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I got wed. Now, what I do next?
Posted by: adonis49 on: August 29, 2010
I got wed. Now, what I do next?
Note: This article is a shortened version of a previous post, focusing on what to do next after the wedding…
Millions of couples get wed every day.
The vast majority never experienced intercourse, at least one party in the union. It is no surprise that most of the couples have not met before the wedding, at best they have seen a puny picture of the member, supposed to living with for the rest of their life.
Many couples love the companionship. The sexual part, and principally the intercourse phase, is the least interesting exercise in their mind, at least for one member of the couple.
It is wise that rarely any one in the couple bring up the truth that the sexual part is in second or third order of priority: The wrong interpretation is invariably a bad one, of the most dangerous kind. For example, “Am I that disgusting? Am I ugly? Do I smell terrible?”
Well, you got wed and now you are wondering “what should I do next to make this courageous decision a success story?”
First principle, and maybe the only one of value for sexual intercourse, is that male partner is the passive part: The woman should be the active and guiding partner.
Many males wait years before they comprehend that a successful, rewarding, and pleasuring intercourse is to sit back and let the woman do the job right.
Many women know that they are the one getting the most pleasure of that exercise, but they postpone indefinitely getting the courage of teaching their husband to take the proper course of action.
Before you resume the rest of this post, I suggest to the brides to imagine (visualize) the kinds of story they should undertake as they got the principle down.
Now that you have your own story of the proper way to enticing your man to perform intercourse in a very relaxed manner, you may continue reading.
I can figure that most women think that a sexy attire, in the privacy of the house, is the first in the list of “must do”.
This line of thinking comes with years of training and ruining the family treasury for clothing. Sexy wear is an excellent idea but it is mainly a prompt.
The groom and the bride have acquired particular idiosyncrasies as to the varieties of sexy cloth. Once the man comprehends what garment is meant by “tonight there is intercourse“, then the way is clear.
The man knows the objective of the evening, he feels relaxed, and can think of ways to be romantic. The main hurdle is crossed, once the prompt is clearly defined.
Next, olfactive or the sense of smell is the most powerful sense in the lymbic (primitive) brain system.
Thus, both parties have to have a bath and smelling fresh. A joint bath is excellent; you rub one another body parts, get relaxed, laugh, and play like kids.
By the by, both parties learn the nice smells that they jointly love; the kind of soaps, the perfume… Once this phase is nailed down, things can progress smoothly.
While wearing the sexy gown and then taking a joint bath or shower, make sure the background music is devoid of any lyrics: You don’t want to clutter your thinking brain; focus on what excite the limbic system.
The sense of touch has a direct route to the lymbic system but it has lost its power for men. Women are more endowed with the pleasure of touch: they kept this sense alive from practicing it since childhood. Men don’t get excited by touch; it is mainly to enhancing his mental imagination.
The only “touchy” part in a male is the closest region of his anus.
I get generous and add the genital parts, but this is a manner of increasing his ego. I am convinced that when a female touch the genital parts of a man, it is the imaginative brain section that is excited. The man think: “Wow, she wants it!” and that is enough for assuring an erection.
Man has to touch his partner everywhere, and seriously learn the most efficient exciting parts in his partner: He does not want to bore his partner with lousy time-waster when the partner is ready to enjoy.
I suggest to the women to use boldly the largest skin areas in the hands, feet, and thighs: Nail and finger touching is to be avoided because man is different from woman in that powerful section of the lymbic system.
The sense of touch is basically atrophied in man and it is fundamentally used to excite the imaginative sections in the brain.
Good luck in your journey of learning the body of your partner: It might be the initial phase in appreciating companionship and privacy.
Sex: An exclusively personal value
Posted by: adonis49 on: January 18, 2010
Sex: an exclusively personal value (Draft); (Jan. 20, 2010)
Let me dispatch the physical aspect to focus on the important matter. Like pissing, shitting, and sweating, ejaculating is a bodily excretion.
Like shivering for heat equilibrium, ejaculating is a reaction for internal physical chemical equilibrium.
We learn to control pissing and shitting when asleep with no major harms; we might control these exercises during our waking period for short duration. I doubt that it is recommended to stretch the control freakishness to ejaculation during the dream part of sleep: your subconscious mind might get frustrated in reorganizing your memory and it needs a release mechanism to function properly.
Thus, set aside any guilt feeling when you have sex in dreams, no matter with whom or with which genders.
I will not dwell on the physical consequences of diseases or how to protect from inadvertent occurrences. I am interested in the value system attached to sex.
I am not insinuating that sex is the primal value in most social value systems, but it is in most systems. It is our duty to retrieve sex from the other values and give it an exclusive personal value. This is right because sex is a prime responsibility that is pretty much under individual capabilities to control and manage.
What differentiate intercourse from the other excretion outlets is that it is under your total control during the waking period, and for as long as you wish, with no major physical harmful consequences.
I also differentiate between sex interplay (without intercourse) and the entire sex game. Sex interplay should always be welcomed between two friends who appreciate company.
The topic is basically related to the intercourse phase: It is always trouble in any aspect you consider it (though not necessarily in a negative sense).
When two partners need to have intercourse, they should be at the same psychological level emotionally.
No one is nominee to play the physician or psychiatrist or to be in control during the whole physical debate.
Thus, the partners have to be both emotionally either “sick” (they feel the urge for release) or contended and healthy (they regard sex as the best alternative quality time).
Intercourse bring the domain of the ego into the foreground. Ego is the most tricky characteristic to comprehend, admit its existence in the relationship, and to control and manage its consequences.
It is your entire responsibility to be sensitive enough to recognize the imbalance in emotional status when you decide to have intercourse.
You have to decide: are you both emotionally sick or healthy? It is your entire responsibility to figure out in what state your partner is complying. Conversation is an excellent start; exposing your concept for healthy intercourse is a must to permit your partner judicious decisions.
If you are past age 30, you are not entitled to bring the issue of subconscious urge for procreation: you have lived long enough for your brain to discriminate among rational thinking, facts, fiction, myths, misunderstanding, disinformation, and human errors. The psychiatrist will demonstrate whether you are a nut case at this advanced age.
Intercourse, as a game of complex control behavior of others, is the most basic and influential habit that expands to all other control behaviors in our daily routines and schemes.
If we learn to master the control freak behavior in bed, then humanity would have started a giant step toward harmony, compassion, and emotional stability.
Note: This is a draft: I need your developed opinions and comments.
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