Posts Tagged ‘wedding’
Any alternatives for rings in wedding?
A line, not a ring, on my fourth finger
Ink on skin, oh what a beautiful invention! And how did I not discover it before?
Here, meet my first –and certainly not my last– tattoo, with so much intention in it…
A representation of my values around romantic relationships, a rebellion against the dated understanding of marriage, against the “captivity” mindset that marriage puts couples in.
A line, not a ring, on my fourth finger, means that I am with my partner because I’m choosing to be with them, everyday, and no piece of paper, costly ceremony, or social construct will choose that for me/for us.
With that mindset, and that conscious choice, the relationship becomes a place for personal growth and healing.
It’s my base-camp, my safe space, from where I can wander off, experiment, and discover, and if I stumble, and I do stumble a lot, I know I can always go back to that safe place and heal.
This first permanent line on my skin is also in the name of making mistakes… see, I played my adolescence quite safely, I didn’t make a lot of mistakes that teenagers make, the type of actions that you regret as an adult. It’s because I didn’t dare experiment or do things differently. I cared (still do) so much about what people think.
When asked, old people say that they regret the things they didn’t do a lot more than the things they actually did.
Even though I might love this minimalist line now, I will probably grow to dislike it, but I will be proud that I chose to do it anyway today.
In the name of experimenting, being authentic and true to myself, in the name of not caring what people think, and to making mistakes. In the name of strong relationships that we chose to be in everyday, relationships that enrich our lives and help us become better people.
To William, my partner in life, my best friend, and my family.
I would have never imagined that after 14 years I’d still be so passionately in love.
Our relationship has been a gift.
Hard at times for sure, and we still have a long way to go.
We’re gonna face a lot more roadblocks, and I have pure excitement for that, and for the improved selves we will become.
BRIDESMAIDS: SHOW US YOUR ASSES
Posted on: June 30, 2014
Some wedding photographer had the bright idea to add a little spice to the dreary and stilted wedding pics of time immemorial—and apparently it’s caught on! Because who doesn’t like being a little bit naughty at what often ends up being an inherently antiquated and conservative ritual … aw hell, I can’t work up any interest in that perspective. Look at the nice tushies!
I suppose you can’t spell honeymoon without “moon”…..
via Elite Daily
For the nth times: 8 Year-Old Yemeni Child Bride Dies of Internal Injuries…
Posted on: September 12, 2013
8 Year-Old Yemeni Child Bride Dies of Internal Injuries
An 8 year-old Yemeni child bride, recently died on her wedding night from internal hemorrhaging.
She was married to a man 5 times her age. As disgusting as the tradition of marrying off children to much older men is, it is common practice in Yemen. More than a quarter of the female population are married before the age of 15.
In 2010, a 12 year-old girl passed away after struggling for 3 days in labor, attempting to give birth to a baby.
Countless other children have been subjected to similar atrocities.
- At only 8 years-old, one child bride in Yemen sustained internal injuries so severe, she died.
- Marrying young daughters to much older men is a common practice in Yemen.
- More than a quarter or Yemen’s female population marry before the age of 15.
- These atrocities against young girls have outraged groups all over the world who are working to stop this barbaric tradition.
Groups all over the world are working to snuff out this archaic and disgusting practice, but its proving difficult.
The impoverished country is gripped by the practice of selling off children to be married; poor families find themselves unable to say no to “bride-prices” that can be hundreds of dollars for their daughters.
More people need to know this is happening.
I read an auto- biographical book, long time ago, of a child bride who married to an older man and secluded in a remote inaccessible mountain region. there were no roads or cars to reach the location…The husband would go work in Saudi Arabia, returns once a year or two, conceives a baby and returns to Saudi Arabia. The girl is left alone to fend for herself, with the help of the women of the extended family of the husband. The girl managed to flee, and that’s how her story was out.
Note 1: In many countries, one-hour sigheh or pleasure marriage is pretty common. Sort of regulated and religiously legal prostitution. The 0ne-hour sigheh is done on slave girl, purchased initially, and wrapped under a religious marriage contract. The husband formally divorce her and the child girl finds herself used and abused as slave at the former husband house or merchant shop…
Note 2: More on this calamity in Yemen https://adonis49.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/child-brides-in-yemen-take-a-look-and-read-the-interview/
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