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Resilience? Not born with, but consciously practice?

Lebanon is passing through a terrible crisis that is affecting everyone, and one of the reasons so many companies are closing down is that they remained in business as usual mode, or in survival mode.

Same applies to people.

We chain ourselves to our daily routine and remain in our comfort zones, failing to see what is coming or even to be prepared for it.

Being resilient means bouncing back into shape and recovering quickly, like an elastic band that is stretched but returns to its normal shape and size after being let go.

Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, it is rising from the ashes to becoming the Phoenix again! Pun intended.

Master coach Pauline Sawaya – Founder of Swift Shift, shares her tips and tricks to becoming for resilient in the face of hardship. She is enrolled as a coach in Berytech’s Impact Rise Social Entrepreneurship Scale Up Program.

Traits Of Resilience

More than ever today, resilience is needed in every single person in Lebanon. Why? Because resilient people:

  • Are flexible and adjust to big life changes: when we fall and learn to get up again, we flex our muscles to change and adapt to unexpected circumstances
  • Maintain their focus and are self-driven by a goal: having a purpose and a passion that wakes you up every morning to do what you love to do and having a goal in mind at all times, makes you focused and eager to achieve
  • Recover easily from misfortune: flexibility and focus help resilient people recover because they know that they survived their bad days and can move on
  • Have mental toughness and enjoy excellent relationships: people love to be and to work with resilient people because they are tough, they understand their emotions and are open to the ups and downs of relationships

Becoming More Resilient

People are not born resilient; resilience involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone, and once you develop resilience you become a better version of yourself at all levels.

Rewire your brain to be more flexible

Our brain is like any muscle and it can be trained, so instead of having a fixed mindset, work on a growth mindset, i.e.; you need to believe that you can learn resilience and that you are what you want to be, with persistence and work you will achieve it.

Embrace change

You need to embrace that change is the only constant in our life.

In order to leave your comfort zone, you need to work on believing that change is positive and will only lead to positive results. (Getting down to change a set of your behavior, and this is the hardest of tasks). This is crucial.

Separate yourself from the incidents

When we face a challenge, we all tend to stay in the same mindset, but we cannot solve an issue with the same mindset that helped create it.

You need to step out of yourself and look at it from a different perspective and ask yourself what is the situation telling me?

Take care of yourself & your emotions

We are trained to be givers and to believe that we need to be people-pleasers.

Since our childhood, we have been made to fit in a box, whether by our parents, or by our community, even at school.

We are forced to do things to please others, so they accept us.

Now it is the time to ask yourself “what is important for me? What am I doing for myself? What are the emotions that I am feeling and how are they serving me?”

(You need to come to term for this answer: “What is the meaning of life?” And change your path with determination, without worrying if your undertaking is considered Wrong by others.

Keep growing & investing in yourself

Once you ask yourself the above questions and focus on ‘you’, you need to start working on yourself, by investing in yourself, in your skills and competencies so you keep growing out of the box of everyone and growing your box. Get a Coach or a mentor.

Stay prepared & live out of your comfort zone

There is nothing called security. Remaining in your comfort zones lead to the same results. Nothing happens that is different.

Ask yourself what magic do I need to bring in my life to make it better, what status quo do I need to shake, what can I use from my situation today so I am prepared for a better tomorrow?

(I had decided 10 years ago to become funny, and taking the initiative to introducing myself upfront, by recounting situations of my limitations, making people laugh at my expense, knowing full well that they do share the same limitations)

Nothing beats the power of questions to bring resilience to your life, you are not a tree and you don’t only need to bend, you can move.

Every setback is a setup for a comeback, and in the end it is up to you to make the best out of any situation.

About the author

Pauline Sawaya is the Founder of Swift Shift and the Managing Director of Noble Manhattan Coaching Levant. She is an accredited Master Coach from the UK, as well as a leader, consultant, HR, mentor and transformational trainer. Read her profile here.

Part 5. Ten Myths on Israel: Not how a “Democratic State” behave (by Ian Pappe)

No, Israel Is Not a Democracy

The Occupation Is Not Democratic

By lan Pappe

From Ten Myths About Israel, out now from Verso Books.

June 12, 2018 “Information Clearing House” –  Israel is not the only democracy in the Middle East. In fact, it’s not a democracy at all.

