work for me to go on with this thing, with such a wide gulf between those who understand, love and are passionate about classical music, and those who have no relationship to it at all. The tone-deaf people, they’re no longer here.
But even between those three categories, it’s too wide a gulf. So I’m not going to go on until every single person in this room, downstairs and in Aspen, and everybody else looking, will come to love and understand classical music. So that’s what we’re going to do.
you notice that there is not the slightest doubt in my mind that this is going to work, if you look at my face, right? It’s one of the characteristics of a leader that he not doubt for one moment the capacity of the people he’s leading to realize whatever he’s dreaming. Imagine if Martin Luther King had said, “I have a dream. Of course, I’m not sure they’ll be up to it.”
06:42 (Laughter)
So I’m going to take a piece of Chopin. This is a beautiful prelude by Chopin. Some of you will know it.
06:52 (Music)
Do you know what I think probably happened here? When I started, you thought, “How beautiful that sounds.”
07:27 (Music)
“I don’t think we should go to the same place for our summer holidays next year.”
07:43 (Laughter)
07:46 It’s funny, isn’t it? It’s funny how those thoughts kind of waft into your head. And of course — if the piece is long and you’ve had a long day, you might actually drift off. Then your companion will dig you in the ribs and say, “Wake up! It’s culture!” And then you feel even worse.
08:05 (Laughter)
But has it ever occurred to you that the reason you feel sleepy in classical music is not because of you, but because of us? Did anybody think while I was playing, “Why is he using so many impulses?” If I’d done this with my head you certainly would have thought it.
08:19 (Music)
08:25 (Music ends)
And for the rest of your life, every time you hear classical music, you’ll always be able to know if you hear those impulses.
So let’s see what’s really going on here. We have a B. This is a B. The next note is a C. And the job of the C is to make the B sad. And it does, doesn’t it?
08:44 (Laughter)
Composers know that. If they want sad music, they just play those two notes.
08:50 (Music)
08:54 But basically, it’s just a B, with four sads.
08:56 (Laughter)
Now, it goes down to A. Now to G. And then to F. So we have B, A, G, F. And if we have B, A, G, F, what do we expect next?
09:10 (Music)
09:14 That might have been a fluke. Let’s try it again.
09:16 (Music)
09:20 Oh, the TED choir.
09:21 (Laughter)
And you notice nobody is tone-deaf, right? Nobody is. You know, every village in Bangladesh and every hamlet in China — everybody knows: da, da, da, da — da. Everybody knows, who’s expecting that E.
Chopin didn’t want to reach the E there, because what will have happened? It will be over, like Hamlet. Do you remember? Act One, scene three, he finds out his uncle killed his father.
He keeps on going up to his uncle and almost killing him. And then he backs away, he goes up to him again, almost kills him. The critics sitting in the back row there, they have to have an opinion, so they say, “Hamlet is a procrastinator.” Or they say, “Hamlet has an Oedipus complex.” No, otherwise the play would be over, stupid.
10:06 (Laughter)
That’s why Shakespeare puts all that stuff in Hamlet — Ophelia going mad, the play within the play, and Yorick’s skull, and the gravediggers. That’s in order to delay — until Act Five, he can kill him.
It’s the same with the Chopin. He’s just about to reach the E, and he says, “Oops, better go back up and do it again.” So he does it again. Now, he gets excited.
10:28 (Music)
That’s excitement, don’t worry about it. Now, he gets to F-sharp, and finally he goes down to E, but it’s the wrong chord — because the chord he’s looking for is this one, and instead he does … Now, we call that a deceptive cadence, because it deceives us. I tell my students, “If you have a deceptive cadence, raise your eyebrows, and everybody will know.”
He gets to E, but it’s the wrong chord. Now, he tries E again. That chord doesn’t work. Now, he tries the E again. That chord doesn’t work. Now, he tries E again, and that doesn’t work. And then finally … There was a gentleman in the front row who went, “Mmm.”
11:16 (Laughter)
It’s the same gesture he makes when he comes home after a long day, turns off the key in his car and says, “Aah, I’m home.” Because we all know where home is.
So this is a piece which goes from away to home. I’m going to play it all the way through and you’re going to follow. B, C, B, C, B, C, B — down to A, down to G, down to F. Almost goes to E, but otherwise the play would be over. He goes back up to B, he gets very excited. Goes to F-sharp. Goes to E. It’s the wrong chord. It’s the wrong chord. And finally goes to E, and it’s home. And what you’re going to see is one-buttock playing.
