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70 names for women (a single word descriptions attached to her) in the various slangs in the Middle-East

I wonder how males are described in a single word. I guess names that end in T (female word), if the T is dropped then we can have a male description?

أسماء المرأة

سبعون اسم للمرأة

1 السبحـلة : المرأة إذا زادت ضخامتها ولم تـقـبح .A woman who grows “fat’ and keeps her beauty
2 الجـاريـة : المرأة إذا كانت طويلة . The tall woman
3 الوضيئة : المرأة التي بها مسحـة من الجمال .

4 العـيطبـول : المرأة الطويلة العـنـق في اعـتـدال وحـسن
5 الغـانـيـة : المرأة إذا استـغـنت بجمالها عـن الزينة .
6 الوسيـمة : المرأة إذا كان جسدها ثابتاً كأنها رسمت به

7 القسيـمـة : المرأة صاحبت الحظ الوافر من الحسن .
8 الرعـبـوبة : المرأة إذا كانت بيضاء اللون رطبة .
9 الزهــراء : المرأة التي يميل بياضها إلى صفرة كلون القمر والبـدر Her white skin is as yellow as the moon

10 الدعـجــاء : المرأة شـديـدة سـواد العـين مع سعـة المقـلة
11 الـشـنـبـاء : المرأة رقيقة الأسنان المستوية الحسنة .
12 الخــود : المرأة الـشـابة حسنة الخـلـق

13 المولـودة : المرأة إذا كانت دقـيـقـة المحـاسـن
14 الخرعـبـة : المرأة حـسـنـة الـقـد.. وليـنة العـصب
15 المبـتـلة : المرأة التي لم يركـب لحمها بعـضه بعـضا

16 الهـيـفـاء : المرأة إذا كانت لطيفة البـطن
17 الممشوقة : المرأة لـطـيـفـة الخـصر مع امـتـداد القامة
18 الخـدبجة : المرأة السمـيـنـة الممـتـلـئـة الذراعـيـن والساقين

19 البرمادة : المرأة السمينة التي ترتـج من سمنها
20 الرقراقة : المرأة التي كأن الماء يجري في وجهها
21 الـبـضـة : المرأة إذا كانت رقـيـقـة الجلد وناعـمة البشرة The soft and thin skin

22 الـنـظـرة : المرأة إذا رأيت في وجهها نضرة النعـيم
23 الوهنانة : المرأة إذا كانت بها فـتـور عـند القيام لسمنها
24 البهنـانة : المرأة إذا كانت طيـبـة الريـح

25 العـرهـرة : المرأة عـظيمة الخلق مع الجمـال
26 العـبـقـرة : المرأة الناعـمة الجميلة
27 الغـيـداء : المرأة إذا كانت متـثـنـية اللين المتعـمدة له

28 الرشـوف : المرأة طـيـبـة الـفـم
29 أنـــوف : المرأة إذا كانت طيبة ريـح الـيــد
30 الرصوف : المرأة إذا كانت طيـبـة الخـلـوة

31 الـشـموع : المرأة.اللعـوب.الضحـوك
32 الفرعــاء : المرأة إذا كانت تامـة الـشعـر
33 الدخيـمة : المرأة إذا كانت منخـفـضة الصوت A soft low level speaking sound

34 العـروب : المرأة إذا كانت محبة لزوجها.. المتـحـبـبـه إليـه
35 الـنـوار : المرأة إذا كانت نـفـورا من الريـبـة
36 القـذور : المرأة المـتـجـنـبـة الأقـذار

37 الحصان : المرأة الـعـفـيـفـة
38 البنـون : المرأة كـثيـرة الـولـد
39 النظور : المرأة قـلـيـلـة الولادة

40 المذكـار : المرأة التي تـلـد الذكـور فـقـط
41 المأنـاث : المرأة التي تـلـد الإناث فـقـط .
42 المهـاب : المرأة التي تـلـد مرة ذكـر ومرة أنثى

43 مقـلات : المرأة التي لا يعـيـش لها ولـد
44 منجاب : المرأة التي تـلـد الـنجـباء
45 محمقة : المرأة التي تـلـد الحمقى

46 الممكـورة : المرأة المطرية الخلق
47 الـلـدينــة : المرأة الـلـيـنـة الـناعـمة
48 المقـصد : المرأة التي لا يراها أحـد إلا أعـجبته

