Adonis Diaries

I borrowed the idea for this article from a post on notesby.me   My nephew has decided to publish notes and experimented with a varieties of methods and techniques in order to recharging his energy level and radiating energy, confidence, and sharing his happiness.  My nephew went through the hard and old methods for learning meditation for many years and had to succumb and obey the thousands of “do and don’t” commandments and recommendations of meditation cults and organizations.  He got it right and is spreading his notes to circles of friends for replenishing on energy and sharing their activities.  The following is an edited version:  I cannot just paste-copy and I have to publish in my own style.

When meeting with three people radiating high-energy you cannot deplete their level of energy and conversation does not turn into arguments.  Remember that you cannot fool people and keep relying on their energy for constant supply without deciding to engage in their energy loaded activities.

Three principles to retain:

First, you must do activities that require high-energy demands

Second,you must learn to enjoy those activities,

Third, energy loaded activities should be done in groups or teams (circle of friends, clan or club members…)

How do you prevent someone from stealing your energy and relying on your energy for support (attachment)?  How do you raise your energy level if your battery is low? Where to get energy from?  How to keep your energy high, and get real indicators when it’s falling?

“There are many ways to recharge your energy. most are not really practical for most people. Meditation is one of those ways and it takes years to master.  Special meditation techniques take lots of dedication and effort, and you need a community around you that meditates effectively. Most of the time, the community comes with its own rules and regulations. You start by just wanting to boost your energy level, and then they either ask you to stop meat, or they ask you to wake up at a certain time, or sleep at a certain time. or you have to watch what you eat,  and when you eat it. or you have to fast before you meditate, etc.  These recommendations are fine for someone who’s looking for a spiritual path and doesn’t mind waiting 3 years to see results.  You are not one of those dedicated patient starters, are you?

What if you want to go on with your normal life, doing the things you love, being with the people you like, and at the same time be fully recharged, happy, stress-free, and radiating energy? What if you want today to stop stealing the energy of people and help them not steal yours?   Is it really possible? I believe it is.   I have confirmation of people who read my notes and feel different and their relationship changed:  Couples are no longer depleting one another energies and living in constant arguments.

Keep in mind, although it’s simple enough, and it completely integrates into your daily life, it does take conscious effort to actually initiate it at first.   If you’re looking for a lazy-way to improve you will NEVER find method to recharge you low-level of energy. Time to choose: you can either be lazy, or a happy person.  It is hard, especially if your energy level is very low initially. but once you start, it basically maintains itself,  grows, matures you, evolves you uncontrollably, and greatly expands your comfort zone: spiritually, mentally, socially, and emotionally.

I’ll just plainly state it, and then explain exactly the process, how it works, and why it works. and don’t be fooled by its simplicity: “do hard and challenging things that you enjoy + surround yourself with the tribe and culture around those things.”  Doing things that you simply enjoy and do not require effort will not work. Why? Doing easy things require little energy, and no effort. For example, you can enjoy eating, sleeping, shopping, watching DVDs, but that won’t boost your energy. that will just make you feel ok temporarily:  Once the activity is done, you’ll probably feel worst than when you started.

Doing hard and challenging things require high levels of energy, effort, and hard work. and the first step to raising your energy level is for you to enjoy doing those challenging things. I’ll get the why soon.   First I want to give examples of challenging activities that I love doing so you can get a clearer picture: running, hiking, climbing, TEDx salon gatherings, challenging conversations with geeks, technical problem solving, visiting old villages and mingling with strangers and elders, collective cooking, etc. now as you can see, besides the first two, I can’t really do these activities by myself. and even those that I can do by myself, I don’t.

There are always other people involved for the high-energy demand activities.  First, let me tell you why it’s vital for the activities to be hard.  Imagine you have a thermometer, but instead of temperature, it gauges the amount of effort each activity requires. sleeping, eating, shopping are on the very bottom of the thermometer scale. climbing, mentally demanding conversations, and problem solving score very high on the scale. this means that for you to climb, you need a high level of energy. which also means that if you climb often, you’re constantly making sure that your level of energy is high, or else you can’t climb.