11:50 (Laughter)
Because for me, to join the B to the E, I have to stop thinking about every single note along the way, and start thinking about the long, long line from B to E.
we were just in South Africa, and you can’t go to South Africa without thinking of Mandela in jail for 27 years. What was he thinking about? Lunch? No, he was thinking about the vision for South Africa and for human beings. This is about vision.
This is about the long line. Like the bird who flies over the field and doesn’t care about the fences underneath, all right? So now, you’re going to follow the line all the way from B to E.
And I’ve one last request before I play this piece all the way through. Would you think of somebody who you adore, who’s no longer there? A beloved grandmother, a lover — somebody in your life who you love with all your heart, but that person is no longer with you. Bring that person into your mind, and at the same time, follow the line all the way from B to E, and you’ll hear everything that Chopin had to say.
13:09 (Music)
14:56 (Music ends)
You may be wondering why I’m clapping. Well, I did this at a school in Boston with about 70 seventh graders, 12-year-olds. I did exactly what I did with you, and I explained the whole thing. At the end, they went crazy, clapping. I was clapping. They were clapping. Finally, I said, “Why am I clapping?” And one of them said, “Because we were listening.”
15:35 (Laughter)
Think of it. 1,600 people, busy people, involved in all sorts of different things, listening, understanding and being moved by a piece by Chopin. Now, that is something. Am I sure that every single person followed that, understood it, was moved by it? Of course, I can’t be sure.
15:57 But I’ll tell you what happened to me in Ireland during the Troubles, 10 years ago, and I was working with some Catholic and Protestant kids on conflict resolution. And I did this with them — a risky thing to do, because they were street kids. And one of them came to me the next morning and he said, “You know, I’ve never listened to classical music in my life, but when you played that shopping piece …”
16:20 (Laughter)
He said, “My brother was shot last year and I didn’t cry for him. But last night, when you played that piece, he was the one I was thinking about. And I felt the tears streaming down my face. And it felt really good to cry for my brother.”
So I made up my mind at that moment that classical music is for everybody. Everybody.
how would you walk — my profession, the music profession doesn’t see it that way. They say three percent of the population likes classical music. If only we could move it to four percent, our problems would be over.
16:59 (Laughter)
How would you walk? How would you talk? How would you be? If you thought, “Three percent of the population likes classical music, if only we could move it to four percent.” How would you walk or talk? How would you be? If you thought, “Everybody loves classical music — they just haven’t found out about it yet.” See, these are totally different worlds.
I had an amazing experience. I was 45 years old, I’d been conducting for 20 years, and I suddenly had a realization. The conductor of an orchestra doesn’t make a sound. My picture appears on the front of the CD —
17:33 (Laughter)
But the conductor doesn’t make a sound. He depends, for his power, on his ability to make other people powerful.
And that changed everything for me. It was totally life-changing. People in my orchestra said, “Ben, what happened?” That’s what happened. I realized my job was to awaken possibility in other people. And of course, I wanted to know whether I was doing that. How do you find out? You look at their eyes. If their eyes are shining, you know you’re doing it. You could light up a village with this guy’s eyes.
18:09 (Laughter)
So if the eyes are shining, you know you’re doing it. If the eyes are not shining, you get to ask a question. And this is the question: who am I being that my players’ eyes are not shining? We can do that with our children, too. Who am I being, that my children’s eyes are not shining? That’s a totally different world.
we’re all about to end this magical, on-the-mountain week, we’re going back into the world. And I say, it’s appropriate for us to ask the question, who are we being as we go back out into the world?
And you know, I have a definition of success. For me, it’s very simple. It’s not about wealth and fame and power. It’s about how many shining eyes I have around me.
I have one last thought, which is that it really makes a difference what we say — the words that come out of our mouth. I learned this from a woman who survived Auschwitz, one of the rare survivors.
She went to Auschwitz when she was 15 years old. And her brother was eight, and the parents were lost. And she told me this, she said, “We were in the train going to Auschwitz, and I looked down and saw my brother’s shoes were missing. I said, ‘Why are you so stupid, can’t you keep your things together for goodness’ sake?'”