49 الخبرنجـة : المرأة الجارية الحسنة الخلق في استواء
50 الرجراجة : المرأة الدقـيـقـة الجـلـد
51 الرتـكـة : المرأة الكـثيرة اللحم

52 الخـريــدة : المرأة الحـبـيـبـة
53 الطـفـلة : المرأة الناعـمة المـلـمـس
54 العـطـبـولة : المرأة طويلة العـنـق

55 الـبـراقـة : المرأة بيضاء الـثـغـر
56 الدهثمة : المرأة السـهـلة
57 العـانـق : المرأة التي لم تـتـزوج

58 الباهـرة : المرأة التي تـفـوق غـيرها من النـساء في الجمال
59 الهنانة : المرأة الضاحكة.. المتهللة
60 الغـيـلم : المرأة الحسناء.. حسنة الخلـق

61 المتحرية : المرأة حسنة المشية في خيلاء
62 العيطموس : المرأة الفطنة.. الحسناء
63 السهلبة : المرأة خفيفة اللحم

64 العـزيزة : المرأة الغـافـلة عـن الـشر
65 الرائعــة : المرأة التي تسر كل من ينظر إليها
66 البلهـاء : المرأة الكـريـمـة What? If the woman is generous then she is named an idiot?

67 الفيصاء : المرأة الطويلة العـنـق
68 المجدولة : المرأة الممشوقة
69 السرعـوفة : المرأة الناعـمة الطويلة
70 الشموس : المرأة التي لا تطمع الرجال في نفـسها…

What you miss in your mother, after she passed away?

أحنُ إلى خبز أمي وقهوةِ أمي ولمسةِ أمي
وتكبر فيَّ الطفولةُ يوماً على صدر يومِ

و أعشق عمري لأني إذا متُّ .. أخجل من دمع أمي
خذيني .. إذا عدتُ يوماً وشاحاً لهدبكْ

وغطي عظامي بعشبٍ تعمَّد من طهر كعبكْ
وشدِّي وثاقي بخصلة شعرٍ بخيطٍ يلوِّح
في ذيل ثوبك

عساني أصيرُ إلهًا .. إلهًا أصير

إذا ما لمستُ قرارة قلبك
ضعيني إذا مارجعتُ وقودا بتنور ناركْ
وحبل غسيل على سطح داركْ

لأني فقدت الوقوف بدون صلاةِ نهاركْ

هرمتُ فردّي نجوم الطفولة
حتى اشاركْ صغار العصافير
درب الرجوع لعُشِّ إنتظارك ..•~

محمود درويش : الأسطورة

Are there “Songs for Women”?

Note: re-edit of Jan. 2003 post Songs for Women. I had posted many stories on women I was lucky to know, and called these stories “Songs”

 

My songs are for the divorced women, widowed and singles with children.

Still sexually and determined active unmarried women.

My songs are of the short stories  kinds

Lacking imagination, of a grateful man,

Short on feelings.

 

Songs for women, who were my teachers in matters of love,

Loving and feelings unknown to me,

Much of feelings still a mystery to me.

Songs of remembrances, for my own sake,

Trying to connect the strings of feelings among these relationships.

 

Each song has a single heroine and a single name, as it should be.

Names of children of these mothers are sometimes added when recalled,

My way of praying forgiveness for my lack of attention to them,

For most of the duration of the relationship.

 

My way to say that I am sorry for failing to consider

The integrity and totality of the heroine’ s life.

My way of admitting that the deficiencies were all mine,

A man from the outside looking in

And ignorant of the new rules in this old game.

 

Songs for the women, who gave the best of their loving to men,

So Man could grasp the essence of life.

Songs for women, who need to be married for love,

With a man capable of learning a new gamut of feelings,

With a man thankful of discovering a wealth of emotions,

With a man becoming whole lest the cynicism of old age creeps in.

 

From all kinds of literatures I like short stories best.

The shorter the better

The perfect short story should generate two strong emotions:

It should make you cry laughing,

It should make you cry hating or loving

Same difference.

The daybreak of feminism.

A Summary of meu314 from wordpress.com

Note: I added a few notes in parenthesis and broke down long paragraphs to match my reading style. You can always read the original of meu314

(Versión en Español aquí)

Christine de Pizan was studying at home, like many other nights, when she run into Matheolus’ Lamentations.

At first, she was completely sure that all the misogynistic statements of the book were nothing but nonsense, but then, she remembered some other great writers and philosophers who said the same things, and she wondered whether she was wrong in her perception of women, being herself one of them.

