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Goodbye perfectionism. Hello “Let go”. How to learn to delegate?

Why do you have to delegate tasks? What for, and how hard could it be? First, let us read the experience of

How TEDxBeirut taught me to delegate

“I’ve been a perfectionist all my life. If I needed something done right, I’d do it myself.
I’m aware of it. I fight it hard. I lose most of the time. I win sometimes. Because of TEDxBeirut, I think I’m now equipped to win most of the time.

With the sheer amount of work (to prepare) for TEDxBeirut event (on Sept.24), I had no choice but to let go. It worked ‘perfectly’ well. I learned these simple but powerful lessons that hopefully can help you delegate.

1. Brief the team as clearly as you can. Don’t tell them what to do step-by-step. Explain the desired outcome, and the reasoning behind it. This empowers them to own the work and the responsibility.

2. Let go.

3. Let them mess up. Don’t interfere.

4. Let them fix it. Don’t interfere.

5. Let them mess up while fixing it. Don’t interfere.

6. When there isn’t enough time left, take over. Fix it.

7. If there isn’t enough time left for you to fix it, let go. It has passed.

8. Once complete, take a look. Share with the team what you loved about their work. No need to mention what you didn’t like because these might be a result of your perfectionist tendency. With time, the team will maximize what you like, and minimize what you don’t.

I know I was under pressure to let go. You might not have it that easy, but try.
Goodbye perfectionism. Hello letting go.”

There is this pivotal assumption before delegating tasks: The tem members are skilled in their task, and they have been trained to implement the tasks.  Otherwise, why delegate? Why accept unskilled members in the team?

Given that the first assumption is satisfied, it is part of the training process to allow a member to err, to do mistakes.  The question is: Should we permit the member who erred to fix his mistake voluntarily, or we call for a general meeting of “experts” in order to analyze the “performance” of the team members?

Any member should appreciate to receiving feedback on his work, and it has not to be technical in nature.  The team, as a group, has the tendency to err on a large-scale and miss the goal, unless occasional rectifications are implemented. Frequent meetings are essential in keeping the cohesion of the team and redirecting their work. Waiting for “step 6”  in order to interfere and fix the mistake is already too late, if we think that the member is about “to fix it” on a timely manner: A few pointers to the members are in place as they realize their mistake.

When all is done, it is of the past, and what has been achieved is the “best” under the current conditions of methodology and administration. The next event is not from the past, and it should build on the misconceptions and mistakes of the previous ways of “doing business”.

You can have it that easy if you delegate all the way because you are under time pressure: It should not be that easy under any circumstances.

Do you have the right to “daring to err”?

We are mostly trained to take on responsibilities, but do we have the right to decide taking chances to err?

They say that “it is human to err” but this saying does not convey the meaning of this article.  Do we have the right to morally and consciously take decisions we understand to have significant chances to be wrong, knowing fully well that the consensual social value consider it not proper or down right wrong?

Did you experience this crucial moment in your life, looking straight in the mirror, and asking “Do I have the right to be wrong if I decide for serious action?”  Maybe you asked this question implicitly, not daring to admit that, most probably, your decision is irreversible and will alienate the closest ones in your family and relatives.

Does not life has its right to challenging our personal inclinations and passions?

If parents keep detailed diaries, let say for every ten minutes, they will realize that the child was barely under close supervision; the child has been growing and surviving investigating his environment by trials and errors.  Implicitly, the parents know this fact, but the question is: “Would any parent consciously let the child take decisions, while sitting back tightly and watching the child resuming his things?”

A few parents would love to allow the child to learn on his own the danger of surviving, but community value system and legal pressures might refrain any parents playing this dangerous role of responsible educator.

Consequently, as adults, it never cross our mind to consider our right to err without previously communicating our decision to someone.  we need a surrogate to testify that the decision was not totally an individual endeavor, a courageous step to an uncharted territory.

Life demands of us to decide to leave our community, our village, our family, and discover the world.  Most of us never leave their own country on the ground that their responsibilities toward their parents, sisters, brothers, or community require of us to staying put, and let the world revolve around us.

Most of us knows that their marriage is a failure, but they hardly take a drastic decision unless the other partner brings up the subject.

Most of us do not go abroad to acquiring higher education for various unessential reasons.  Venturing outside our known environment is dangerous and not comfortable.  What about going abroad not knowing any acquaintance or having previously investigated where we are going?  Do you think these kinds of decision are for fouls and irrational persons?

Somehow, not venturing will come back to haunt us for failing to dare and trying something else; our character is changed for the worse, as well as our behavior.

I was not endowed to venture outside my surrounding and I was not equipped to navigating alone and taking individual decision, but I did it, and in the hardest ways.  I went far away not knowing anyone, not even a single acquaintance, and did it without communicating my decisions with anyone.  These decisions did not kill me, but I have a few stories to tell.

Your parents had their lives.  You should have your life of your own: No more excuses!  Life without adventures, when youth demands it, is such a waste.




February 2023

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