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L’athéisme, ce tabou du monde musulman

Du Maghreb au Pakistan, en passant par l’Arabie saoudite, les athées sont de plus en plus nombreux. Enquête sur cet athéisme qui dérange et effraie le monde musulman.

Le Monde | Par Angeline Montoya (Londres, envoyée spéciale)

image: http://img.lemde.fr/2017/12/18/1344/0/2953/1958/534/0/60/0/f57f6d4_11771-nhcmrc.8b6bq.jpg

Bahous aimerait bien ne plus entendre parler de l’islam. Et même ne plus en parler du tout.

Mais quoi qu’il fasse, quoi qu’il dise, cet homme de 33 ans, vendeur à Voiron (Isère), y est toujours ramené.

Son athéisme intrigue, ou dérange, c’est selon.

Lorsque l’on est issu, comme lui, d’une famille et d’une culture musulmanes, le fait de ne pas croire en Dieu – et, surtout, de le dire – ouvre la voie à une vie d’incompréhensions, de renoncements, de ruptures.

« Je subis un double regard, explique Bahous. Pour les gens, de par mon apparence, mon nom, la couleur de ma peau, je suis de facto musulman. On ne peut pas concevoir que je sois juste Français.

Mais, pour ma famille, je suis le vilain petit canard. Ils me considèrent comme un “francisé” : être athée, c’est trahir ses origines, comme si être musulman était une origine.

Du coup, je me sens obligé de toujours me justifier, sur tous les fronts. »

Bahous avait écrit au Monde en février, en répondant à un appel à témoignages sur les musulmans ayant perdu la foi. Quand nous l’avons à nouveau sollicité, en novembre, rien n’avait changé pour lui : il avait toujours le sentiment de vivre dans cet « étrange entre-deux », où il se sent contraint de préciser sans cesse qu’il n’est « ni islamophobe ni islamophile ».

Le comble pour un athée : « Après les attentats, on m’a demandé de me désolidariser… »

Sa famille, elle, en particulier son frère aîné, n’a jamais accepté son renoncement à l’islam.

Depuis, les deux hommes ne se fréquentent plus. Bahous peut cependant s’estimer chanceux : sa mère, auprès de laquelle il s’est ouvert de ses doutes sur l’existence de Dieu dès l’adolescence, n’approuve pas ce choix mais le tolère.

« Dans certaines familles, annoncer son athéisme peut être encore plus compliqué qu’annoncer son homosexualité »« Dans certaines familles, annoncer son athéisme peut être encore plus compliqué..

En savoir plus sur http://www.lemonde.fr/idees/article/2017/12/20/l-atheisme-ce-tabou-du-monde-musulman_5232132_3232.html#Yo3aFicspe8xI6tL.99

Note: I wonder why anyone feel obligated to come out on whether he believes or Not in any God. Religious belief is an individual choice, when adult, same as being atheist: It is none the concern of anyone.

Part 2. A life of a Pintade (guinea fowl) in Beirut” by Muriel Rozelio

“Une vie de Pintade a Beyrouth”

The 400-page book studies the customs of urban women and girls in Lebanon. You find addresses of sport clubs, spas, private expensive swimming beaches, restaurants, beauty shops, esthetic surgery clinics…

In Beirut, the girls and women have winds in their sails; they wear skyscraper high-heel shoes, their “claws” are manicured in all seasons…

To be beautiful is a duty of the highest priority.  The pintades or guinea fowl (of all confessional sects) converge to the Cornice on the seashore of Ras Beirut or the ABC shopping center in Achrafieh to be seen, to see, and compare.

The pintades in Beirut are as pudic as much as proud. To be a pintade is to be a modern women, who constantly is on the look-out of the latest trends, who can reconcile the triumvirate: Family life, professional life, and personal equilibrium.  They exist only to have eyes riveted on them.

Seemingly emancipated, though plagued with all sorts of taboos, feminists or militants, superficial or courageous, the inhabitants of Beirut are kneaded in contradictions.

Submitted women?  Maybe in a few remote villages, but generally managing the family with an iron grip.

(In a tiny country, in a de-facto Non-State political structure, barely standing in a precarious political equilibrium, the behavior of the pintades can be considered a declaration of war against simmering wars).

There are many versions of pintades living in Teheran, Paris, and many other Capitals. It is in Beirut that 50 year-old dance on tables at 5 am. The Lebanese women have a passion for Lebanon and they keep this non-State existing, refusing to vanish.

Muriel Rozelio is undaunted and wants to experience practices that the pintades have given up usage long time ago.  For example Muriel wants to epilate using caramel (boiled sugar).