This thought made her fall in despair.

At that point, the Three Virtues (Lady Reason, Lady Rectitude and Lady Justice) decided to appear to Christine to make her see that she was Not the wrong one and to help her build a city where any woman in the same situation of Christine could go and seek for refuge.

This way, a long conversation between the Three Virtues and Christine started, where they refuted and explained all the misogynistic ideas of that time.

Introduction to the book and influences

Firstly, I ought to mention that this book was written between the end of 1404 and the beginning of 1405.

Even though it has more than five hundred years, some of the subjects treated are still ongoing and the perspective with which they are treated is very progressist, even for today’s society.

Nevertheless, we cannot forget when the book was written, as there are some other ideas that could look old-fashioned to us, but they were a complete breakdown at the time. (where the book was published? In Spain?)

The title of the book (in French is “The City of Ladies”. How odd, the title is English) is a clear reference to the book The City of Godwritten by Saint Augustine, and even the idea of Christine´s book receives a clear influence from Saint Augustine’s, where he makes an defense of the Christianity by confronting a Christian city against a pagan one, and uses this to explain theological ideas.

Christine also receives a strong influence from the exemplum, books that started to become popular a couple of centuries before and which aim was to lecture the reader in a religious way.

We see that the Book of the City of the Ladies draws from centuries of theological thinking to refute the misogynistic ideas spread mainly by the Church.

As a matter of fact, Christine uses the major theological authority, one of the four Doctors of the Church, to precisely dismantle the reasoning of bishops and priests, and even those of the same Doctor. It is simply brilliant.

The first thing that caught my attention when I started the book was the fact that almost all women that appear there were Ancient History figures, Christian or pagan.

I was expecting for a collection of women contemporary to Christine, I was hoping to discover a lot of unknown Renaissance women.

There is indeed a moment when Christine explicitly says that not only foreign are to enter the city, and she mentions some contemporary women that are at the same level as all the other she has mentioned before, but this is not a big part of the book.

Why, if there were contemporary women who could serve as an example to refute these sexist ideas, does Christine decide to use women so distant in time? Even though at first this was shocking, now I can understand that the impact of the book would have been smaller had Christine not used these figures.

First of all, being able to show this knowledge of history, Greek and Roman mythology, biblical stories … It gives Christine authority. She is not a woman saying that her neighbors are good people, she is a scholar giving us hundreds of examples that show how the established ideas are a nonsense.

In addition, bishops and theologians often used mythological or biblical examples to build sexist arguments, like Judith´s story or the myth of the Gorgon which we will discuss later.

It makes sense that she uses the same source as the people she wants to refute. Same as she did with the simile with Saint Augustine’s book, Christine is showing her ability to pick up the weapons used against women and to use them in their favor.

We also have to take into account that she wrote the book in the Renaissance (Not quite the Renaissance yet), when Roman culture and their myths were in the spotlight. Also, the value of these figures was unquestionable, so she could avoid any kind of clash of interests with the examples she is making to refute an idea.

In addition, she is showing that women have been subdued to the same pressure since the beginning of time, and it is not related with their attitude or their religion.

Finally, Christine is also able to turn out some myths which were used to support the idea that women were evil, she reinterprets them to also show that a misogynistic interpretation is not the only way to see the world.

Christine’s value as a historian by interpreting, analyzing and reinterpreting myths and stories is incalculable, and again, she is able to use all of it to defend her ideas, creating a book that after more than five hundred years is still on point.

Some of the themes treated

Due to the huge number of subjects treated in the book, I am not going to go in depth in all of them, I will focus only in those I find more interesting. Nevertheless, I shall also mention some other themes treated, just to let us have an idea of what we will find in the book.

The book is divided in three partsthe three conversations with Lady Reason, Lady Rectitude and Lady Justice.

The Reason personified as a woman is an initial allegory to break down the idea that women were purely emotional beings and that they were unable to think logically, unable to use reason.

It already shows us that Lady Reason will be in the charge of building the foundation of the City, i.e. she will be in the charge of breaking the main ideas society had about women.

In this conversation with Lady Reason, they speak about why men want to badmouth women as a group, and they mention some books which were specifically written to speak about how mean women are or even about the bad functioning of women’s bodies.

Lady Reason points out that the fact that men did not allow women to read these books is an argument per se about how unconvincing these statements are, as any person who reads these books and knows a little bit about women would realize about the absurdity written.

