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Tidbits and comments. Part 404

La “verite'” est ce qui est assez coherent pour l’accepter avec un cas limite de de satisfaction.

Trump is not the first US president to express interest in purchasing Greenland. Harry Truman’s administration made an offer in 1946, after first considering trading Alaska for parts of the Arctic island. Before that, Andrew Johnson administration made a bid for Greenland.

$100 million: Amount the Truman administration offered to purchase Greenland. $500 billion: One estimate for how much it would cost to buy Greenland today.

n 1868, US secretary of state William Seward tasked Robert J. Walker, a former governor and US treasury secretary, with evaluating whether or not to buy Iceland and Greenland. Walker recommended both, “but especially the latter. The reasons are political and commercial.” The political reason was to outflank England and eventually make Canada part of the US; the commercial reasons were mineral wealth and fisheries.

Harry Truman floated the idea to better position the US against the Soviet Union, but America worked out political solutions with Denmark, including the creation of NATO, that obviated a purchase. In 1951, the US builds Thule Air Base on Greenland.

Mayhem in Israel: apartheid State of Israel is starting its downhill trend toward Chaos: Army commander begging settlers to carry arms to defend it. Sort like during colonial America, settlers should carry arms when out of their settlements

Why Bush Jr. had to claim “Mission Accomplished” in occupying Iraq on a aircraft carrier, wearing pilot outfit, when the mission had just started for “establishing a democratic state” in Iraq? All the previous statements about installing a democratic system in Iraq and eliminating weapons of mass destruction and… were packs of lies and throwing dust in the eyes of the US citizens and world community.

Apartheid: separate sets of laws to “citizens”, grouped on ethnic fictional fabrication.

Capitalism: separate set of privileges to classes of “citizens”, grouped on level of material slavery functions

When we talk of identity, we often think of groups such as black Muslim lesbians in wheelchairs. This is because identity only seems to become an issue when it is challenged or under threat.

Our classic Default Man is rarely under existential threat. Consequently, his identity remains not examined. It ambles along blithely, never having to stand up for its rights or to defend its homeland.

When talking about identity groups, the word “community” often crops up. The working class, gay people, black people or Muslims are always represented by a “community leader”.

The 20th century witnessed 140 armed conflicts, totaling more than 150 millions in casualties and at least 4 folds in severe injuries .  More than 20 conflicts produced over one million killed.  WWI generated about 9 million killed and WWII more than 60 millions.  Two dozen conflicts are still on going for decades and the toll is accumulating.

The state of the world: Russia is the largest land mass. China the most populous country. EU the largest economy union. USA the biggest bag of shit. Every US official thinks he is entitled overseas to threaten anyone of the US diktat.

The Deal of the Century is to maintain Israel existence as a State. The deal is to open the trade and maritime routes to Israel’s export from Morocco to Yemen, with insignificant transit fees. Egypt and Jordan are to be the main transit platforms.The Palestinians are to be the cheap workforce.  Lebanon, Syria and Iraq have already blocked this deal.

The English Channel is a boundary that mankind can’t stop pushing. Franky Zapata just crossed it on a hoverboard, but it’s also been crossed via hot air balloons, a hovercraft, an electric plane, a carbon-fiber wingsuit, a pedal-powered plane, and good old arms and legs. But the hardest way to cross might be by car, if Brexit throws the crucial economic link into chaos. This channel between France and England is one of the heaviest traffic for maritime commercial cargoes between the North Sea and the Atlantic

In many traditional gift economies, the trick is courting the elites. “This only work if you are a big enough company that the banks can tell themselves that you’ll one day give them a lucrative deal. If you’re not big and rich, you’ll have to pay for stuff.”

The gift economy is a tradition among social classes: The wealthier you are, the more expensive the gift should be. Actually, many are declining wedding invitations in order to save on the gift expenses.

The Fuck List: 2014 Year’s Resolutions

 

It’s that time of year again, folks. A New Year; a fresh start.

Now’s the time we all vow to do a boatload of things most of us will never follow through on come 2014.

Everyone except for me. I’ve had it with resolutions.

My diet of cookies, coffee and chocolate suits me just fine. Spend less, save more? Please; I live in Vancouver.

So keep your resolutions. Enjoy your salads and electronic cigarettes, your busy gyms and caffeine withdrawals.

As lovely as that sounds, I won’t be joining you this year. Instead, I’ll be sticking to a new framework.

Welcome to my Fuck It list. Fourteen things I’m going to stop giving a fuck about in 2014.

Because, as important as it is to push yourself to be a healthier, more compassionate person, that can be downright impossible. Refusing to give a fuck, however, isn’t just easy — it’s kind of awesome.

If it’s good enough for Julie Andrews, it’s good enough for me.

So fuck it. Here are the fourteen things I’m going to stop worrying about come 2014.

1. Becoming a Morning Person

I’ve always hated mornings. I hate getting out of bed, hate getting out of the shower, hate finishing my coffee.