This is the only sign that I need to make sure that my energy is alway high.  If the day I’ve planned to go to TEDx comes, but I don’t feel like it, I’d rather not get out of bed, showering, and driving at 9pm seems like a chore:  I like to sleep early.   That’s my cue. my energy level is low. and laziness is seeping in and the only way to prevent my energy from going down even further, is to actually get up, shower, get dressed, and leave. and I’m sure you’re wondering:

You get this question: “but if your energy is low, how can you do the hard activities in the first place?  If these activities actually require lots of energy, wouldn’t doing them actually cause you to lose energy?!”  The answer is simple.

A friend who initiated this note told me: “but I never stopped dancing, nor any of my other activities, but I feel so drained and stressed anyways.” I ask her: “what do you do after your dancing class?” she says “nothing, everyone leaves. you see now what the problem is?” The single most overlooked habit that makes you think you’re “getting a life” is not sharing activities with circles of friends.

The hard activities are never about the activities themselves: they’re about the tribes that join in them and comes with them, the people. the energies of the people. the collective.  Imagine you’re constantly surrounded by people who have a very high energy. imagine you’re constantly interacting with these people. imagine the explosions, and exponential multiplication of the collective energy in the group.

“The best possible scenario in any relationship is where both couples have a lot of energy to spare, and when they get together, no one tries to steal.  Instead, they share, they give, they exchange, they grow into each other. and amazingly this creates an explosive atmosphere of energy. The energy that they both came in with, multiplies exponentially.  They both have an experience that takes their breath away: it feels like paradise. it is. and they both end up with an energy tenfold more than they came in with, and also a different, higher, more vibrant quality. and an experience that’s out of this world.”

Now imagine the very same experience in every single activity that you do.  How can you be unhappy? How can you have low energy? How can you feel depleted? You absolutely can’t: these are hard and challenging activities that require high energy, and you are surrounded by a tribe with tenfold more energy than is required by these activities.   So even if your energy is depleted, just get up and go.

As soon as you get to your tribe, you will recharge in a few  minutes out of the energy of the collective, and this is different from stealing energy.  In a one-on-one situation, one person can only take from the other. In a 3 person situation, if 2 people with high energy are already creating explosions of energy, the 3rd can absorb all he wants without depleting anyones energy. In a group where most members have very high energy, explosions are happening constantly, and energy is radiated in abundance; everyone is free to take all he wants, because once these low energy members are recharged, they will then contribute to the collective explosions of the group. t This is what a tribe is: the tribe collectively supports and boosts members to raise them all to the collective high level of energy.

This is how you can prevent yourself from stealing someone else’s energy, and prevent someone else from stealing yours: if someone is trying to steal yours, involve at least a 3rd person with a high level of energy. If you’re trying to steal someone else’s, then go out and do hard and challenging activities, and most importantly, surround yourself with the tribe around those activities. Don’t make the mistake that my friend did; don’t just go to dancing class and leave. Mingle with the tribe, share, interact, and multiply the collective energy exponentially.

That’s how you not only repair your relationship, but also fix your life.  That’s how you never have an argument again. That’s how you grow, you evolve, and you find happiness in everything that you do.  One activity isn’t enough, the more activities you have, the more variety you have, the better the quality of energy that you radiate; and the move value you bring to your tribes, and ultimately to your life.

Easy tasks require little energy: you don’t need high energy to get them done and they are done by people with low energy.  Hard activities ensure that you always have a high level of energy to perform them; and they are always surrounded by people creating explosions of energy. Go out, find your tribes, and mingle.

That’s meditation for the rest of us.

Note: You may read the integral article without editing and written by william choukeir on http://notesby.me/the-destructive-power-of-stealing-energy-and