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How Gain Influence? Like what, and for what?

You hear: “If you want to lead, increase your influence…”

By Dan Rockwell?

Is there any difference between influence and dominance?

Is leadership expressed by influence? Like what? Does it means gaining permission to lead, asking for voluntary approval…?

Is dominance and coercion sorts of leading tactics? Police have rightful authority to control.

Relying on power, authority, or position, makes you look like a cop writing speeding tickets.

Do Dominant leaders achieve compliance at the expense of loyalty, inspiration, and innovation. (I am weary of the term Loyalty: must be specific of what activities demand loyalty from members)

People want to join with others and make a difference in the world. They want to be led. (This bring in the term Dan Rockwell who are basically prejudiced to many fake values) 

But, if the led don’t consent to your leadership, command and control, what are your options?

People are influenced by those who understand them. Permission to lead is given by those who feel known, appreciated, affirmed, and respected.

When people feel you understand their talents, drives, hopes, and fears you earn their consent to lead.

Criticism and correction diminish influence when it feels like disapproval.

Three reasons influential leaders criticize or correct:

  1. Correction is always for the benefit of the person being corrected.
  2. Criticism improves their ability to make positive difference within the organization.
  3. Capability to achieve a shared mission is enhanced.

10 Essentials of influence:

  1. Clearly stating what you want.
  2. Asking questions of others.
  3. Inviting questions from others.
  4. Openness to the influence of others.
  5. Working together toward shared goals.
  6. Authenticity.
  7. Relationship building.
  8. Asking for suggestions, advice, and input.
  9. Making the case and giving reasons.
  10. Shared values.

What can you add to the 10 essentials of gain influence?




February 2023

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