Also, in this first part, Christine puts in the center of stage the abilities that women are supposed Not to have, such as intelligence, braveness, strength, leadership, creativeness, …

And she fills the book with women who have every single one of these skills. Here again, I was surprised that most of the examples of good rulers are from Middle East or Merovingian Franks queens.

Maybe, it has something to do with the fact that pre-islamic civilizations were matriarchies.

Merovingian Frank society, on the other hand, was not a matriarchy, but their legislative body was not very developed, so the power of personal influence was sometimes higher than the power of a title.

That left some accessible power for those women intelligent and ambitious enough who also had the luck of being born in a wealthy family.

We can see examples of this in the figure of the Queen Mother, who was a very respected figure who, in times of uncertainty or when there were weak kings, had complete power.

I think one of the arguments with Lady Reason is a good example of the mood of the book: Christine asks Lady Reason if there is some sense in the saying “women are only good for talking, crying and knitting.”

Against all odds, the answer of Lady Reason is that the saying is completely true, but she also explains why those are not characteristics to be ashamed of, but on the contrary skills to be proud of. 

Lady Reason shows several examples (all of them biblical) where a woman got the favor of Jesus over any man because of her tears or her talk (such as the Samaritan woman, Mary Magdalene, Lazaro’s sisters…). In this way, Christine chose to praise female “characteristics” instead of rejecting them.

The second part of the book is the conversation with Lady Rectitudea rhetoric figure created by Christine.

In French, Christine chooses to call her “Droiture” and not Rectitude like in the English translation, as rectitude can be associated with religious rigidity, and she wanted to avoid it.

Droit means straight, erect and so Droiture is a reference to the straight lines of the buildings that form the City, which in this analogy is a reference to the persistence and the good sense. 

In the conversation with Lady Rectitude, they discuss about the skills of the women who will be allowed to enter the city: filial, maternal and conjugal love, persistence, chastity and fidelity among many others.

Christine also makes a statement in defense of marriage, and she tells us that she had a happy marriage full of respect, although she is aware that she was incredibly lucky for that.

Again, by defending marriage and those skills, Christine is praising characteristics associated to women. Even though she is constantly speaking about examples of women who do not follow the stereotypes, she chooses to recognise women as a collective with common qualities that are different from those of men, and she decides to make a case for these skills.

We have to think that, if still today is difficult to deconstruct gender roles, in 1405 it was impossible to even think about them as a social construct.

In this part, Christine also speaks about abuse and rape.

When she is speaking about marriage, Christine says that there are women who have to suffer abuse from their husbands on a daily basis, and she lauds those women that continue with their role as a wife and mother in the family unity, as they are able to leave their sorrow and they chose the maternal and conjugal love instead.

This is obviously something crazy to say today. (Please, if somebody is in this situation you have to get out of there, ask for help and leave as soon as possible).

But in 1405 it was a complete break down with all the ideas they had.

Firstly, Christine is showing the reality that some women have to live in, and also, she is making the statement that, even though the situation is brutal for them, those women chose to honor the sacrament of marriage.

The ideas Christine presents about rape could form part of a book written today.

First of all, she refutes the idea that women do enjoy being raped by showing examples of women who committed suicide after being raped.

The most interesting example is that of Lucrecia’s rape which led into the fall of Roman Monarchy.

With this example, Christine also makes the point that clothes or attitude have nothing to do with being raped, as Tarquinius met Lucrecia when she was knitting with her slaves, wearing demure clothes and she did not even notice Tarquinius presence. This last point is also addressed to women who believe that whenever they maintain the “proper” attitude they will not suffer vexations from men.

Christine also makes the point that we should not judge a woman because she wants to feel beautiful. 

As an example of how appearance should not be judged she speaks about the Apostol Bartolomeo. He enjoyed dressing in silk, and this fact has nothing to do with all the good acts performed by him when he was following Jesus.

I think she makes an interesting point here, and it is very related with nowadays society, where the title “feminist” is given or taken according to whether you decide to wear make-up or wax yourself, same as the title of “respectable women”, which is more related with the length of the skirt.

Before going to the third part, I would like to speak about the reinterpretations of biblical or mythological stories made by Christine. There are more in the book, but I am going to mention only two of them: The story of Judith and the story of the Gorgon, both used to make the point of how evil and dangerous women are.

