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Since when had a “knocking opportunity” failed you?
It is very disturbing trying to explain and define the term opportunity. It is always a gut feeling, a second-split decision, that tells you “if I fail to grab this opportunity I will regret my decision most of my life”. Isn’t a lie when you reply to a good offer “Can I think it over for a day”?
Regret is fundamentally the worst downer in life: You cannot shake off regrets of failed decision to act, you cannot forget the event, you cannot forgive your moment of lazy behavior “to go get it”. 
The regret keeps coming backing and haunting whatever success story you managed to get; it is always: “Just imagine how greater I would have been if I grabbed this and that opportunity…”  
It is a good tactic to master and say YES to an offer and get the game going. Isn’t what you are taught at clowning practices to keeping the play on? has another view to “opportunity grabbing tendencies”.  I certainly has many comments, but first let us read what William has to say:
September 29, 2011Why saying ‘Yes’ to opportunities means setting yourself up for failure

Hanane is telling me about how she has this work opportunity that she doesn’t want to loose. Both she and I know that she doesn’t have the time for this opportunity right now.

The reason many of us fail to succeed is because we can’t let go. We’re afraid to loose opportunities. We say ‘yes’ to every single one.

By doing that, we dilute our efforts. We can’t focus on one project, nor one direction, nor one niche. We try to do everything at once. We try to ‘be’ everything at once. Those of us who are like that, constantly fail to succeed.

Yes, failure is good. It helps us grow and learn. Yet, we have to be careful. This ‘failure-is-good’ philosophy only applies when we fail despite our best efforts; despite our 100% focus and attention.

When we dilute our focus and attention 4 ways (25% each way), and then fail, please let’s not claim that ‘failure-is-good’. Let’s not claim that failure is a learning experience. We all know that 25% effort can’t create a success at anything.

When we’re afraid to lose opportunities; and when we say ‘Yes’ to all of these opportunities, we set ourselves up for failure. We agree to play a game we can’t win at.

Seth Godin failed at 300 businesses so that he can succeed at a few. The trick is that he was 100% dedicated and focused on one business at a time.

Alternately, we too can fail at 300 businesses. The difference is that we won’t succeed at any if them when we’re working on 2 or more at a time.

One of the key ingredients to success, is for us to be ready to turn down tempting opportunities for the sake of focus. One idea at a time. One project at a time. One vision at a time.

Hanane, take up all opportunities and fail to succeed at all of them. Loose all opportunities but one, and succeed over and over again.”

You read this note and you say “wow, this is inspirational”.  You reflect for a minute and you say: “This is just rhetoric: So many rational holes in that idea…”

I get very jittery when I read giving 100% of any abstract concept that has no quantifying basis for evaluation, not been measurable, nor a rigorous operational process for evaluating the concept has been researched and applied.

I read that mankind barely uses 10% of his brain potential, and maybe less than 30% of his physical energy potentials. Does William means by 100% effort, attention, or focus the current developed potential, or we have to wait to develop a certain level of potentials before considering seriously any other opportunities? What level of development can we judge appropriate for taking the second step into opportunity investigation?

William is funny: He cannot help it; he has to accept Seth claims as truth, like “Seth invested 100% effort on each of his 300 failed enterprises…” Seth looks pretty young to me for the claim; as if you can say “I failed” after just a month trial…Just count how many years it took Seth to discover his “calling”.

I say to Hanane: “Go get that opportunity that your heart wants.  You have enough experience, maturity, and you made the effort to let your heart be a winner, this time around. Your heart is the focus of your strongest passions and dreams… Would you dare fail your powerful instinct?”




September 2022

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