The way an elder sister might speak to a younger brother. Unfortunately, it was the last thing she ever said to him, because she never saw him again. He did not survive. And so when she came out of Auschwitz, she made a vow. She told me this. She said, “I walked out of Auschwitz into life and I made a vow. And the vow was, “I will never say anything that couldn’t stand as the last thing I ever say.”
Now, can we do that? No. And we’ll make ourselves wrong and others wrong. But it is a possibility to live into.
How classical music can transform anything? Sad B, Impulses, one-buttock piano player
Posted by: adonis49 on: May 19, 2015
How classical music can transform anything?
Note: You’ll be better off to listen to the talk first: it has many musical pieces to support the arguments
Probably a lot of you know the story of the two salesmen who went down to Africa in the 1900s.
They were sent down to find if there was any opportunity for selling shoes, and they wrote telegrams back to Manchester. And one of them wrote, “Situation hopeless. Stop. They don’t wear shoes.” And the other one wrote, “Glorious opportunity. They don’t have any shoes yet.” (Laughter)
Now, there’s a similar situation in the classical music world, because there are some people who think that classical music is dying.
And there are some of us who think you ain’t seen nothing yet. And rather than go into statistics and trends, and tell you about all the orchestras that are closing, and the record companies that are folding, I thought we should do an experiment tonight. Actually, it’s not really an experiment, because I know the outcome.
1:04 But it’s like an experiment. Now, before we start —
1:11 Before we start, I need to do two things.
One is I want to remind you of what a 7-year-old child sounds like when he plays the piano. Maybe you have this child at home. He sounds something like this. (Music) (Music ends) I see some of you recognize this child.
Now, if he practices for a year and takes lessons, he’s now 8 and he sounds like this. (Music) (Music ends) He practices for another year and takes lessons — he’s nine. (Music) (Music ends) Then he practices for another year and takes lessons — now he’s 10. (Music) (Music ends)
At that point, they usually give up.
Now, if you’d waited for one more year, you would have heard this. (Music) (Music ends)
What happened was Not maybe what you thought, which is, he suddenly became passionate, engaged, involved, got a new teacher, he hit puberty, or whatever it is.
What actually happened was the impulses were reduced. You see, the first time, he was playing with an impulse on every note. (Music) And the second, with an impulse every other note. (Music) You can see it by looking at my head. (Laughter) The nine-year-old put an impulse on every four notes. (Music) The 10-year-old, on every eight notes. (Music) And the 11-year-old, one impulse on the whole phrase. (Music)
3:19 I don’t know how we got into this position. I didn’t say, “I’m going to move my shoulder over, my body.” No, the music pushed me over, which is why I call it one-buttock playing. (Music) It can be the other buttock. (Music)
You know, a gentleman was once watching a presentation I was doing, when I was working with a young pianist. He was the president of a corporation in Ohio. I was working with this young pianist, and said, “The trouble with you is you’re a two-buttock player. You should be a one-buttock player.” I moved his body while he was playing. And suddenly, the music took off. It took flight. The audience gasped when they heard the difference. Then I got a letter from this gentleman. He said, “I was so moved. I went back and I transformed my entire company into a one-buttock company.” (Laughter)
4:09 Now, the other thing I wanted to do is to tell you about you. There are 1,600 people, I believe. My estimation is that probably 45 of you are absolutely passionate about classical music. You adore classical music. Your FM is always on that classical dial. You have CDs in your car, and you go to the symphony, your children are playing instruments. You can’t imagine your life without classical music. That’s the first group, quite small.
Then there’s another bigger group. The people who don’t mind classical music. (Laughter) You know, you’ve come home from a long day, and you take a glass of wine, and you put your feet up.
A little Vivaldi in the background doesn’t do any harm. That’s the second group. Now comes the third group: people who never listen to classical music. It’s just simply not part of your life. You might hear it like second-hand smoke at the airport…and maybe a little bit of a march from “Aida” when you come into the hall. But otherwise, you never hear it. That’s probably the largest group.
5:04 And then there’s a very small group. These are the people who think they’re tone-deaf.
Amazing number of people think they’re tone-deaf. Actually, I hear a lot, “My husband is tone-deaf.”
