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And what remains after we discard all these mythological craps about sexuality and love?

“Finissons-en avec tout le fatras de mythologies et de ces conneries dont on entoure l’acte sexuel:

  1. L’amour et la sexualite’ sont deux emotions differentes. C’est une evidence que nous devons admettre sinon on accumule des problemes de tension qui ne sont pas necessaire a une vie heureuse et paisible.
  2. La nouveaute’ exerce toujours un attrait
  3. La conquete est un plaisir por les deux sexes
  4. On a un besoin pressant de nous rassurer quant a la valeur sexuelle
  5. Que l’amour ne se conjigue pas au singulier
  6. Qu’une personne peut aimer plus d’une personne a la fois
  7. Qu’il n’y a aucun mal a coucher avec les amis
  8. La promiscuite’ est enrichissante
  9. Les femmes se marrient pour l’argent facile
  10. Les hommes se marrient par pure commodite’
  11. Les maries restent ensemblent pour ne pas avoir a mourire seules…”

Un passage de “Actes d’Amour” de Elias Kazan. 

Et Ethel de demander au psychologue Cambere:

“Dis-moi. Une fois qu’on laisse tomber toutes les conneries dont tu parlais, qu’est-ce-qui reste?

Cambere: “Quelque chose de tres bien”

Question: What is this great emotion that remains after we drop all these  mythological craps about sexuality and love?

Note 1: What should remain is this most powerful of emotion: Pity. Pity is the greatest of all true emotions, and it include all kinds of mammalian species:

  1. We need people to have pity on us and that is why we extend a bad connotation for pity and try to find alternative terms for it, like kindness, compassion, caring...
  2. We know deep inside us that we survive thanks to the hundreds of people who had pity on us during our harsh life. Most of these people are strangers to us, and many didn’t even wait for us to ask for aid.
  3. People extend their pity and do Not expect but that someone else will return the favor in kind (pity), when hard times tacke us.

Note 2: Elias Kazan is the famous movie director and he turned to writing novels after the movie industry sanctioned him for being forced to divulge to the “Maccarthy Commission” in 1965 the names of the supposed communists in the industry.

Sexuality, reported actions, and the body: A refutation

What do you call a man who exposes himself to women for pleasure?

A philosophy professor, of course. Why does this joke work?

Because sexual harassment is so common in academic philosophy. But also because of the tension between the image of the lewd “flasher” (a certain type of harasser) and that of the staid professor.

When you think about it, most times that you are naked it’s not even about sex: when you bathe, dress, or are examined by the doctor, for example.

The ancient Greeks used to wrestle naked and artists still use naked models.

Indeed, without the body, human culture would not exist.

So really the body is very respectable and vital to human flourishing. We are a corporeal species.

fauxphilnews,  a guest post of by Clinton McGruff, had this to say in response to recent events on “Sexuality, reported actions, and the body: A refutation”

I have in fact written a whole book about the body, Pretension, in which its ubiquity is noted and celebrated.

I even have a cult centering on the body, described in this blog. I have given a semester-long seminar discussing the body and displays related to it.

I now tend to use nudity in the wide-ranging manner just outlined, sometimes with humorous intent.

Suppose now a professor P, well conversant in the above points, slyly exposes himself to his graduate student, who is conversant. The astute student, suitably primed, responds after a moment by saying: “Um… you’re not trying to proposition me, right?” Professor P replies: “You are clearly a clever student—I can’t trick you. That is exactly the response I was looking for!” They then laugh nervously together. (I don’t see the humor in cliche’ responses)

Academics like mind games.

But suppose a naïve onlooker, seeing this witty display, jumps to the conclusion that the nudity is indicative of something sexual. He then reports the act of Professor P as follows: “Professor P propositioned his student.”

He has failed to see the joke and has no knowledge of the intellectual background of the display he is trying so ineptly to report. He clearly misreports what Professor P did, missing both the content and the humor.

We might accurately describe P’s action as follows: P exposed himself to his student. Completely innocent.