So, the legend of Judith tells us that, trying to stop the siege of Betulia, her city, Judith seduced Holofernes, the leader of the enemy army. After getting him drunk, she cut his head. It is clear how this story was used to warn men against beautiful women. Nevertheless, Christine focuses on how brave was Judith, as she risked her life by going to the enemy camp and seducing Holofernes.

She also focuses on the wittiness of Judith and in the fact that God was with her, as she succeeded with her plan, and so, she saved God´s chosen people. Then, Christine presents Judith as a hero, and not as an evil seductress.

About the Gorgone, a figure that was used to warn men against women seductive weapons, Christine explains that the origin of this myth was a woman with such deep eyes that made all who look at them to stop breathing for a moment, and due to jealousy people made up the legend.

In the third part of the book, Justice shows Christine who is going to rule the city and who shall be living in the most beautiful towers. Those are the Virgin Mary and all the (female) Saints. 

It is normal that is Justice who should speak about this, as at that time justice was linked with religion. Again, Christine is sending a message to the Church: now the city is full and ruled by worshiped women.

Finally, I think is very interesting to mention that the book is full of Christine´s monologues where she demands to those ungrateful men to shut up and to stop badmouth women.

In these monologues you can see the weariness and the unease Christine is feeling:

[…]Let them be silent! Let them be silent from now on, those writers who malign women and who talk about them in their books and poems. Let them be silent, in their books and poems. Let them be silent, all their accomplices and supporters! They should lower their eyes in shame for having dared to express criticism in the face of the truth, which contradicts their words […]

It is worth saying that she always mentions priests and bishops in these parts, so we can see that for her they lead the oppression against women.

To finish

To finish this entrance of the blog, I would like to leave some parts of the last chapter of the book:

Most honorable ladies, praise be to God: The construction of our city is finally at an end. All of you who love virtue, glory and a fine reputation can now be lodged in great splendor inside its walls, not just women of the past but also those of the present and the future, for this city has been founded and built to accommodate all deserving women.

My dearest ladies, the human heart is naturally filled with joy when it sees that it has triumphed in a particular endeavor and has defeated its enemies.

From this moment on, my ladies, you have every reason to rejoice -in a suitable devout and respectable manner- at seeing the completion of this new city.

It will not only shelter you all, or rather those of you who have proved yourselves to be worthy, but will also defend and protect you against your attackers and assailants, provided you look after it well.

For you can see this is made of virtuous material which shines so brightly that you can gaze at your reflections in it, especially the lofty turrets that were built in this final part of the book […]

I would like to finish the post by thanking Christine de Pizan for everything she started, even though today is still not near the end, and thanks to Victor for all our conversations that little by little are helping me to build my little city.

Note: In that period, many “Arab” authors in Andalusia had treated that subject in their poems. Toledo, though under the dominion of Spanish monarch,  was the center of radiation of translation, culture, education and the living together of all religious sects, to all of Europe

Is reporting sexual assaults increasing proportionally to population increase?

Why Women Don’t Report Sexual Assault

by Kenneth T.

When Christine Blasey Ford came forward to report that President Trump’s Supreme Court nominee, Brett Kavanaugh, sexually assaulted her in 1982, you could cue the response: Why didn’t she speak out then? Why didn’t she go to the police?

There’s a long, long list of reasons why a woman wouldn’t speak out even now, and no doubt it was even more difficult in the pre-Anita Hill world of 1982.

I can’t speak for everyone who has faced sexual assault, but I can speak for myself.

1. At first, I didn’t know that what happened to me was a crime. My first assault occurred in college, 18 years ago. He lived in my dorm. I knew what rape was and didn’t think I’d experienced that. But I didn’t know that sexual violations without consent that aren’t sexual intercourse are also a crime.

2. I couldn’t talk about it. Even now, I can’t describe what happened to my therapist in any detail. What happened involved body parts that are too private to discuss with those closest to me — let alone the police, a judge, or a newspaper. Talking about a past trauma can be re-traumatizing. Some of us cope by staying silent.

3. I blamed myself. I physically resisted for a while and then I froze and it happened. At the time, I told myself that if I really didn’t want it, I would’ve kept fighting. I didn’t know that freezing is a normal human response in a traumatic situation.

4. Afterward, I wanted him to be my boyfriend. My therapist said this was my way of trying to improve the situation. If he was my boyfriend, then what happened could be reinterpreted as meaningful. It’s a perverse response, but it’s apparently not uncommon.