Actually, you cannot be tone-deaf. Nobody is tone-deaf. If you were tone-deaf, you couldn’t change the gears on your car, in a stick shift car. You couldn’t tell the difference between somebody from Texas and somebody from Rome. And the telephone. The telephone. If your mother calls on the miserable telephone, she calls and says, “Hello,” you not only know who it is, you know what mood she’s in.
You have a fantastic ear. Everybody has a fantastic ear. So nobody is tone-deaf. But I tell you what.
5:44 It doesn’t work for me to go on with this thing, with such a wide gulf between those who understand, love and are passionate about classical music, and those who have no relationship to it at all. The tone-deaf people, they’re no longer here.
But even between those three categories, it’s too wide a gulf. So I’m not going to go on until every single person in this room, downstairs and in Aspen, and everybody else looking, will come to love and understand classical music. So that’s what we’re going to do.
6:17 Now, you notice that there is not the slightest doubt in my mind that this is going to work, if you look at my face, right? It’s one of the characteristics of a leader that he not doubt for one moment the capacity of the people he’s leading to realize whatever he’s dreaming. Imagine if Martin Luther King had said, “I have a dream. Of course, I’m not sure they’ll be up to it.” (Laughter)
6:45 All right. So I’m going to take a piece of Chopin. This is a beautiful prelude by Chopin. Some of you will know it. (Music) Do you know what I think probably happened here? When I started, you thought, “How beautiful that sounds.” (Music) “I don’t think we should go to the same place for our summer holidays next year.” (Laughter) It’s funny, isn’t it?
It’s funny how those thoughts kind of waft into your head. And of course — (Applause) Of course, if the piece is long and you’ve had a long day, you might actually drift off. Then your companion will dig you in the ribs and say, “Wake up! It’s culture!” And then you feel even worse. (Laughter)
8:06 But has it ever occurred to you that the reason you feel sleepy in classical music is not because of you, but because of us? Did anybody think while I was playing, “Why is he using so many impulses?” If I’d done this with my head you certainly would have thought it. (Music) (Music ends) And for the rest of your life, every time you hear classical music, you’ll always be able to know if you hear those impulses.
8:34 So let’s see what’s really going on here. We have a B. This is a B. The next note is a C. And the job of the C is to make the B sad. And it does, doesn’t it?
Composers know that. If they want sad music, they just play those two notes. (Music) But basically, it’s just a B, with four sads. (Laughter) Now, it goes down to A. Now to G. And then to F. So we have B, A, G, F. And if we have B, A, G, F, what do we expect next? (Music) That might have been a fluke. Let’s try it again. (Music) Oh, the TED choir. (Laughter) And you notice nobody is tone-deaf, right? Nobody is.
You know, every village in Bangladesh and every hamlet in China — everybody knows: da, da, da, da — da. Everybody knows, who’s expecting that E.
9:40 Chopin didn’t want to reach the E there, because what will have happened? It will be over, like Hamlet.
Do you remember? Act One, scene three, he finds out his uncle killed his father. He keeps on going up to his uncle and almost killing him. And then he backs away, he goes up to him again, almost kills him. The critics sitting in the back row there, they have to have an opinion, so they say, “Hamlet is a procrastinator.” Or they say, “Hamlet has an Oedipus complex.” No, otherwise the play would be over, stupid. (Laughter) That’s why Shakespeare puts all that stuff in Hamlet — Ophelia going mad, the play within the play, and Yorick’s skull, and the gravediggers. That’s in order to delay — until Act Five, he can kill him.
It’s the same with the Chopin. He’s just about to reach the E, and he says, “Oops, better go back up and do it again.” So he does it again. Now, he gets excited. (Music) That’s excitement, don’t worry about it. Now, he gets to F-sharp, and finally he goes down to E, but it’s the wrong chord — because the chord he’s looking for is this one, and instead he does… Now, we call that a deceptive cadence, because it deceives us. I tell my students, “If you have a deceptive cadence, raise your eyebrows, and everybody will know.”
Right. He gets to E, but it’s the wrong chord. Now, he tries E again. That chord doesn’t work. Now, he tries the E again. That chord doesn’t work. Now, he tries E again, and that doesn’t work. And then finally… There was a gentleman in the front row who went, “Mmm.” (Laughter) It’s the same gesture he makes when he comes home after a long day, turns off the key in his car and says, “Aah, I’m home.” Because we all know where home is.