These reflections take care of certain false allegations that have been made about me recently (graduate students are not what they used to be).

One has a duty to take all aspects of the situation into account and not indulge in rash descriptions.

And one should also not underestimate the sophistication of the flasher.

Note 1: Does anyone has a taxonomy for sex offenses?

Note 2: Why most elder people, responding to local anesthesia after a surgery, need to take off their hospital gown and every syringes attached to their body? They wouldn’t mind removing the skin too.

What Blend of Goddesses are you? Answer (part 2); (Oct. 31. 2009)

Note:  wordpress version transformed my A B C D E F in some sets of questions into 1 2 3 4 5 6; re-transform the numbers into chracters when using the scoring table.

The Jungian psychologists, the Woolger couple (Roger & Jennifer Barker), wrote that each female harbors qualities of six goddesses in certain ratios; the goddesses of power (Hera), civilization or Wisdom (Athena), eros or sexuality (Aphrodite), underworld or mystic (Persephone), nature or the wild (Artemis), and motherhood (Demeter). The mixture of qualities can be determined by answering sets of questions; thus, a female can be represented in categories of ratios on a goddess wheel.

The following sets of questions are from “The Goddess within: A guide to the eternal myths that shape women’s lives”. The scores represent your blend of Goddesses. The questions can be answered by the female and the male partner of how he rates his companion.  My personal suggestion is that a woman should rate the questions three times: once as a person before childbirth or marriage, the second time as a mother and a third time as what could be the trend when she retires to enjoy her own life, independent of family responsibilities. It is important that the individual refrains from the temptation of scoring before finishing the three times rating in order not to allow any biases of previous scores.

The rating scales are -1 (not true), 1, 2, and 3 (strongly applies).

Set One: Appearance

  1. Since I don’t go out a lot, clothes and makeup are not important to me.
  2. I much prefer to be dressed in jeans and comfortable shirts.
  3. My appearance is rather unconventional.
  4. I like to be conservatively well dressed and use makeup sparingly.
  5. I love to make myself up and be attractive.
  6. Well dressed and made up gives me confidence to go out into the world.

Set Two: My Body

  1. I tend not to think about my body.
  2. My body feels best when I’m fit and active.
  3. I like my body to be touched by those I love.
  4. I’m often Not in my body at all.
  5. I find it embarrassing to talk about my body.
  6. I love being pregnant/ I look forward to being pregnant.

Set Three: House and Home

  1. I prefer my home to be elegant and impressive.
  2. I prefer the city; an apartment is fine.
  3. My home must be warm and have room for everyone.
  4. I need privacy and space for what I like to do.
  5. Wherever I live it must be comfortable and beautiful.
  6. I prefer living in the country or close to parks and open spaces.

Set Four: Eating and food

  1. I eat carefully to keep my body healthy.
  2. I like to dine in romantic restaurants.
  3. I like to eat out a lot and be able to talk.
  4. I enjoy cooking for others.
  5. Mealtimes are important family occasions.
  6. Eating is Not terribly important to me.

Set Five: Childhood

  1. I had lots of secret games and imaginary worlds.
  2. I always ran all the games with my friends.
  3. I mostly loved to play with dolls.
  4. I always had my nose in a book as I got older.
  5. I loved to be outdoors.
  6. I loved changing clothes and playing dress-up.

Set Six: Men

A. I want a man who will always excite me sexually.

B. I want a man to spoil me and protect me.

C. I like a man who is independent and gives a lot of space.

D. I need a man who will challenge me mentally.

E. I need a man to understand my inner world.

F. I want a man whose position in the world I can be proud of.

Set Seven: Love and marriage

  1. Marriage only works when there is a higher spiritual connection.
  2. Marriage is the foundation of society.
  3. Without love my marriage is empty.
  4. Love and marriage are fine, so long as I have plenty of freedom.
  5. Love alone is not enough; marriage safeguards my children.
  6. My marriage has sometimes to be sacrificed for my work.