I pretty much just hate everything and everyone who crosses my path prior to 10 am. I’ve tried to ‘fix’ this issue multiple times, trying to schedule in an hour of exercise or writing prior to embarking on my day. Fuck that.

The only thing worse that getting out of bed in the morning is getting out of bed to torture yourself on a treadmill or stare at a screen. So keep all your “10 Things Successful People Do Before 5 am” motivational posts to yourself come 2014. I’ll be successfully asleep.

2. Making the Moment Count

Are you living in the moment? Right now, right this very instance?

Are you making the most of this super-important, never-going-to-happen-ever-again stitch in time?

Of course not: you’re reading this post, ignoring your kids, your boss, your dog, your girlfriend. In fact, I’d hazard to say you’re doing everything you can to avoid the moment. Amen to that.

Moments don’t last; I’d actually say they’re pretty irrelevant by themselves. But string 50 of them together and then you’ve got a reason to pay attention.

That being said, 2014 is the year I stop trying to make moments matter. No more searching for hidden significance in a small gesture or assigning importance to a particular event.

And please, could everyone just stop telling me that everything I’ve done in my life has led me to this moment. Considering it’s 3 pm, I’m still in my pajamas, and I haven’t showered in two days… that doesn’t really mean much.

3. Fitting In

I suck at social situations. I’m awkward, withdrawn, quiet and quick to drop a sarcastic remark.

I also sport a handful of tattoos, have an award-winning bitchy resting face, and have been told I give off a not-so-subtle fuck off vibe whenever I walk into a room.

By no means am I trying to be standoffish, this is just who I am. So when it comes to fitting in at conferences, networking events, house parties, the supermarket — you know, anywhere there are other people — I tend to struggle.

For years I’ve tried to fix this: forced myself to be more outgoing, more present, less me. It’s exhausting and annoying. So fuck fitting in.

Despite my icy demeanor and lack of seemingly standard social skills, I’ve managed to surround myself with an accepting, loyal group of friends; people that understand my oddities and love me for them. Bitchy resting face and all.

4. Forcing a Smile

I’ve been told I’m very pretty when I smile. I’ve also been told I don’t smile very often.

That, if I forced myself to smile more, I’d actually feel better, happier, simply by faking this joyous facial express. Whether that’s true or not, I don’t really care.

I smile when there’s something worth smiling about. This doesn’t mean I’m drowning in despair the rest of the time. Normally I’m quite content.

So fuck forcing happiness or faking jubilation. You want me to flash a smile, you’re going to have to work for it.

5. Quitting Vices

Why are New Year’s resolutions always about ending bad habits? Personally, I quite enjoy my vices.

Beer = delicious. Pie for breakfast? Completely acceptable. Hoarding all of the blankets on the coldest night of the year? Not my fault you were too slow to steal them first.

Everything in moderation, right? My bad habits have shaped me as much as my good ones.

But at the end of the day, they aren’t really hurting anyone. I drink socially and with restraint, pie only finds its way into my fridge two or three times a year, and my boyfriend is more than welcome to yank the covers back over to his side… provided he’s ready to accept the consequences.

6. Swearing

My ex used to hate it when I would swear. And I get that — believe it or not, I’m not a huge fan of constant vulgarities either.

That being said, some situations simply call for foul language. Come on, no one is going to stick to a Screw It list or an Eff It list.

What’s more, studies have shown that people who swear are actually more trustworthy and honest. Which, by my count, means I’m kind of exceptional. Fuck it? Don’t mind if I do…

7. Guilt

Earlier this year I was told that guilt is the fear of future punishment.

That we feel bad for past transgressions not just because we regret them, but because we’re worried that we’ll make the same mistakes again. I’m not entirely sure of the legitimacy of this statement, but it certainly resonated with me.

I regret a lot in my life; I’ve made some foolish mistakes and have hurt a lot of people, not to mention myself.

But it’s the fear of making these same mistakes again that weighs on me the most. And yet, the mistakes I made in the past were the result of dozens of different variables — age, health, circumstance — repeating them is pretty much impossible.

So why bother dwelling on it? Fuck the guilt; I can’t undo the past, but I can certainly look forward to the future.

8. Being on Time

If you know me, you know that, try as I might; I am never, ever going to show up on time.

I’ll show up — I always show up — but nine times out of ten I’m going to be roughly an hour late. It’s a fatal flaw. It’s best to just lie to me about the designated meeting time. Trust me.

9. Lying to Myself

We all lie to ourselves. Some of these lies are inconsequential. Others send us down a slippery slope of denial straight onto a soft cushion of false security.

I’ve lied to myself a lot over the last year. I’ve told myself things are fine when they’re falling apart, convinced myself that a bad decision was a blessing in disguise. Thing is, it’s easy to tell the lie. Believing it is a whole other story.

So fuck the fabrications and flimsy fronts. How can you possibly trust someone else when you can’t even trust yourself?

10. Planning for the Future

I have very sensible parents; parents that sacrificed to provide my sister and me with the best life possible. For that, I’m thankful.

Now that I’m an adult (or pretend to be), I think a lot of it was unnecessary. They wasted a lot of good years of their lives putting us first.