11:26 So this is a piece which goes from away to home. I’m going to play it all the way through and you’re going to follow. B, C, B, C, B, C, B — down to A, down to G, down to F. Almost goes to E, but otherwise the play would be over. He goes back up to B, he gets very excited. Goes to F-sharp. Goes to E. It’s the wrong chord. It’s the wrong chord. And finally goes to E, and it’s home. And what you’re going to see is one-buttock playing. (Laughter) Because for me, to join the B to the E, I have to stop thinking about every single note along the way, and start thinking about the long, long line from B to E.
12:06 You know, we were just in South Africa, and you can’t go to South Africa without thinking of Mandela in jail for 27 years. What was he thinking about? Lunch? No, he was thinking about the vision for South Africa and for human beings. This is about vision. This is about the long line. Like the bird who flies over the field and doesn’t care about the fences underneath, all right?
So now, you’re going to follow the line all the way from B to E. And I’ve one last request before I play this piece all the way through. Would you think of somebody who you adore, who’s no longer there? A beloved grandmother, a lover — somebody in your life who you love with all your heart, but that person is no longer with you. Bring that person into your mind, and at the same time, follow the line all the way from B to E, and you’ll hear everything that Chopin had to say. (Music) (Music ends) (Applause)
15:15 You may be wondering why I’m clapping. Well, I did this at a school in Boston with about 70 seventh graders, 12-year-olds. I did exactly what I did with you, and I explained the whole thing. At the end, they went crazy, clapping. I was clapping. They were clapping. Finally, I said, “Why am I clapping?” And one of them said, “Because we were listening.” (Laughter) Think of it. 1,600 people, busy people, involved in all sorts of different things, listening, understanding and being moved by a piece by Chopin. Now, that is something. Am I sure that every single person followed that, understood it, was moved by it? Of course, I can’t be sure.
15:57 But I’ll tell you what happened to me in Ireland during the Troubles, 10 years ago, and I was working with some Catholic and Protestant kids on conflict resolution. And I did this with them — a risky thing to do, because they were street kids. And one of them came to me the next morning and he said, “You know, I’ve never listened to classical music in my life, but when you played that shopping piece…” (Laughter)
He said, “My brother was shot last year and I didn’t cry for him. But last night, when you played that piece, he was the one I was thinking about. And I felt the tears streaming down my face. And it felt really good to cry for my brother.” So I made up my mind at that moment that classical music is for everybody. Everybody.
16:46 Now, how would you walk — my profession, the music profession doesn’t see it that way. They say three percent of the population likes classical music. If only we could move it to four percent, our problems would be over.
How would you walk? How would you talk? How would you be? If you thought, “Three percent of the population likes classical music, if only we could move it to four percent.” How would you walk or talk? How would you be? If you thought, “Everybody loves classical music — they just haven’t found out about it yet.” See, these are totally different worlds.
17:19 Now, I had an amazing experience. I was 45 years old, I’d been conducting for 20 years, and I suddenly had a realization. The conductor of an orchestra doesn’t make a sound. My picture appears on the front of the CD — (Laughter) But the conductor doesn’t m
ake a sound. He depends, for his power, on his ability to make other people powerful. And that changed everything for me. It was totally life-changing. People in my orchestra said, “Ben, what happened?” That’s what happened. I realized my job was to awaken possibility in other people. And of course, I wanted to know whether I was doing that. How do you find out? You look at their eyes. If their eyes are shining, you know you’re doing it.
You could light up a village with this guy’s eyes. (Laughter) Right. So if the eyes are shining, you know you’re doing it. If the eyes are not shining, you get to ask a question. And this is the question: who am I being that my players’ eyes are not shining? We can do that with our children, too. Who am I being, that my children’s eyes are not shining? That’s a totally different world.
18:32 Now, we’re all about to end this magical, on-the-mountain week, we’re going back into the world. And I say, it’s appropriate for us to ask the question, who are we being as we go back out into the world? And you know, I have a definition of success. For me, it’s very simple. It’s not about wealth and fame and power. It’s about how many shining eyes I have around me.
18:57 So now, I have one last thought, which is that it really makes a difference what we say — the words that come out of our mouth. I learned this from a woman who survived Auschwitz, one of the rare survivors. She went to Auschwitz when she was 15 years old. And… And her brother was eight, and the parents were lost. And she told me this, she said, “We were in the train going to Auschwitz, and I looked down and saw my brother’s shoes were missing. I said, ‘Why are you so stupid, can’t you keep your things together for goodness’ sake?'”