5. I know someone who reported a rape to the police and had a traumatic experience of testifying in court and getting cross-examined by her rapist’s lawyer in front of her rapist. And then the rapist was found innocent. I don’t want that to happen to me.

6. Now, 18 years later, the man who assaulted me is an instructor of neurology at a prominent children’s hospital. He did a terrible thing to me, once, nearly two decades ago. Should I attempt to ruin his career because of it?

The answer to that is: I don’t know. If I thought he was still assaulting women and my speaking out would contribute to making him stop, I would in a heartbeat.

What he did to me 18 years ago still hurts so much that I would only revisit that assault and expose him publicly if there was a very clear purpose to doing so.

I expect if I did attempt to expose him, I’d be attacked. People would say that it wasn’t an assault because I wanted him to be my boyfriend afterward. They would say I wanted it because I froze and stopped fighting. There are good odds I wouldn’t be believed.

I’ll tell you this: Like Christine Blasey Ford, if the man who assaulted me was nominated for the U.S. Supreme Court, I’d speak up. I don’t think a man who violates a woman that way is qualified to rule on cases of violence against women, or any other aspect of their well-being. I don’t think he could be impartial.

When a victim of sexual crimes comes forward, even if it’s decades after the crime took place, we shouldn’t use her past silence against her as “evidence” to discredit her. That urge to discredit is exactly why it takes so long for some to come forward in the first place.


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Associating people with food, sadness with Lemon Pie, pregnancy with strawberry cake…And Qatar, Saudi Arabia…

Donotreply@wordpress.com wrote:

“Have you ever found yourself associating people with the food they bring to gatherings?

Like Rudy, he’s banana pudding with real whipped cream and Nilla Wafers.

Or J is spinach/artichoke dip, or basil, cheese torta (a freaking work of art) and cherry crisp.

Wein is sausage biscuit/meatball thingys, and that’s cool because she’s a vegetarian but she thinks about what other people like first.

M and I equally divide being the queso, and veggie/fruit trays (she has 2.75 kids, I’m just not a great cook or planner). Another friend is black bean and corn salsa.

‎Regret Regret Ya Allah U knows Better ♥

I’m giving this cake a lot of thought, and I think I can trace the inspiration back to a book I read about a year ago called, The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake by Aimee Bender.

It’s about a young girl who can taste the emotions and feelings of anyone who has prepared her food.

This ability begins on her 9th birthday when her mother bakes her a lemon cake filled with particular sadness.

What recommendations would you initiate to your daughters?

جان حنا قنصل. (Jean Hanna Konsol ) posted فادي عزام (Fadi Azaam) article on FB. 23 hrs

من وصايا الكاتب السوري فادي عزام لإبنته …من اروع واجمل وانقى أب يوصي ابنته….

مشاركتها اراها كمن ينهض بمجتمع اقرب للحقيقة السورية الممتلكة لكل حق وخير وجمال… اذ قال…

– إذا تعرضتِ لإبتزاز بحجّة الفضيحة أفضحي الفضيحة.
– ليس مهمًا ما تضعين على رأسكِ بل المهم ماذا تضعين في رأسكِ.
– أخطئي و ﺗﻌﻠﻤﻲ ، ﻣﻦ ﻻ ﻳﻘبلكِ مخطئة ﻟﻦ ﻳقبلكِ ﺃﺑدًا.

– ﺍﻟﻤﺮﺃﺓ ليست مضطهدة ، ﻓﻲ ﻣﺠﺘﻤﻌﺎﺗﻨﺎ ﻫﻨﺎﻙ ﺇﻧﺴﺎﻥ مضطهد ، يعوض ﻧﻘﺼﻪ ﻋﻠﻰ الأضعف ﺟﺴدﻳًﺎ ، ﺃﻭ ﻧﻔﺴﻴًﺎ ( ﺃﺗﻘﻨﻲ أحد فنون ﺍﻟﻘﺘﺎﻝ).
– ﺳﻴﺘﻮﺟﻊ قلبكِ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺃﻭ ﻣﺮﺗﻴﻦ ﺍﻟمُهم ﺃﻥ ﺗﺒﻘﻲ ﻗﺎﺩﺭﺓ على الحب .
– ﻻ ﺗﺘﺰﻭﺟﻲ ﺭجلًا ﻻ ﻳﺤﺒﻪ عقلكِ .