As irrational as it might sound, I feel responsible for this. Granted, I don’t have kids, so I don’t really understand the type of devotion and selfless love that a parent feels, but even so, I don’t really know if sacrificing yourself for the sake of your children makes sense.

I sometimes wonder if my parents lost more than they gained by having children.

That, in the process of planning for our futures, they forgot about their own lives. There’s so much they could have done — should have done — when they were younger. Now, it’s too late.

It’s like they went to bed at 30 only to wake up at 60 determined to make up for lost time. Except now the hourglass is nearly empty and the world has lost most of its luster.

Selfish as it may sound, I could never travel that same road. I could never give my life to my kids; and please, save your “but you can have it both ways” spiel for someone less cynical.

You don’t win the Mommy of the Year award sitting in a boardroom, and you don’t get a promotion for catching every Christmas concert. In one scenario, you resent your kids. In the other, you resent yourself.

I haven’t yet decided which is worse, and to be quite frank, I don’t think I ever want to.

11. Growing Up

And give up my love of dinosaurs and LEGO? Fuck that.

12. Saving Relationships

Romantic, platonic, familial — I’ve spent a great deal of time trying to nurture destructive relationships. Compromising in order to avoid confrontation, pretending problems weren’t as pronounced as they were.

The fastest way to lose yourself? Focus all of your energy on something or someone that was never really there. Eventually you’ll wake up alone.

Worse, you’ll wake up a stranger.

13. Forgetting Failures

I failed at being a wife. A lot of the time, I fail at being a daughter. I’m not a very good sister, and I have a pretty good feeling the odds will be against me if I ever decide to become a mother.

I’ve failed at business, failed to relax while on vacation. I’ve failed to let insecurities go, failed to speak up when I had the chance.

Fuck, I’ve failed myself more times than I’d care to admit. I’ve forgiven a lot of them. But forgetting them is useless. I made those mistakes for a reason. The least I can do is learn from them.

14. Falling in Love

If I learned anything in 2013, it’s that love — the overwhelming, this-is-the-one kind, the love that makes you weak in the knees, if not slightly duller in the head — isn’t real. It exists outside of reality, in a world devoid of calories and Kardashians.

The fall is fun, for a while. But big love is just that… oversized and oversold. Overstated and filled with impossible expectations.

I don’t want to fall into that kind of love again. It lacks substance. I prefer the little loves.

My best friend’s daughter running around the kitchen chanting, “It’s all rainbows,” over and over again. The wag of a dog’s tail when you scratch the sweet spot behind her ear.

Neglected nuances, subtle sincerity — that’s where love lives. Lost in a pile of unmatched socks, it sits and waits for you, overlooked and underappreciated. Flawed but sturdy; frustrating but frank.

A beautiful mess of sadness and hope.

Fuck engagement rings and moonlit walks on the beach. Love hurts because that’s the only way to tell that it’s real.

Happy New Year.

May you give as few a fucks as I do in 2014.

Note 1: Age has something to do with these reversal in resolutions. Tough times and lack of hope in a better future takes over the good intentioned resolutions.

Note 2: Urban active one directional extremists for change (left and right) have driven people to the wall, and in return, people rebound with “active apathy” to what feels comfortable.

Note 3: Modern Urban life-style in raising children has spread to the countryside in developed nations and ruined the ancient paradigm that raising kids is the responsibility of the entire community.

Actually, forcing to send kids to school is the modern alternative to the community paradigm with lethal consequences.  Parents get inattentive to their children and trust low paid teacher and administrators instead of the confidence in the traditional community.

Children are far more influenced by peer pressures in schools than by parents upbringing. Instead of getting to befriend the students as normal behavior in a community, the kids bring home troubled relationships…

8 Hugs a Day per person can go a long way to increase a community life expectancy

Preity posted this Dec. 4, 2013

10 Reasons Why You Need at Least 8 Hugs a Day For Your Health

1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication.

2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger.

3. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still embedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

6. Hugging relaxes muscles. Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues.

7. Hugs balance out the nervous system. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.

8. Hugs teach us how to give and receive. There is equal value in receiving and being receptive to warmth, as to giving and sharing. Hugs educate us how love flows both ways.

9. Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart and your feelings and your breath.

10. The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. And, it’s synergistic: the whole is more than the sum of its parts: 1+ 1 = 3 or more! This synergy is more likely to result in win-win outcomes.

Note 1: I like hugging. I may also mention these same 10 reasons why friendly massages, holding hands… increase community tolerance level, our self-esteem and longevity…

Note 2: I’m handicapped and unable to extend life-expectancy of any modern community:

1. My hands are mostly cold, most of the year, particularly when in the shadow

2. I’m a smoker. Must find a smoker or an ex-smoker who relishes this aphrodisiac smell

3. My circle of friends are very restricted…

4. Must negotiate with a couple of people for multiple hugs a day to make the count of 8 and over…

5. A single beautiful and lovable person can do the trick… I’m searching for this person…


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