The way an elder sister might speak to a younger brother. Unfortunately, it was the last thing she ever said to him, because she never saw him again. He did not survive. And so when she came out of Auschwitz, she made a vow. She told me this. She said, “I walked out of Auschwitz into life and I made a vow. And the vow was, “I will never say anything that couldn’t stand as the last thing I ever say.
Can we do that? No. And we’ll make ourselves wrong and others wrong. But it is a possibility to live into. Shining eyes. (Applause) Shining eyes.
If you don’t already love classical music, you will after this talk:

How’s your Talent for enjoying life? Your right to pursue Happiness?
Posted by: adonis49 on: April 15, 2015
How’s your Talent for enjoying life? Your right to pursue Happiness?
A few times I’m asked: What kinds of music you like to listen to? My answer is invariably: I don’t know.
It’s not that I don’t listen to music, all kinds of music.
I love documentaries on music bands and the history of the various kinds of music, including classical music and composers.
I tend to hop, dance and clap when I hear a music that I like.
The problem is, if the environment (people and surrounding) is not conducive to talking and listening to music, then I lack the talent to pick up and register what the environment is sending as signals, hints and rhythms.
I do lack this imaginative and sensitive sort of memory that is triggered by music.
Are you hungry? Yes. What do you like to eat? My answer is: I don’t know. I’m Not picky and can eat anything you order…
It’s not that I have no tasty buds or that I love to eat and I tried all kinds of cuisines, West and East.
The problem is that I lack the talent to retrieve from my taste bud memory what I love to eat at the time of the question.
Are you thirsty? Yes. What do you like to drink? My answer is: I don’t know. I can drink anything you order. You don’t have to fret on my account…
The problem is that I lack the talent to retrieve my alcohol-induced memory for what I feel like drinking now.
This is not restricted to alcoholic drinks.
Do you want tea, coffee, Nescafe, milk… I don’t know. Don’t bother on my account. I drink what you feel like drinking.
Probably my mental capacity feels lazy to invest the necessary effort to give a definitive answer that is appropriate to the environment.
I used to blame conditions, situations, circumstances … for my deficiency in enjoying life. I got it all wrong.
Don’t get me wrong: I like to be entertained, dance, go to concerts, have adventures….
The problem is that I had to come to term that the problem is Me.
I don’t have it this talent to enjoy life.
How you were brought up and your living conditions play a mighty catalyst in increasing the quality of your joy for living, but they are not the main factors.
The main factor is: Have you got the talent to enjoy life? Yes? No?
I feel hurt when I get to know people who are in the same boat as me: they lack this talent to enjoy life.
It has nothing to do with genders, wealth, color of skin, cultural differences…
It is strictly an individual quality, a mix of characteristics and talents that distinguish you from the rest of the lame and sad people.
You can be born in a filthy rich family and not know how to enjoy life.
You can be born in a family living in a wretched neighbourhood, and yet you know how to enjoy your life to the hilt.
I had a varied childhood in conditions and situations, with plenty of varied opportunities to learn how to enjoy life: And yet, my childhood passed me by.
I had a youth with multiple fantastic opportunities to learn how to enjoy my life, and youth passed me by.
Opportunities add dimensions to the quality of life enjoyment, if you got the talent.
What is most essential is: Have you been trained as a child to enjoy life, all the artistic facets that enrich the quality of life enjoyment?
Proper Nurturing at an early age is the key factor to set you free from the lot of the lame ands sad people.
You hear a wife saying of her husband: He is a contented man. He never complains or demand of much any thing… He maybe a jovial person in his demeanor, but deep inside he still has no clue what to demand.
You hear a mother saying: I had no trouble raising this child… This child never learned what it is to enjoy life in order to ask and demand for more of what he is experiencing.
And I cannot help wondering:
People who were born in an environment (family and culture) that stump the talent for enjoying life, who were robbed from this nurturing zest for life, have no reason to live.
And the family has no right to give them birth: Abort all of them.
This situation is totally unfair.
This is the worst kind of crimes against human rights: Murdering the right of pursuit to happiness in the bud.
Have you got the talent to enjoy life? Yes? No?