– لا يمكن أن تتحرري و أنتِ غير مستقلة ماديًا ، من يصرف عليك يحكمك بقوانينه.
الرضا جيد بكل شيء إلا بالمعرفة ، و خاصة للمرأة إذا أرادت أن تكون مميزة.
– أستقبلي المديح لجمالك بفرح ، المديح لجسدك بطيبة ، المديح لعقلك بفخر ، و أقتربي ممن يقدّر الثلاثة معًا.

– الفراغ عدوكِ الأول أكسيه بالحركة ، كوني راقصة دائمًا ، لا تتوقفي عن الرقص..
– العلم والثقافة لا يعني المدرسة و لا الجامعة فقط، دائما هناك شيء يمكن أن نتعلمه من أبسط الأشياء ولو من مراقبة نملة.
– لا تضعي نفسك بإطار، و تحاولي أن تشبهي الصورة المتخيلة. كوني فقط أنت مثلما أنت

– لا تخشي الرفض ، من يرفضك بصدق أفضل ممن يقبلك كاذبا.
– ساعدي الرجل ليكون رجلا بأن تحترمي ضعفه ، الرجولة ثمينة يا أبنتي مثلها مثل الأنوثة ، و تذكري أن الفحولة و الذكورة قشور الرجولة ، فأول صفات الرجولة الشهامة.
– الحياة ليست غابة إذا كنت مسلحة بقلب محب وعقل منفتح ويد منتجة.

– بداخلك أيضآ ذكر صامت حاولي أن تنصتي إليه
– أنوثتك لا تعني أن تكوني ضعيفة، بل مُذوقة.
– ليكن لديك دائما مشروع جديد لتبدأيه ، الحياة تبدأ بعد الزواج و تبدأ بعد الطلاق ، ما دمت تتنفسين هناك دائما ثمة بداية .. لا تقولي أبدا لقد انتهيت.

– دائما سيكون هناك الأفضل والأجمل والأشهى. قدّري ما تحصلين عليه فيصبح هو الأشهى. إبتدائآ من “الإسكربينة” و ليس إنتهاء برجل .
– صادقي الصادقين و ليس المميزين .. فكل صادق مميّز و لكن ليس كل مميّز صادق.
– كل امرأة تحلم بحب عظيم ، و كل حب يقوم على التنوير هو حب عظيم بخيمة أو بقصر هذا إجراء لا علاقة له بالحب.

– أن تكوني مرغوبة ، محبوبة ، ملفتة للنظر كل هذا يحدث على السطح المهم أن تكوني قادرة على الاستمرار والفرح حتى بدون كل ذلك.
– الغيرة إن تملّكتك أهلكتك ، الغيرة نار لا يبردها أي ثلج أو تبرير، ثقتك بنفسك بداية الشفاء
الرجل أكثر هشاشة بكثير مما تتصورين ، و المرأة أقوى بكثير مما يحاولون أن يقنعوك به.

– لا تستمعي للنميمة و لا تشاركي بها ، النميمة الصغيرة بداية قطيعة كبيرة.
قد يعارضك الكثير من النساء أكثر من الرجال، تحمليهن فمجتمعنا تعرض لعقود كثيرة من التضليل ، و كلما أرتقيت في العلم أو العمل تعلمي أكثر.
– منتجة الفكر و اليد ، لذيذة الحضور ، مُفتقدة بالغياب ، راقية الكلمة ، محلّقة الخيال ، هذه ليست أكسسوارات ، إنها من سحر الأنوثة.

– لا تقوليها بسهولها و لا تسمعيها بسهولة .. تلك الجملة الساحرة الخارقة التي تتوق إليها جميع الكائنات (أحبك).
– سيدات الأغلفة الجميلات يبقين سيدات أغلفة.
– لا تحاولي كثيرًا فهم الرجل ، ببساطة لأنه ليس لديه ما هو جدير بالفهم إنما بالتفهم.

– شريك الحياة الذي يجعلك خلفه سيتركك ، و الذي يجعلك أمامه سيطعنك ، أمشِ مع من يُبطيء الخطو لتظلي بجانبه ، و مع من يبذل الجهد ليلحقك إن تقدمته.
– عالم الرجل من قش ، و عالمك الداخلي من نار ، تكفي نظرة واحدة حقيقية منك أحيانا لتشعلي كل شيء.
الحياة الواقعية بإنتظارك و لكن لا تدخليها قبل أن تتسلحي بمهنة تحبينها ..

لا تنتقمي ممن خذلك بل تفوقي عليه و سيعتذر لك يوما.

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