Set Eight: Sexuality

  1. It’s hard to let go fully during sex.
  2. The right man turns me on very easily.
  3. It takes me a while to get into my body.
  4. I love to give sexually as much as to receive.
  5. I am a bit shy but I can be very wild.
  6. Sex can be ecstatic; almost mystical for me.

Set Nine: Children

  1. I’m happiest when doing things outdoors with my children.
  2. My children are the greatest fulfillment of my life.
  3. I expect my children to be a great credit to me.
  4. I choose Not to have children to pursue my career.
  5. I love my kids, but love life equally.
  6. I love my children and always want to know what they feel and think.

Set Ten: Pastimes

  1. Metaphysics, tarot reading, astrology, dream journal, rituals…
  2. Collecting jewelry, art objects, fashion, music, theater.
  3. Sports, athletics, jogging, camping, sailing…
  4. Community involvement, social clubs, volunteer groups, local church…
  5. Political campaigning, minority group support, museums, lecture series, reading.
  6. Cooking, gardening, tending plants, needlework, weaving.

Set Eleven: Parties

  1. I usually go into political or intellectual discussions.
  2. I’ll often be drawn to people with problems.
  3. I prefer being the hostess at my own party.
  4. I can’t help sizing up the sexiest men in the room.
  5. I like to make sure that people have a good time.
  6. Parties make me restless; I prefer Not to go to many parties.

Set Twelve: Friends

  1. Most my friends have children the same age as mine.
  2. I choose carefully my friends; they are very important to me.
  3. I enjoy my ideas and projects with both my male and female friends.
  4. I tend to have magical friendships.
  5. My friends are mostly the wives of my husband’s friends.
  6. My men friends are mostly more important than the females ones.

Set Thirteen: Books

A. Cookbooks, craft, child care books.

B. Nonfiction, biographies, coffee table, travel, illustrated history.

C. New Age books, psychology, metaphysics, channeled, and I Ching.

D. Sports, fitness, yoga manuals, animal and wildlife books, how-to books.

E. Art books, popular biographies, novels, romances, poetry.

F. Politics, sociology, feminist, recent intellectual, avant-garde literature.

Set Fourteen:

  1. I try to stay informed on world’s affairs.
  2. Politics only interest me for the intrigues behind the scenes.
  3. I know more about the world from my dreams than from newspapers.
  4. I rarely care what’s going on in the world.
  5. It’s mostly a man’s world; I leave them to it.
  6. It’s important for me to play an active role in the community.

Now add up the scores using this table:

Athena  Aphrodite      Persephone      Artemis           Demeter          Hera

1=F_      1=E_             1=C_               1=B_               1=A_               1=D_

2=A_     2=C_             2=D_               2=B_               2=F_                2=E_

3=B_     3=E_             3=D_               3=F_                3=C_               3=A_

4=C_     4=B_             4=F_                4=A_               4=D_               4=E_

5=D_     5=F_              5=A_               5=E_               5=C_               5=B_

6=D_     6=A_             6=E_               6=C_               6=B_               6=F_

7=F_      7=C_             7=A_               7=D_               7=E_               7=B_

8=C_     8=B_             8=F_                8=E_               8=D_               8=A_

9=D_     9=E_             9=F_                9=A_               9=B_               9=C_

10=E_ 10=B_             10=A_             10=C_             10=F_              10=D_

11=A_ 11=D_             11=B_             11=F_              11=E_             11=C_

12=C_ 12=F_              12=D_             12=B_             12=A_             12=C_

13=F_  13=E_             13=C_             13=D_             13=A_             13=B_

14=A_ 14=B_             14=C_             14=D_             14=E_             14=F_ 

Total and then insert corresponding numbers in a circle around the Goddess Wheel.

Note: If you are not married or have no child the authors suggest that you imagine the situation.  I suggest you be impartial: a score of 1 or 2 should be sufficient unless you already are an activist and thinks that you know exactly what you feel.  For the set on books, my suggestion is to score on the genre of books that you love most or you never touches.




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