The pintades tell Muriel “Do you want to revert to the stone age? Wax (la cire) is far more hygienic and practical. First, caramel burns your fingers, and second even three showers will not remove the stickiness…”

Muriel receives an anonymous phone calls: “If you insist on caramel note down this address”.  Murial used the map “Zawarib Beirut” of  Ashrafieh to locate the place.  The fat 50 year-old matrone said: “The advantage of caramel is that it pulls the hair deeper”.  That was correct, but Muriel felt she sacrificed portions of her skin.

Another example. Muriel wants to experience Turkish baths in Beirut.  The pintades told Muriel that there are none in Beirut; she should drive to Saida or Tripoli for these unsanitary and microbe-plagues places.  Why not use the Jacuzzi and sauna in our health clubs?

Undaunted, Muriel head to Haret Hreik, headquarter of Hezbollah, 3 kilometers away from Beirut center, but culturally a light year away of the pintades.

The veiled woman attendent in the bath of Haret Hreik make them purchase shorts: It is not acceptable to get nude, even among women.

The Lebanese pintade would never leave her house and cross the street to purchase anything in “as is” condition:  She has to first to be ready to appear in public as if heading to a gala party.

The young girl learn how to do their own “brushing” of their long hair.  A caption says: “Israeli bombs, Syrian bombs… As long as you know how to do the “brushing” and brush your hair before going out, you ‘ll well manage your life fine, habibaty (my little love)”

This is a very funny book. You have got the gist of it.

Love: Women in Islam (Part 9, April 26, 2009)

 

In the Arabic language there are over 60 terms to express love; from the simple inclination (mawada) to total transport (mutayyam) to violent passion (3ichk) to the agony in love (sababa). 

You have: I love you (bahibik, gharami, 3youni, albi, 7ayati…).

There are as many terms for love as there are names for snow in the Eskimo language

Not an aspect, a detail, a characteristic, a symptom, kind, state, and remedy of love were not studied in the Arabic language and in Islam.  Medieval Europe experienced the troubadour love poems or courteous poems via the Arab poetry of Andalusia in southern Spain.

Love has never been a taboo neither in the pre-Islamic period nor in Islam; love has never been an aversion

People and poets who died out of love were considered high in the tribal communities and martyrs in Islam.  That is why even when a love affair was denied because of tribal interest, the tribes cried the death of a love partner who suffered tribal rejection or his love mate.

Islam encourages marriage as constituting half the religious duties and magnifies the necessity that both partners reach sexual pleasure through the art of foreplay and taking time for the female to feel happy and ready for intercourse before entering.  In marriage, all exotic love-making and positions are permitted as long as both partners are willing. 

Being naked and contemplating nakedness is part of the game. For example Aicha, the beloved wife of the prophet said: “I would take a joint bath with the Prophet after a state of grand impurity”

Women would complain to the judge that her mate prefers exclusively one position to others, particularly the anus intercourse, and she would turn over her sandals (babouj) for the judge to comprehend her complaint.  In such cases of wives unsatisfied sexually then they have the right to divorce.

Islam had created licit love-making via temporary contracts called “zawaj al mut3a” (marriage of pleasure) or the marriage of the traveler “nika7 al misyar or moussafer”.  These temporary arrangements are true contracts with all the required clauses of financial retribution and obligations.

Adultery is ground for divorce but no where in the Koran does the wife or the husband is subjected to be lapidated (put to death by throwing stones at). 

In a previous post, “Women in Islam: Divorce“, I have stated the mechanism and type of divorce.  You may refer to post “Women in Islam: Essay”

Moslem women writers are making a comeback in emancipation literature. For example, in French you have Nedjma (Star), a pseudonym, publishing “The Almond” (L’Amande) of the crude sexual education of a Moroccan girl, and “The crossing of the senses” (La Traversee des sens); you have Salwa al Neimi with “The Proof by Honey”; you have Rajaa Alsanea with “The Daughters (or girls) of Riyadh”; you have Zaynab Hifni with “I will cry no more” and “Women at the Equator”

 

Note: It is no secret that man is at huge disadvantaged in matter of obtaining pleasure in sexual encounters.  Women must have known that man is doing his best to convey his attachment and appreciation by pleasuring his woman partner; all that he receives is tension relief after working so hard for his mate to get satisfaction.

Whether a man is having intercourse the procreation type or through anus is of no difference to him in pleasure. If in a few cultures man prefers women with large hips and round behind it is not because of a sign of higher fertility or easier pregnancy but because the naked body of the bent over woman is far lovelier and magnificent than in other positions.


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