In the eyes of many Israelis and their supporters worldwide — even those who might criticize some of its policies — Israel is, at the end of the day, a benign democratic state, seeking peace with its neighbors, and guaranteeing equality to all its citizens.

Those who do criticize Israel assume that, if anything went wrong in this democracy, then it was due to the 1967 war.

The Occupation Is Not Democratic

Given Israel attitude towards two Palestinian groups — the refugees and the community in Israel — the Jewish state cannot, by any stretch of the imagination, be assumed to be a democracy.

But the most obvious challenge to that assumption is the ruthless Israeli attitude towards a third Palestinian group: those who have lived under its direct and indirect rule since 1967, in East Jerusalem, the West Bank, and the Gaza Strip.

From the legal infrastructure put in place at the outset of the war, through the unquestioned absolute power of the military inside the West Bank and outside the Gaza Strip, to the humiliation of millions of Palestinians as a daily routine, the “only democracy” in the Middle East behaves as a dictatorship of the worst kind.

The main Israeli response, diplomatic and academic, to the latter accusation is that all these measures are temporary — they will change if the Palestinians, wherever they are, behave “better.”

But if one researches, not to mention lives in, the occupied territories, one will understand how ridiculous these arguments are.

Israeli policy makers, as we have seen, are determined to keep the occupation alive for as long as the Jewish state remains intact.

It is part of what the Israeli political system regards as the status quo, which is always better than any change. Israel will control most of Palestine and, since it will always include a substantial Palestinian population, this can only be done by nondemocratic means.

In addition, despite all the evidence to the contrary, the Israeli state claims that the occupation is an enlightened one.

The myth here is that Israel came with good intentions to conduct a benevolent occupation but was forced to take a tougher attitude because of the Palestinian violence.

In 1967, the government treated the West Bank and the Gaza Strip as a natural part of “Eretz Israel,” the land of Israel, and this attitude has continued ever since.

When you look at the debate between the right- and left-wing parties in Israel on this issue, their disagreements have been about how to achieve this goal, not about its validity.

Among the wider public, however, there was a genuine debate between what one might call the “redeemers” and the “custodians.

The “redeemers” believed Israel had recovered the ancient heart of its homeland and could not survive in the future without it. In contrast, the “custodians” argued that the territories should be exchanged for peace with Jordan, in the case of the West Bank, and Egypt in the case of the Gaza Strip.

However, this public debate had little impact on the way the principal policy makers were figuring out how to rule the occupied territories.

The worst part of this supposed “enlightened occupation” has been the government’s methods for managing the territories. At first the area was divided into “Arab” and potential “Jewish” spaces. Those areas densely populated with Palestinians became autonomous, run by local collaborators under a military rule. This regime was only replaced with a civil administration in 1981.

The other areas, the “Jewish” spaces, were colonized with Jewish settlements and military bases. This policy was in the end to leave the population both in the West Bank and the Gaza Strip in disconnected enclaves with neither green spaces nor any possibility for urban expansion.

Things only got worse when, very soon after the occupation, Gush Emunim started settling in the West Bank and the Gaza Strip, claiming to be following a biblical map of colonization rather than the governmental one. As they penetrated the densely populated Palestinian areas, the space left for the locals was shrunk even further.

What every colonization project primarily needs is land — in the occupied territories this was achieved only through the massive expropriation of land, deporting people from where they had lived for generations, and confining them in enclaves with difficult habitats.

When you fly over the West Bank, you can see clearly the cartographic results of this policy: belts of settlements that divide the land and carve the Palestinian communities into small, isolated, and disconnected communities.

The Judaization belts separate villages from villages, villages from towns, and sometime bisect a single village.

This is what scholars call a geography of disaster, not least since these policies turned out to be an ecological disaster as well: drying up water sources and ruining some of the most beautiful parts of the Palestinian landscape.

Moreover, the settlements became hotbeds in which Jewish extremism grew uncontrollably — the principal victims of which were the Palestinians.

Thus, the settlement at Efrat has ruined the world heritage site of the Wallajah Valley near Bethlehem, and the village of Jafneh near Ramallah, which was famous for its freshwater canals, lost its identity as a tourist attraction.

These are just two small examples out of hundreds of similar cases.




June 2022

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