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Reactions to Seduction, Love, and Sex Tales (June 12, 2009)

 

            In the last three months I had decided that my posts would not exceed 800 words.  Consequently, my posts must not be read as academic essays intended to cover all aspects of any theme or in any reasonable depth.  Many times, as a few posts cover many aspect of the same theme then I combine them in a somewhat lengthy essay. In general I try to exaggerate to shock readers into personal reflection.  I leave it to the reader to figure out the many perspectives and angles for comprehending a theme. I even challenge readers with direct and categorical positions to generate comments that may resume discussion and enrich dialogue. Most of the time this tactic is successful and I always factors in comments of the types of immature curses and semi sentences.

 

            For example I receive a well elaborate comment on my post “Sex Tales”.  It goes “I was really interested in reading “sex tales”. I read this post many times and I felt your “anger” in your writing. What I don’t agree, even if I am not a man, is when you say that men don’t have pleasure and that the sexual act is “only” a tension relief. I agree that the sexual act is a natural need but you cannot compare it to pissing and shitting, even when we’re not talking about love, because sex is something that you can control, it is related to desire and pleasure, it is something you share.

            How can you generalize by telling that “Man is not endowed to experience sexual pleasures […]”? Did you ever discuss this issue with other men? In my opinion you cannot compare sex to masturbation, they are fundamentally different.

            You say that men need practice; I say that women need practice too. Practice is important for both genders in order to know their bodies, to know how to give pleasure and how to receive pleasure. Do you think that for women sex is “easier” or pleasure is “automatic”? Don’t you think that women also care for men’s pleasure and that they enjoy giving as much as getting?

             I looked for an explanation for your anger and I may have found two:

First, you said concerning men’s hands “one is more sensitive, functional, and defter than the other and not for manual work but for relieving your emotional anger and passions” maybe is it this emotional anger that is reflected in your writing?

Second, maybe it is a manifestation of a tendency for misogyny? After all, the way we see the world is always influenced by our personal experiences.”

 

            That was a wonderful comment and I tend to agree on most points. It gave me the opportunity to elaborate my position.  I am replying gladly and with excitement. Personally, I am sure that women need far more practice than men.  Mind you that I am not talking about seduction but the nitty gritty sex part of foreplay and intercourse.  After all it is the woman who is in the receiving end of sexual pleasure.  If the woman is not in control of the entire exercise then she had a failing grade and needs to practice more to accede to the next level.  Man must be the passive partner and as long as man is the active one then the woman has received a failing grade.

            No, we cannot compare sex to masturbation unless the woman partner is frequently getting lousy grades.  Then, it is far better for man to get in control of his “destiny” or change sexual partners.  It is the woman responsibility to retain her sex partner and discover what make her man tick.  Hint: occasionally, man wants to feel in charge; then it is your call “wisie”.

 

I get very tired doing the control part because it drains most of the nervous energy and requires complete focus to pleasure my partner while I never get an affirmative “Thank you”.  I maintain that sexual intercourse is an exit alternative for man to relieve his anxieties and angers until the wise woman partner extracts a genuine “Thank you” appreciation from her man after the game is over. Then, sex can shift to a qualitative level: it is for the man to expect a confirming “thank you” note from the woman partner.  Then we can say that sex is ranked as quality time; a serious fulfilling and relaxing exercise.  It is the phase when both partners have done their homework and learned what give pleasure to both sides.

 

            In general, I discovered that I like more the company of women than man: there are challenges at every corner until routine sets in. Then it is time for a change seeking the company of men.  As for misogyny and such terminologies I tend to avoid them: generalizations are intrinsically false.  Every person, in both genders, has a combination of characters; some tend to behave more frequently misogyny than others. What count is not what we say but rather how we act and behave. 

            Anyway, I am still into introspection and this exercise might last a life long. 

 

Note 1: I stumbled on a post offering advices for good sex.  Man likes seductive, intelligent, and confident woman. Women should behave lady like on the street and exhibit her bitchy vocabulary and lexicon in bed.  Woman should control burping and farting to the bare minimum: do you know anyone inclined to fuck his beer drinking buddy?  Woman should prove that she feels fine in her body and not constantly worried of the next esthetic surgery.  Woman should refrain from biting the penis or any canine scare tactics; likewise, man should refrain from savaging the clitoris and bruising it. Both genders should not trash talk about their acquaintances: this is a sure proof of low self esteem and a strong message that danger is around the bend.

 

Note 2: I linked three posts on seduction, love and sex for those interested in following the conversation.

https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2009/06/09/seduction-tales/

https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2009/06/09/love-tales/

https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2009/06/07/sex-tales/

Sex Tales (June 6, 2009)

 

            This post is not on love; that is a different ball game; it is not on feelings. This post is on sexual desires. Reading sex tales interest me; discussing fictitious love proposal does not.  Discussing actual sex proposition interest me; performing actual intercourse does not; though I am functional.

            Are you waiting for explanation?  Discussing details in writing interest me; verbal discussion does not: I am not verbally intelligent. We have two hands; one is more sensitive, functional, and defter than the other and not for manual work but for relieving your emotional anger and passions. Man must learn and be encourage using his professional hand as often as his rational mind desire to focus on important matters.

            Man is not endowed to experience sexual pleasures; they just want to get natural relief, like pissing or shitting without dirtying their hands. In fact, women have focused so much on their well deserved sexual endowment for pleasure that man deduced that women are less fit for rational reasoning.  In fact, women learned that luring man to sexual desires is the quickest and most effective mean for satisfying their wishes and wants; they did abuse it to such an extent that man banished women from rational functions, such as governing soberly and equitably among all people.  Consequently, wise men banished women from “statesmanship” and leadership jobs.

            Sexual desires are not sins; how could they be sins if they are natural?  Sexual desire is the main enemy for both genders if the mind is to be considered the most valued part in man.  Mystics and Sufis, of both genders, comprehended this dialectic: You cannot vanquish your enemy if you fail to know the enemy completely.  Mystics and Sufis dissected sexual desire in all its forms, shapes, and varieties; they explained sexual desire in the minute details, pornographically, physiologically, anatomically, and psychologically and left us scientific manuscripts in that field with accurate terminologies.  Mystics and Sufis achieved the highest level of serenity in personal victories after mastering the characteristics of the enemy to defeat and facing it boldly; they lost many battles but their purpose was to keep the struggle.  Steadfastness in the struggle for the victory of rational thinking is the discipline of the courageous and strong men and women.

            All religions approached sexual desire as the most disturbing factors for social stability.  A few religions attacked sexual desire as sins attached to various myths; they have woven fantastic tales to demonstrate their premises and applied drastic punishments and ordained stupid conditions to overpower the most natural of instincts. Other religions defined sexual desire as the enemy for rational thinking and equitable functioning in society; they faced that enemy rationally and didn’t run away from rational temptations or hide from natural facts.  Unfortunately, rational thinking require studying, application, follow up, and training; rational thinking is not endowed to vanquish natural inclinations when society is lazy and government not intelligent and bold to disseminate literacy and permit freedom of speech, opinion, publishing, and gathering.

 

            Virgin ladies abuse sex seduction more frequently than the staunchest nymphomaniac experienced ladies.  Sex decoying is independent from sexual practices; in fact, the less practiced the virgin the most experienced she is in seduction; women learn that skill since childhood, directly and indirectly; they already mastered that domain before puberty.  Contrary to man; man needs years of practice and continuing education for sexual baiting, after he realized that there is more than one function for the pissing ridiculous projection.

            I am interested in serious sexual proposal; I have strict terms and will set detailed conditions, more rigorous than financial or marriage deals.  I’ll have sex, take time off, extend the cuddling phase, spend hours on foreplays, and even have intercourse for pleasuring my friendly partner who genuinely is in need of companionship.  In almost all religions, particularly in Islam, women have rights to dictate conditions and clauses for marriage.  That they fail to exercise their rights is not simply a matter of lack of character; in most instances it is illiteracy, pressures of deviant traditions, and ignorance of THEIR RIGHTS.  Sakina, the grand daughter of Caliph Ali, Aicha Bint Talhat, and Hababa imposed their conditions to the astonishment of the Moslem society in the 7th century; those intelligent and ambitious women refused to wear the veil and keep silent in gathering; they behaved as they imposed the clauses that suit their life style and got it.

Remember, man does not get sexual pleasure; he works to make life and the world goes on.  Man, when you are surprised by sexual lure, remember that you have got a professional hand to get in control if your terms are denied.  This post is not on love: let your comments not mix love with sexual desires.

You need references? You need qualifications?  Good luck in your research.  I am reflecting loudly on personal expeririences.  Take my reflection or leave it. (You may read a few of my tales in my 13 addendums of my “Introspection” or autobiography category)

 

Note: I got a few pieces of information from “Love in the Moslem Countries” by Fatema Mernissi.


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